Mixed feelings about breast augmentation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Probably your DH would also look better with hair transplant, penile enhancement, rhinoplasty, tummy tuck and/or facelift, take a bigger loan.

Always helpful to see an angry, man-hating poster surface. /s

dp.. but it's true. My DH would look better with some lipo on his belly. He looks pregnant. Not attractive. And his penis is quite small. That doesn't mean I don't love him, but objectively, the big belly is not attractive. And lots of women take a hard pass on men with small penises (no pun intended).

He does still have a full head of hair, though.

If men can have standards about their wives body, why can't women have standards for their husbands?

[Anonymous]

I think it’s crappy to express an interest in something to your spouse and then be put out when they’re supportive.

If you want one, get one, if you don’t, don’t. Obviously your husband is fine with your body as is, and he’s be fine with a boob job and the expense. So he’s a non-factor. Figure out what YOU want and leave your poor husband alone.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t do it to please your spouse. I had a lift after nursing and weight loss. Breasts look much better. DH was fine with me getting the lift, but didn’t have a preference either way. I was really disappointed when he didn’t say anything, positive or negative, after the surgery and healing. I thought he would love them and he’s indifferent. I somewhat regret the surgery due to this.

All this to say that you really need to do it for you and not based on what your spouse will think.

[Anonymous]

You could ask him, instead of strangers who have never met him on the internet.

Personally, I would never undergo major surgery (that conest with serious risks, and interferes with the effectiveness of future breast cancer screening) to stave off normal aging.

I feel fortunate that my self worth is not too heavily based upon my appearance.

[Anonymous]

If you have to take out a loan to afford COSMETIC surgery, then it seems like you should not be considering it.

[Anonymous]

This is why women drive men nuts with how they communicate. So you thought it would be a good idea and the girls can use a little extra support. You brought it up to him and...he's agreeable. Yay! That's a win, right?

Of course that's not how women work. You would only have been happy if he said, no, you don't need that. I think you look great how you are, even though you don't think so.

Let the man enjoy the new boobs and enjoy them right with him. What is the matter with you?

[Anonymous]

“You see Peggy, that’s what you call a loaded question. No matter how I answer there’s a bullet in every chamber designed to blow my brains out.”

- Hank Hill

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s crappy to express an interest in something to your spouse and then be put out when they’re supportive.

If you want one, get one, if you don’t, don’t. Obviously your husband is fine with your body as is, and he’s be fine with a boob job and the expense. So he’s a non-factor. Figure out what YOU want and leave your poor husband alone.

100 percent this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After breastfeeding our children, I am considering a breast augmentation. I thought my husband (who loves me and thinks I’m very beautiful) would oppose this, because it’s expensive and obviously artificial. When I brought it up in passing “hey, I think I would look great with a boob job” he asked me how much it costs. Then he said I should look into loans to create a payment plan.

I was a bit surprised he didn’t say no or “you don’t need that” or “you look beautiful, please don’t”. I think I would be happier with a breast augmentation, but I would have probably been okay without it. Now I feel like I should pursue the procedure, because maybe my husband thinks my figure could look better too.

What would you do?

Why is everything from women a trick

[Anonymous]

Alix earle looks amazing

[Anonymous]

Always helpful to see an angry, man-hating poster surface. /s

dp.. but it's true. My DH would look better with some lipo on his belly. He looks pregnant. Not attractive. And his penis is quite small. That doesn't mean I don't love him, but objectively, the big belly is not attractive. And lots of women take a hard pass on men with small penises (no pun intended).

He does still have a full head of hair, though.

If men can have standards about their wives body, why can't women have standards for their husbands?

The post you quoted responded to this prior post:

"Probably your DH would also look better with hair transplant, penile enhancement, rhinoplasty, tummy tuck and/or facelift, take a bigger loan."

That poster took offense based on her perception that the OP's DH's said something hurtful regarding the OP's appearance. All I read was that the OP's DH supported the OP's idea. Not that he, unlike the poster with list (e.g., hair transplant, tummy tuck, etc.) said anything negative about his DW's appearance.

Wives can have standards for their husbands, and vice versa. What are his standards for yours? You seem to have an active list of areas you dislike.

What areas does he have for you? Ease to say your DH needs ____ to look better. It is much more challenging (but more insightful and adult) to understand that he feels you could use _____ procedures to look better.

[Anonymous]

Probably your DH would also look better with hair transplant, penile enhancement, rhinoplasty, tummy tuck and/or facelift, take a bigger loan.

+10000. Next time start suggesting options for him to improve his appearance, OP. The level of utter lack of self awareness and delusion these men have is off the charts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could ask him, instead of strangers who have never met him on the internet.

Personally, I would never undergo major surgery (that conest with serious risks, and interferes with the effectiveness of future breast cancer screening) to stave off normal aging.

I feel fortunate that my self worth is not too heavily based upon my appearance.

She did ask him. That’s the post of her OP. Did you read it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Probably your DH would also look better with hair transplant, penile enhancement, rhinoplasty, tummy tuck and/or facelift, take a bigger loan.

Always helpful to see an angry, man-hating poster surface. /s

Why is this man hating? Are men so physically perfect that they, too, shouldn’t be expected to improve?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“You see Peggy, that’s what you call a loaded question. No matter how I answer there’s a bullet in every chamber designed to blow my brains out.”

- Hank Hill

lol, this is perfect.