SMBC in early 40s?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you made your decision OP. Good for you for doing the research!
Just another opinion. I am a SMBC and I have a friend who is divorced (amicably) with a tween. She decided to become an SMBC and her kids get along great and there are no issues regarding one having a dad and the other not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you made your decision OP. Good for you for doing the research!
Just another opinion. I am a SMBC and I have a friend who is divorced (amicably) with a tween. She decided to become an SMBC and her kids get along great and there are no issues regarding one having a dad and the other not.

Not the OP, but this gives me hope!

[Anonymous]

If your kid is in elementary you’ve forgotten how hard a baby is. Don’t do this to yourself or your kid. Youre mourning the end of your fertility and family you imagined. This is something all women have to grapple with. Work through this in therapy and be the best parent to the child you were blessed with.

[Anonymous]

No way. It's not actually easy to have a kid at 41 and that wouldn't be a net positive for your existing kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I appreciate the responses, and am trying to be realistic.

I have a stable home, if you consider a single adult with zero debt and plenty of assets and a strong income to be stable.

I have no partner (or desire for one) but at 41, I definitely don't have fertility time to find a partner. I'd conceive with donor sperm. I'm starting to listen to the stories of donor-conceived people to educate myself. I recognize single parenting by choice is challenging in ways that are different than co-parenting an older kid with my ex.

Curious if the SMBC on here had prior or subsequent children with partners and what the dynamics of that looked like.

Does your ex pay for child support ? Or did he refuse supper? (Or fight you for custody so he didn’t have to pay child support or any variation of how that goes)? I am just wondering where the first dad is in all of this— and if he will be cooperative around the half-sibling of his child. They are likely to be around eachother.

[Anonymous]

support (not “supper”). I am assuming he pays?

[Anonymous]