I don’t like his natural scent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t like my boyfriend’s natural body odor. It’s the way he smells when he sweats a little. Do others think this is a big deal? I’m used to enjoying my partner’s natural scent. I like everything else about him.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Major_histocompatibility_complex_and_sexual_selection

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not waste your time with this person. I ignored it. It was a big mistake. Our kids do have many health issues. Also it’s really hard to stay attracted to someone when their scent is gross to you…

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[Anonymous]

FFS, the people instantly saying "break up" and those waffling on about how you're "genetically incompatible" are just here to get jollies from telling a total stranger to dump her boyfriend.

The PP who actually replied in a mature and nuanced way is the one to heed, OP. People's scents can change over time; would you actually drop this man -- if all else is good, you share interests, you enjoy being with him etc. -- JUST on this one basis? That would be your prerogative but it seems extremely immature to me, and like you wouldn't love him enough to talk with him openly and work together to mitigate the scent. If you're in this for the long haul, his scent also may change.

Diet (does he eat a lot of garlic? Its scent can be exuded via sweat) can be the culprit. Or alcohol. If you actually care for him, and are not just there for the sex, why would you ditch him (as some here insist) rather than, you know, helping the person you love?

https://health.osu.edu/health/skin-and-body/5-foods-and-drinks-that-affect-body-odor
"Five Foods and Drink That Affect Body Odor" and yes, they include healthy foods, and alcohol

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/17865-body-odor

You also said he drinks -- how much, really? Is it daily? Body odor can actually signal that a person is abusing alcohol, OP. Look it up.

And someone above rightly mentioned diabetes. If he smells sweet/fruity and/or like acetone (nail polish remover kind of scent), those are scents commonly associated with diabetes -- uncontrolled diabetes, which is dangerous. In which case, get him to a doctor ASAP.

If you love the guy, you'd be more concerned about his health/diet/lifestyle and wanting him to be well. If you're a serious couple, and you and he togehter rule out other causes or problems, then you accept it's just his baseline odor, and you get him some products you both like, and you deal. If you are just casual BF/GF and you're really mostly about sex, and not looking for an actual relationship, then yes, split up. But as someone also said above: You can't order a partner's traits a la carte.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your body is telling you he’s not the man for you. Don’t talk yourself into him.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thats a aign you arent genetically compatible.

+1 I can’t imagine being with someone in this case

[Anonymous]

This is so interesting. I adore my BFs scent and it is amazing to him bc his ex couldn’t stand it. Like I will lick him after he has come from the gym. I do think there’s a chemical component to it. Even smells I dislike, like grapefruit, I like on him.

[Anonymous]

Does the pheromone/genetics thing apply if you're dating and older/no longer fertile? Serious question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t like my boyfriend’s natural body odor. It’s the way he smells when he sweats a little. Do others think this is a big deal? I’m used to enjoying my partner’s natural scent. I like everything else about him.

We need to accept people as they are, we can't a la carte partners. I'm sure there are things about you he finds not as good as his previous partners.

That being said, buy him shampoo, conditioner, body wash, deodorant, cologne, hair fragrance, lotion etc with scents you can enjoy. That is if he is willing to use all those chemicals to smell like your previous boyfriend.

Don’t do any of this. Pee on a stick first and foremost. Yes pee on a stick. If that’s good 🏃. Get away from him as fast as you can. That stink is either some kind of whole man infection or a health issue. Just run. Don’t ask no questions. Run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does the pheromone/genetics thing apply if you're dating and older/no longer fertile? Serious question.

No, but you’re still going to think he stinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thats a aign you arent genetically compatible.

I don't know if you're joking or not but it absolutely is a sign telling you not to procreate with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You probably have to break up, but it's worth exploring if it's something related to his diet, alcohol intake, etc.

It’s well documented that if someone eats a lot of animal foods, they stink. If he changes his diet to a healthier one, he will smell better. If he doesn’t, then you are forever repulsed.

[Anonymous]

He isn’t the one for you. The right one will smell amazing to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be aware that people's natural scents change for a variety of reasons and with age. About 20 years into our marriage, I started to be annoyed by the scent of DH, and I am also really repelled by the scent of one of my kids post-puberty.

Would I abandon either of them because of my sensitive nose? Of course not. But I have taken measures to mitigate it.

+1 This is me, too! I’ve wondered if I’m just super sensitive to certain smells, but I think hormones and pheromones work in mysterious ways.

Can’t relate. I’ve been with my husband for 25 years and adore his smell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t like my boyfriend’s natural body odor. It’s the way he smells when he sweats a little. Do others think this is a big deal? I’m used to enjoying my partner’s natural scent. I like everything else about him.

We need to accept people as they are, we can't a la carte partners. I'm sure there are things about you he finds not as good as his previous partners.

No way. This is a boyfriend she has seen for just a couple months. Move on.

[Anonymous]

DTMFA OP. Not compatible + run from heavy drinkers. Move on.