Is it exclusion or having healthy boundaries?

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Anonymous wrote:They are allowed to chose their friends and just be respectful to the person they find rude. It's good to politely and firmly let her know when she is being offensive. They don't have to include her, but there should not be any posting on social media about gatherings where this girl isn't invited or talking about it in front of the person who isn't invited. That's where girls create unneeded drama.

I think you raise a good point. So - are kids not allowed to post fun social things they do on social media because it could hurt feelings? What about adults? If someone could feel slighted (rightfully or wrongfully) but a few moms grabbing dinner, do you not post it?

Why does anyone need to post this? It’s just bragging. “Look at me! I’m doing fun stuff with friends!” Why is your kid even on social media? Experts now see it as the smoking issue of today.

100%. Didn't your mother teach you it was rude? It was rude when we were teens to discuss events in front of others when they weren't invited. It's the same thing, just online. I think anyone who does that is completely insecure and still living in middle school mentally. Ok if you really want to share about a special event (I still think that's odd but whatever), but the people who post every other week like they're the only ones who have a social life just because no one else posts. LOLOL. I feel really sorry for them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Parents are so over involved, my god. That was a novel.

Let them invite who they want and learn their own consequences.

I agree. I’ll get over involved if someone is hurting someone but that they choose a rude kid to be their friend is their choice. She probably has something that they like about her but complain about the negative. Their choice if the want to keep her around.

My daughter had a mean friend. There was another girl who hung around with the mean girl but the mean girl as awful to her. I asked her mother why her daughter continues to be friends with the mean girl. She said because when she’s really nice to her she has the best time ever. Kind of sounds like being in an abusive relationship.

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