1.5 hours in triage and I was the only person there

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I am the first poster who mentioned shift changes and I understand the need. My mom was in critical care recently and I appreciated the nurses were briefed on her condition which was very serious. She died anyway, but the nurses were great.

People just need to be aware and ask for the random things outside this window. And honestly as long as baby is fine, it doesn’t matter if it gets delivered 20 minutes later or whatever. They monitor everything and will come if there is a real reason. No, don’t ask for water during a shift change, but if the patient’s O2 drops they are right there.

[Anonymous]

Also hospitals are doing more remote monitoring. Rather than have someone come in, we had a virtual nurse who would scan things with a videocamera and also do the machine monitoring. It was so much less disruptive! Just because you don’t see them doesn’t mean you aren’t getting care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP on the one hand, it’s terrible that you didn’t get the care you deserved.

On the other hand, it sounds like you had a fast and smooth delivery that resulted in a healthy baby. So even though you felt they left it too close, you could also say that they assessed that you were doing well and they allocated the people they had the best they could.

I think our brains and bodies experience birth as trauma almost no matter what happens so that could be a factor to. Because it’s traumatic! I wish you had a better experience but try to focus on the good outcome.

Oh my god. I know you are trying to be upbeat for some reason but this is gaslighting to the max. NO. Women are not meant to be ignored while birthing. NO, It is not OK to be asked to HOLD you legs together and walk to prevent the baby from arriving

I hate that trying to be positive about an outcome is now seen as gaslighting. That is not what gaslighting means. Gaslighting would be trying to convince the op that the hospital was caring for her, but she didn’t notice.

Being negative and appalled by every thing that doesn’t go your exact way is destroying our society.

Yesterday was a snowstorm and all schools were closed and many business were closed. My street still hasn’t been plowed as of this morning. It’s plausible that they didn’t have enough nurses and the pp is right…baby is fine. It sucks what the op had to go through but it happened. I delivered on a busy night almost 20 years ago and they had me labor in the waiting room with eager grandparents for over an hour because my room wasn’t ready.

We are humans, all of us. That includes doctors and nurses and hospital staff. Not everything is going to go your way. Let’s focus on the good (healthy baby) and jot harp on the bad.

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*not

[Anonymous]

Our system for caring for pregnant women and birthing babies is broken and over medicalized. The high risk women don't get the care they need and routine, low risk births don't get the support and humanity needed. It's horrible

[Anonymous]

OP, you don't know the full story of what was happening while you were waiting to be seen. Medical emergencies happen during childbirth and the staff may have been focused on saving someone's life instead of you who not only appeared stable, but truly was stable since you are alive and well enough to share your story. If you had presented as an emergency, you would have had more staff around you.

Since they didn't know how dilated you were until after you walked to the room, then the question they asked about your walking ability was valid. You could have said no and waited while they found a wheelchair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP on the one hand, it’s terrible that you didn’t get the care you deserved.

On the other hand, it sounds like you had a fast and smooth delivery that resulted in a healthy baby. So even though you felt they left it too close, you could also say that they assessed that you were doing well and they allocated the people they had the best they could.

I think our brains and bodies experience birth as trauma almost no matter what happens so that could be a factor to. Because it’s traumatic! I wish you had a better experience but try to focus on the good outcome.

+1 please don't harp on this. Unless you wish to warn others but it sounds like a one-off because of the snow maybe. Enjoy your healthy baby. Well done walking with a baby almost dangling out. What a story to tell it! Mom is tough!

+1
Sounds like a one off bc of the snow. Also I assume you had multiple monitors on? I have 4 kids, and believe me, if something showed up concerning, they would have been in to you quickly. It’s normal to only have one attending. The nurses do most of the work. You also should have been honest that you didn’t know if you could walk. Don’t be a martyr.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I live out of state now and it happened between 2 am-3:30 am in the morning. The snow wasn’t a factor. Also the doctor said a few times we don’t know what’s going on yet and would leave the room. She probably was going back and forth but they could have checked my cervix and monitored the contractions. She came one or twice to speak briefly from the doorway. I told them the contractions were coming really fast and they had me hooked up to monitor them, but doctor or nurse wasn’t looking at the screen. My husband who was also with our other child was telling them I have a history of fasts births. I was trying my best to advocate for myself. Unfortunately, my doula and babysitter didn’t pick up the phone so we had to go to the hospital with our child and I gave birth without any support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know for a fact that a large amount of nurses called out sick yesterday at a hospital in moco.
It left the ER scrambling. Totally unprofessional. This may have been why your care was not good.

Maybe they were… sick? How is that unprofessional?

Nurses aren’t robots.

“Sick” during a medium sized snowstorm. My mom worked in l&d and packed a bag and planned to stay there on days like Monday. The workers now are just so lazy. I’m sorry this happened to you op. No, it’s not normal. Was this at a small hospital? I’m also heard similar stories about VHC. I live in Va, but went to DC to deliver for this reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I live out of state now and it happened between 2 am-3:30 am in the morning. The snow wasn’t a factor. Also the doctor said a few times we don’t know what’s going on yet and would leave the room. She probably was going back and forth but they could have checked my cervix and monitored the contractions. She came one or twice to speak briefly from the doorway. I told them the contractions were coming really fast and they had me hooked up to monitor them, but doctor or nurse wasn’t looking at the screen. My husband who was also with our other child was telling them I have a history of fasts births. I was trying my best to advocate for myself. Unfortunately, my doula and babysitter didn’t pick up the phone so we had to go to the hospital with our child and I gave birth without any support.

This is horrible. I’m glad you and baby were ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP on the one hand, it’s terrible that you didn’t get the care you deserved.

On the other hand, it sounds like you had a fast and smooth delivery that resulted in a healthy baby. So even though you felt they left it too close, you could also say that they assessed that you were doing well and they allocated the people they had the best they could.

I think our brains and bodies experience birth as trauma almost no matter what happens so that could be a factor to. Because it’s traumatic! I wish you had a better experience but try to focus on the good outcome.

+1 please don't harp on this. Unless you wish to warn others but it sounds like a one-off because of the snow maybe. Enjoy your healthy baby. Well done walking with a baby almost dangling out. What a story to tell it! Mom is tough!

+1
Sounds like a one off bc of the snow. Also I assume you had multiple monitors on? I have 4 kids, and believe me, if something showed up concerning, they would have been in to you quickly. It’s normal to only have one attending. The nurses do most of the work. You also should have been honest that you didn’t know if you could walk. Don’t be a martyr.

It’s not easy to assess and advocate for yourself minutes before giving birth, especially if it’s the first time and you have no idea what’s normal. That’s why some women get doulas. It sounds like the hospital was just short staffed though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP on the one hand, it’s terrible that you didn’t get the care you deserved.

On the other hand, it sounds like you had a fast and smooth delivery that resulted in a healthy baby. So even though you felt they left it too close, you could also say that they assessed that you were doing well and they allocated the people they had the best they could.

I think our brains and bodies experience birth as trauma almost no matter what happens so that could be a factor to. Because it’s traumatic! I wish you had a better experience but try to focus on the good outcome.

Oh my god. I know you are trying to be upbeat for some reason but this is gaslighting to the max. NO. Women are not meant to be ignored while birthing. NO, It is not OK to be asked to HOLD you legs together and walk to prevent the baby from arriving

I hate that trying to be positive about an outcome is now seen as gaslighting. That is not what gaslighting means. Gaslighting would be trying to convince the op that the hospital was caring for her, but she didn’t notice.

Being negative and appalled by every thing that doesn’t go your exact way is destroying our society.

Yesterday was a snowstorm and all schools were closed and many business were closed. My street still hasn’t been plowed as of this morning. It’s plausible that they didn’t have enough nurses and the pp is right…baby is fine. It sucks what the op had to go through but it happened. I delivered on a busy night almost 20 years ago and they had me labor in the waiting room with eager grandparents for over an hour because my room wasn’t ready.

We are humans, all of us. That includes doctors and nurses and hospital staff. Not everything is going to go your way. Let’s focus on the good (healthy baby) and jot harp on the bad.

It didn’t happen during the snow storm. They dismissed my pain and my instincts that baby was coming fast. No apologies. No explanation. Nothing. I also don’t think it’s fair to say I’m upset because things didn’t go as planned. Getting basic care like cervix checks is part of everyone’s plan. It’s not like I wanted the lights dimmed and to be listening to eagle music PP. I wanted to know where I was in the labor stage. By the time the doctor checked me I was ready to push. A nurse could have checked me in triage. This hospital shouldn’t be relying on the only doctor on call to do all the cervix checks. When I spoke to the hospital patient advocate she lead me to believe it’s totally normal for the doctor to do all cervix checks to admit women. That has to be BS. What if doctor is in an emergency c section? Apparently the doctor had one around midnight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP on the one hand, it’s terrible that you didn’t get the care you deserved.

On the other hand, it sounds like you had a fast and smooth delivery that resulted in a healthy baby. So even though you felt they left it too close, you could also say that they assessed that you were doing well and they allocated the people they had the best they could.


I think our brains and bodies experience birth as trauma almost no matter what happens so that could be a factor to. Because it’s traumatic! I wish you had a better experience but try to focus on the good outcome.

+1 please don't harp on this. Unless you wish to warn others but it sounds like a one-off because of the snow maybe. Enjoy your healthy baby. Well done walking with a baby almost dangling out. What a story to tell it! Mom is tough!

+1
Sounds like a one off bc of the snow. Also I assume you had multiple monitors on? I have 4 kids, and believe me, if something showed up concerning, they would have been in to you quickly. It’s normal to only have one attending. The nurses do most of the work. You also should have been honest that you didn’t know if you could walk. Don’t be a martyr.

Don’t be a bit** how was I supposed to know if I could or couldn’t walk with a baby ready to come out. It not like it’s an everyday thing. It was probably better then I delivered in an actual delivery room. I’m assuming the doctor had access to equipment and it would have been a smoother experience. The doctor wasn’t even in triage when I was walking down the hall. I told the nurse I was ready to push and she said oh no do you think you can walk and I said I didn’t know but could try. I wanted to get the doctor involved asap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know for a fact that a large amount of nurses called out sick yesterday at a hospital in moco.
It left the ER scrambling. Totally unprofessional. This may have been why your care was not good.

Maybe they were… sick? How is that unprofessional?

Nurses aren’t robots.

“Sick” during a medium sized snowstorm. My mom worked in l&d and packed a bag and planned to stay there on days like Monday. The workers now are just so lazy. I’m sorry this happened to you op. No, it’s not normal. Was this at a small hospital? I’m also heard similar stories about VHC. I live in Va, but went to DC to deliver for this reason.

Op here. Small hospital and new to the area. It was the hospital my Obgyn works with. I’m coming at this to help others. I was thinking about leveling a review online and maybe posting something in a moms group. I asked around but no one delivered at this particular hospital. On one hand my labor was super fast but waiting 1.5 hours to get the first cervix check seems insane to me especially since I was complaining of pain and fast contractions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I live out of state now and it happened between 2 am-3:30 am in the morning. The snow wasn’t a factor. Also the doctor said a few times we don’t know what’s going on yet and would leave the room. She probably was going back and forth but they could have checked my cervix and monitored the contractions. She came one or twice to speak briefly from the doorway. I told them the contractions were coming really fast and they had me hooked up to monitor them, but doctor or nurse wasn’t looking at the screen. My husband who was also with our other child was telling them I have a history of fasts births. I was trying my best to advocate for myself. Unfortunately, my doula and babysitter didn’t pick up the phone so we had to go to the hospital with our child and I gave birth without any support.

Big hugs to you, OP. It sounds like they ignored your comments, and things could easily have gone south. I am sorry you had this experience. You and your baby were delivered safely, no thanks to this hospital.

My mother also gave birth to me really fast and she was ignored.