DH never says no to sex

[Anonymous]

He rarely says no and I'm the same way. But, my husband is really good at laying the groundwork in advance so it is never a last minute surprise. If he gets me thinking about it in the morning that helps get me in the mood so even if its a crazy day I'm not going to say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is weird, no? The other day we went skiing and he had a bad fall and hurt himself. Later we were lounging back at the condo and I suggested sex. At first he said no he is too sore and I was fine with it. But then 20 min later he was like, does the offer still stand??? Lmao. Poor thing was obviously struggling too.

I got to thinking about it and he has literally never said no to sex in 20 years. Meanwhile, I sometimes make up having a “bad period” when I don’t feel like it.

Is this normal for men and women? It makes me feel kinda bad for men.

I am going to try and be kind, but is this news to you? Men have much higher sex drives than women. It is literally in their DNA to spread their seed.

OP here. Not really, I’ve always known that he wants sex more often then I do (which is why I’m usually or at least often the initiator) but it surprised me when he even wanted it after falling and scraping up his arm pretty bad. Plus he is late 40s and he has started to settle down a bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is weird, no? The other day we went skiing and he had a bad fall and hurt himself. Later we were lounging back at the condo and I suggested sex. At first he said no he is too sore and I was fine with it. But then 20 min later he was like, does the offer still stand??? Lmao. Poor thing was obviously struggling too.

I got to thinking about it and he has literally never said no to sex in 20 years. Meanwhile, I sometimes make up having a “bad period” when I don’t feel like it.

Is this normal for men and women? It makes me feel kinda bad for men.

Oh you should see what happens when you say no to a woman.

[Anonymous]

If your Johnson is still working you are most less likely to say No. But if you have reached that point where your Johnson is not always reliable and you are in denial (is refusing to see a doc for Viagra) then you will look for excuses to say No. Women don't always understand the "trauma" that men go through when their Johnson is no longer reliable. If you are a man Our culture emphasizes your erection and size when it comes to sex. When your erection is no longer reliable even your own wife will start putting pressure on you to get it fixed. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Finally divorced after years of being rejected by my husband who refused to get tested for Low T or other issues. It's great to see all of these responses - and gives me hope I'll have fun again when I start dating, it's been a very, very long dry spell!

Call me when you’re ready! I promise never to reject you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In almost forty years with a HL wife, I have never said no that I can recall. I figure it’s my duty, and it’s a pleasant one!

+1

Reject sex, yes. Reject sex with my wife, never.

Whoa who are you rejecting then?

[Anonymous]

No guy ever rejects sex. It just doesn’t happen.

[Anonymous]

Married for 25 years, my H never said no and I never said no, not once. However, eventually H stopped initiating and after awhile I realized it so I stopped initiating too, wanting to see if he had lost the desire for me. After that we had no sex. Maybe once or twice a year. The last five years, zero sex. We got divorced and in the years since then he has barely dated and not been in any relationships while I have had several intensely sexual relationships and never stop wanting it. I think he had low T.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your Johnson is still working you are most less likely to say No. But if you have reached that point where your Johnson is not always reliable and you are in denial (is refusing to see a doc for Viagra) then you will look for excuses to say No. Women don't always understand the "trauma" that men go through when their Johnson is no longer reliable. If you are a man Our culture emphasizes your erection and size when it comes to sex. When your erection is no longer reliable even your own wife will start putting pressure on you to get it fixed. It is what it is.

I’m lucky that when my husband’s Johnson started to fade it wasn’t long before he tried viagra. It’s such an easy solution and no man should be embarrassed. It stays firm a long time which really adds to the enjoyment for both of us.

[Anonymous]

My 60 yr old husband could be in the hospital in traction, and still wouldn’t refuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 60 yr old husband could be in the hospital in traction, and still wouldn’t refuse.

Well, some of the nurses are pretty hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In almost forty years with a HL wife, I have never said no that I can recall. I figure it’s my duty, and it’s a pleasant one!

+1

Reject sex, yes. Reject sex with my wife, never.

Whoa who are you rejecting then?

Woman who aren’t my wife that offer.

[Anonymous]

Unless he’s in a full body cast a man would be an idiot to say no when a wife initiates. When my wife initiates I know the sex is going to be very “enthusiastic”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here: my DW never initiates, so this is a kind of a theoretical question, but I can see turning her down in cases of illness or rather extreme fatigue. Most men are up for sex 95%+ of the time so this is quite normal. In the scenario you posit, he wasn’t horny at that moment, but the mere mention of sex changed that relatively quickly. This too is normal. Sex is an ever present desire for most men in ways most women don’t understand. Low T can change that a lot though, as can SSRIs

Not when the wife is fat

Nope, that doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You all are very lucky!

- wife to a guy with no s** drive (who I love, but things are what they are)

+1