I don’t like his natural scent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be aware that people's natural scents change for a variety of reasons and with age. About 20 years into our marriage, I started to be annoyed by the scent of DH, and I am also really repelled by the scent of one of my kids post-puberty.

Would I abandon either of them because of my sensitive nose? Of course not. But I have taken measures to mitigate it.

This is a very good point

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be aware that people's natural scents change for a variety of reasons and with age. About 20 years into our marriage, I started to be annoyed by the scent of DH, and I am also really repelled by the scent of one of my kids post-puberty.

Would I abandon either of them because of my sensitive nose? Of course not. But I have taken measures to mitigate it.

My mother used to always comment on how one of my HS boyfriends smelled, like he had a smelly cloud that followed him around. I was so offended because I couldn’t smell anything, to me he smelled wonderful! My dad and my siblings couldn’t smell it, either. But my mom insisted it made her want to gag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How long have you been together?

We are new, just 3 months.

Break up. You’re not compatible; you’re just caught up in the newness of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be aware that people's natural scents change for a variety of reasons and with age. About 20 years into our marriage, I started to be annoyed by the scent of DH, and I am also really repelled by the scent of one of my kids post-puberty.

Would I abandon either of them because of my sensitive nose? Of course not. But I have taken measures to mitigate it.

+1 This is me, too! I’ve wondered if I’m just super sensitive to certain smells, but I think hormones and pheromones work in mysterious ways.

[Anonymous]

I once had a boyfriend whose natural scent I couldn’t stand. That and his laugh still make me cringe. Nice guy, just completely incompatible on a chemical level and turned me off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be aware that people's natural scents change for a variety of reasons and with age. About 20 years into our marriage, I started to be annoyed by the scent of DH, and I am also really repelled by the scent of one of my kids post-puberty.

Would I abandon either of them because of my sensitive nose? Of course not. But I have taken measures to mitigate it.

My exH started smelling disgusting after around age 55. It weirdly coincided with the time he cheated and was sleeping with a work colleague. He would come from business trips and I couldn’t stand the scent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thats a aign you arent genetically compatible.

This. It's pheromones, it's not going to change. I love my husband's scent.

Weird story -- I was on birth control pills when I started dating a long time boyfriend. After a couple years I stopped taking the pills, and I also started disliking his scent. We ended up breaking up (not directly related to that, but we weren't compatible long term).

[Anonymous]

Does he drink a lot of alcohol?

[Anonymous]

Are you on hormonal birth control?

[Anonymous]

He drinks a fair amount of alcohol. I’m not on birth control.

[Anonymous]

Your body is telling you he’s not the man for you. Don’t talk yourself into him.

[Anonymous]

Do not waste your time with this person. I ignored it. It was a big mistake. Our kids do have many health issues. Also it’s really hard to stay attracted to someone when their scent is gross to you…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t like my boyfriend’s natural body odor. It’s the way he smells when he sweats a little. Do others think this is a big deal? I’m used to enjoying my partner’s natural scent. I like everything else about him.

We need to accept people as they are, we can't a la carte partners. I'm sure there are things about you he finds not as good as his previous partners.

That being said, buy him shampoo, conditioner, body wash, deodorant, cologne, hair fragrance, lotion etc with scents you can enjoy. That is if he is willing to use all those chemicals to smell like your previous boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He drinks a fair amount of alcohol. I’m not on birth control.

Why aren't you on birth control with someone who drinks and whose smell you can't stand? Expiry date of biological window?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once had a boyfriend whose natural scent I couldn’t stand. That and his laugh still make me cringe. Nice guy, just completely incompatible on a chemical level and turned me off.

Those two things are often easily detected on first one or two dates, why go into relationship and dump people for things they can't control?