Mixed feelings about breast augmentation

[Anonymous]

After breastfeeding our children, I am considering a breast augmentation. I thought my husband (who loves me and thinks I’m very beautiful) would oppose this, because it’s expensive and obviously artificial. When I brought it up in passing “hey, I think I would look great with a boob job” he asked me how much it costs. Then he said I should look into loans to create a payment plan.

I was a bit surprised he didn’t say no or “you don’t need that” or “you look beautiful, please don’t”. I think I would be happier with a breast augmentation, but I would have probably been okay without it. Now I feel like I should pursue the procedure, because maybe my husband thinks my figure could look better too.

What would you do?

[Anonymous]

Everyone loves new toys

[Anonymous]

It’s very possible he’s just trying to support you. I would not get one personally unless I was sure I wanted one, and definitely not if I didn’t want one but I thought my partner might be in favor, but if you would then at least talk to him more.

[Anonymous]

I think he was just trying to be supportive. It’s your choice.

[Anonymous]

Focus on what you want. I’m planning to get one later this year and my DH said it’s fine with him either way. In your case your husband is not pressuring you but he’s just implying he’ll like the results, and he might think he’s being supportive of your wishes. He’s not being a creep and insisting you get enhanced because your boobs aren’t perky anymore. Go for it if that’s what you makes you feel better about yourself.

[Anonymous]

I'd learn to really love my body and find something else to occupy my time like a new hobby or volunteering and not vanity.

[Anonymous]

If you have to take out a loan, you can't afford it. Do not go cheap on your surgery, either. Save the money and use that time to research outcomes and surgeons. This will allow plenty of time for you to consider iif it is worth it to you.

[Anonymous]

I did it after having 3 kids. DH has enjoyed them.

One thing to consider is that they only have a 10-15 year lifespan on average. I've had mine for over 10 years and I'm in my 50s. I can't imagine replacing them and then being 65-70 and hit the average end of the lifespan with the 2nd set. I'm thinking that when the time comes and these break down, I'll just get them removed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did it after having 3 kids. DH has enjoyed them.

One thing to consider is that they only have a 10-15 year lifespan on average. I've had mine for over 10 years and I'm in my 50s. I can't imagine replacing them and then being 65-70 and hit the average end of the lifespan with the 2nd set. I'm thinking that when the time comes and these break down, I'll just get them removed.

Before what happens? I know people who have had theirs for 20 years and they had an MRI and they still look good. And I assume the newer ones are better, not worse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After breastfeeding our children, I am considering a breast augmentation. I thought my husband (who loves me and thinks I’m very beautiful) would oppose this, because it’s expensive and obviously artificial. When I brought it up in passing “hey, I think I would look great with a boob job” he asked me how much it costs. Then he said I should look into loans to create a payment plan.

I was a bit surprised he didn’t say no or “you don’t need that” or “you look beautiful, please don’t”. I think I would be happier with a breast augmentation, but I would have probably been okay without it. Now I feel like I should pursue the procedure, because maybe my husband thinks my figure could look better too.

What would you do?

Imho, simply stupid to go through unnecessary medical procedures for vanity and more so if one is taking loans to pay for it. You two need a therapist and a financial advisor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After breastfeeding our children, I am considering a breast augmentation. I thought my husband (who loves me and thinks I’m very beautiful) would oppose this, because it’s expensive and obviously artificial. When I brought it up in passing “hey, I think I would look great with a boob job” he asked me how much it costs. Then he said I should look into loans to create a payment plan.

I was a bit surprised he didn’t say no or “you don’t need that” or “you look beautiful, please don’t”. I think I would be happier with a breast augmentation, but I would have probably been okay without it. Now I feel like I should pursue the procedure, because maybe my husband thinks my figure could look better too.

What would you do?

Probably your DH would also look better with hair transplant, penile enhancement, rhinoplasty, tummy tuck and/or facelift, take a bigger loan.

[Anonymous]

May be he was trying to be supportive yet using financial aspect to make you rethink it.

[Anonymous]

Well, I got a reduction and lift and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. YMMV

[Anonymous]

I would be annoyed that he didnt give some affirmation about looks.

[Anonymous]

My breasts were flat after nursing two kids back to back. They’re full now (kids are teens). How long ago did you stop nursing? I might wait a little before making any rash decisions