1.5 hours in triage and I was the only person there

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Op again: I’m too emotional to check this anymore. I don’t want to upset myself. I have mixed feelings about everything. Sometimes I was thinking my expectations were too high but it’s medical care and I was pregnant. I tend to be a nice person and make excuses for people and don’t want to bother staff. I did have a doula and we had a babysitter lined up but they both didn’t answer the phone. I tried my best to plan accordingly but births unfortunately don’t go as planned. I think if the doctor acknowledged that I was indeed in active labor after the fact I would have felt better. 30 mins before she was brushing it off and kept saying we don’t know we don’t know we don’t know and then bam baby is here. You can’t have a baby and skip the active labor part.

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File a complaint against the Dr with the medical board and a complaint against the hospital with whatever agency oversees the hospital

There is a good chance the Dr was in the lounge eating his/her lunch and that s/he was not in 2 or 3 back-to-back emergency C-sections, and if s/he was, that volume would suggest the need for more than one OB on call

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:File a complaint against the Dr with the medical board and a complaint against the hospital with whatever agency oversees the hospital

There is a good chance the Dr was in the lounge eating his/her lunch and that s/he was not in 2 or 3 back-to-back emergency C-sections, and if s/he was, that volume would suggest the need for more than one OB on call

And how dare they make all that snow!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP on the one hand, it’s terrible that you didn’t get the care you deserved.

On the other hand, it sounds like you had a fast and smooth delivery that resulted in a healthy baby. So even though you felt they left it too close, you could also say that they assessed that you were doing well and they allocated the people they had the best they could.

I think our brains and bodies experience birth as trauma almost no matter what happens so that could be a factor to. Because it’s traumatic! I wish you had a better experience but try to focus on the good outcome.

This is BS. If she had a cord prolapse or other emergency her baby would be dead. Her instinct that there was neglect is correct. This is a logical fallacy known as survivorship bias.

Also, babies have been dropped on the floor on their head by having a crowning woman walk around and blowing off the moms expressions of concern

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:File a complaint against the Dr with the medical board and a complaint against the hospital with whatever agency oversees the hospital

There is a good chance the Dr was in the lounge eating his/her lunch and that s/he was not in 2 or 3 back-to-back emergency C-sections, and if s/he was, that volume would suggest the need for more than one OB on call

And how dare they make all that snow!

Weird that the snow allows people to leave their shift but not come to shift

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Anonymous wrote:I am the first poster who mentioned shift changes and I understand the need. My mom was in critical care recently and I appreciated the nurses were briefed on her condition which was very serious. She died anyway, but the nurses were great.

People just need to be aware and ask for the random things outside this window. And honestly as long as baby is fine, it doesn’t matter if it gets delivered 20 minutes later or whatever. They monitor everything and will come if there is a real reason. No, don’t ask for water during a shift change, but if the patient’s O2 drops they are right there.

Random things... like giving birth in the L+D floor.

Women excusing bad behavior is why so many are terrorized while giving birth. It is so common it has a term: obstetric violence.

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This was poor planning by management, who failed to fully staff the hospital for non-elective care. They do this because they don't want to pay people to work in at difficult times.

OP, focus on your baby now.

Write down narrative of events of the day, with times and facts, and revisit later when you and baby are in a stable routine. Someone can help you report complaints to overseeing authorities.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP on the one hand, it’s terrible that you didn’t get the care you deserved.

On the other hand, it sounds like you had a fast and smooth delivery that resulted in a healthy baby. So even though you felt they left it too close, you could also say that they assessed that you were doing well and they allocated the people they had the best they could.

I think our brains and bodies experience birth as trauma almost no matter what happens so that could be a factor to. Because it’s traumatic! I wish you had a better experience but try to focus on the good outcome.

Oh my god. I know you are trying to be upbeat for some reason but this is gaslighting to the max. NO. Women are not meant to be ignored while birthing. NO, It is not OK to be asked to HOLD you legs together and walk to prevent the baby from arriving

I hate that trying to be positive about an outcome is now seen as gaslighting. That is not what gaslighting means. Gaslighting would be trying to convince the op that the hospital was caring for her, but she didn’t notice.

Being negative and appalled by every thing that doesn’t go your exact way is destroying our society.

Yesterday was a snowstorm and all schools were closed and many business were closed. My street still hasn’t been plowed as of this morning. It’s plausible that they didn’t have enough nurses and the pp is right…baby is fine. It sucks what the op had to go through but it happened. I delivered on a busy night almost 20 years ago and they had me labor in the waiting room with eager grandparents for over an hour because my room wasn’t ready.

We are humans, all of us. That includes doctors and nurses and hospital staff. Not everything is going to go your way. Let’s focus on the good (healthy baby) and jot harp on the bad.

Laboring an hour in a waiting room is not remotely comparable to almost dropping a baby on the floor in the hallway because she was blown off for 1.5hr when she was going from 8 to 10cm

This is the definition of gaslighting

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Anonymous wrote:Op again: I’m too emotional to check this anymore. I don’t want to upset myself. I have mixed feelings about everything. Sometimes I was thinking my expectations were too high but it’s medical care and I was pregnant. I tend to be a nice person and make excuses for people and don’t want to bother staff. I did have a doula and we had a babysitter lined up but they both didn’t answer the phone. I tried my best to plan accordingly but births unfortunately don’t go as planned. I think if the doctor acknowledged that I was indeed in active labor after the fact I would have felt better. 30 mins before she was brushing it off and kept saying we don’t know we don’t know we don’t know and then bam baby is here. You can’t have a baby and skip the active labor part.

You are entitled to your feelings. Be aware that women make appalling excuses for their treatment. I have no idea why.

I made a complaint about a Dr. who blew off a severe C-section isthmocele on RateMD. The scar was so bad it was starting to spontaneously rupture, which would have killed the baby. He also made a wildly inappropriate sexual joke that caused me to visualize his penis entering my vagina while I was abstaining from sex due to subchorionic hemorrhages. I wrote these in my comment. Another woman responded to my comment defending him! I found out later he was sanctioned by the medical board for neglecting a fetus to death.

Some women like being abused. I cannot explain it.

[Anonymous]

OP my baby is 12 now but my nurse didn’t believe l was dilated and in labor. I was going to be induced but went in to labor myself.

She ignored how l was feeling and tried to give me apple juice and l puked it up immediately, then she checked me and was surprised like oh you’re very dilated and you’re actually in labor. It seemed weird. Like why not check that first?

Sorry that happened to you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know for a fact that a large amount of nurses called out sick yesterday at a hospital in moco.
It left the ER scrambling. Totally unprofessional. This may have been why your care was not good.

Maybe they were… sick? How is that unprofessional?

Nurses aren’t robots.

“Sick” during a medium sized snowstorm. My mom worked in l&d and packed a bag and planned to stay there on days like Monday. The workers now are just so lazy. I’m sorry this happened to you op. No, it’s not normal. Was this at a small hospital? I’m also heard similar stories about VHC. I live in Va, but went to DC to deliver for this reason.

I have a solution for the "lazy" snow problem: offer 3x wages for overtime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP my baby is 12 now but my nurse didn’t believe l was dilated and in labor. I was going to be induced but went in to labor myself.

She ignored how l was feeling and tried to give me apple juice and l puked it up immediately, then she checked me and was surprised like oh you’re very dilated and you’re actually in labor. It seemed weird. Like why not check that first?

Sorry that happened to you.

I had a premature rupture of membranes. I sat down on the toilet and literally at least half a gallon of fluid poured out of me. Paged the midwife who was butthurt she was there and convinced I was full of it. I guess she thought I peed 1/2 gallon of urine???? Did the amnio stick and *surprise* it was amniotic fluid. When the membranes broke it felt like an enormous rubber band popped in me. I had never experienced it before but I knew what it was immediately.

I think obstetrics workers seriously need some kind of psychological screening to remove psycopath traits. Some of these people are genuinely scary bad people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know for a fact that a large amount of nurses called out sick yesterday at a hospital in moco.
It left the ER scrambling. Totally unprofessional. This may have been why your care was not good.

Maybe they were… sick? How is that unprofessional?

Nurses aren’t robots.

“Sick” during a medium sized snowstorm. My mom worked in l&d and packed a bag and planned to stay there on days like Monday. The workers now are just so lazy. I’m sorry this happened to you op. No, it’s not normal. Was this at a small hospital? I’m also heard similar stories about VHC. I live in Va, but went to DC to deliver for this reason.

I have a solution for the "lazy" snow problem: offer 3x wages for overtime.

OP ISN'T IN A PLACE WHERE THERE WAS SNOW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP on the one hand, it’s terrible that you didn’t get the care you deserved.

On the other hand, it sounds like you had a fast and smooth delivery that resulted in a healthy baby. So even though you felt they left it too close, you could also say that they assessed that you were doing well and they allocated the people they had the best they could.

I think our brains and bodies experience birth as trauma almost no matter what happens so that could be a factor to. Because it’s traumatic! I wish you had a better experience but try to focus on the good outcome.

At first I agreed with you because grateful for my own fast and smooth births. I'd still agree with you about OP if nurses had come and explained to her that she's doing well and what to expect while she's waiting for nurse/doctor. As is, that's a bad situation. She's in the hospital, expectation is to follow their rules, wait, etc. Not exactly a place where she knows if she's free to move, ask for something that she needs, etc. Takes a simple birth and makes it an exercise in frustration, needlessly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP on the one hand, it’s terrible that you didn’t get the care you deserved.

On the other hand, it sounds like you had a fast and smooth delivery that resulted in a healthy baby. So even though you felt they left it too close, you could also say that they assessed that you were doing well and they allocated the people they had the best they could.

I think our brains and bodies experience birth as trauma almost no matter what happens so that could be a factor to. Because it’s traumatic! I wish you had a better experience but try to focus on the good outcome.

Oh my god. I know you are trying to be upbeat for some reason but this is gaslighting to the max. NO. Women are not meant to be ignored while birthing. NO, It is not OK to be asked to HOLD you legs together and walk to prevent the baby from arriving

I hate that trying to be positive about an outcome is now seen as gaslighting. That is not what gaslighting means. Gaslighting would be trying to convince the op that the hospital was caring for her, but she didn’t notice.

Being negative and appalled by every thing that doesn’t go your exact way is destroying our society.

Yesterday was a snowstorm and all schools were closed and many business were closed. My street still hasn’t been plowed as of this morning. It’s plausible that they didn’t have enough nurses and the pp is right…baby is fine. It sucks what the op had to go through but it happened. I delivered on a busy night almost 20 years ago and they had me labor in the waiting room with eager grandparents for over an hour because my room wasn’t ready.

We are humans, all of us. That includes doctors and nurses and hospital staff. Not everything is going to go your way. Let’s focus on the good (healthy baby) and jot harp on the bad.

It didn’t happen during the snow storm. They dismissed my pain and my instincts that baby was coming fast. No apologies. No explanation. Nothing. I also don’t think it’s fair to say I’m upset because things didn’t go as planned. Getting basic care like cervix checks is part of everyone’s plan. It’s not like I wanted the lights dimmed and to be listening to eagle music PP. I wanted to know where I was in the labor stage. By the time the doctor checked me I was ready to push. A nurse could have checked me in triage. This hospital shouldn’t be relying on the only doctor on call to do all the cervix checks. When I spoke to the hospital patient advocate she lead me to believe it’s totally normal for the doctor to do all cervix checks to admit women. That has to be BS. What if doctor is in an emergency c section? Apparently the doctor had one around midnight.

My only plan was to give birth to healthy babies. I certainly was not monitoring the number and frequency of cervix checks. I also had the experience of getting a cervix check (it was the first in over 12 hours since I was there overnight). On that last one they were surprised it was time to push since I hadn't made much progress before. So they assembled the birth team and I gave birth within half an hour. It was fine and I had a healthy baby. Presumably they were helping other people give birth

Another pregnancy I was there during a random busy time and was stuck in triage for a while since I wasn't progressing. A few women ended up giving birth in triage. It was just dumb luck- other women had maybe gotten birthing rooms right before them and then they were full. They all had healthy babies and it was fine.