Possible Sexual Abuse

[Anonymous]

I would also add that it's essential to listen to your children. They may be too young to have the words to describe things that have happened, but they can tell you if there's an adult they aren't comfortable being around.

If they express discomfort around a specific adult, even someone close like a family member or teacher, it's worth digging into. Children who are believed have the best outcomes in terms of their mental health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This should be a sticky

It should also be shared with every NCRC family.

+1,000,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would also add that it's essential to listen to your children. They may be too young to have the words to describe things that have happened, but they can tell you if there's an adult they aren't comfortable being around.

If they express discomfort around a specific adult, even someone close like a family member or teacher, it's worth digging into. Children who are believed have the best outcomes in terms of their mental health.

+1 to this. It's imperative not to teach a child to override his/her instincts on people to be polite or deferential. Making him kiss old auntie Maude only teaches them that adults get to decide who he touches, not him.

Best parenting educator I know said the minute her young daughter said a family friend "creeped her out," she told her she never had to be around him again. She had every urge to say "Him? But he's so nice!" but knew it was a moment to empower her child to trust her instincts and learn that her mother had her back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was WHC ever held responsibile for anything? My DC was there during the time, and no one interviewed us. I never felt it was handled well, and rules were broken. No adult should have been alone with the children. That is why there were 2 teachers for every class.

The two teacher rule is impossible the entire time your child is at preschool. I’ll give you an example. Let’s say the entire class is playing outside and a child falls and scratches himself and needs a bandaid or whatever, do you think the entire class goes in with that child and teacher? Nope.
As far as the Washington Hebrew situation, there was no evidence of anything and case was tossed out.
This case, the HOS seems like he has a mountain of evidence against him.

[Anonymous]

86 percent of abuse is reported? That seems very high

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:86 percent of abuse is reported? That seems very high

No one can even estimate how much gets left unreported. One can easily suspect that 86% of abuse remains unreported.

The current legal system is massively hostile to victims of every kind. Who wants to deal with that? Criminals are more likely to be showered with compassion, understanding and “soft on crime” prosecutors.

That must change. Wake up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would also add that it's essential to listen to your children. They may be too young to have the words to describe things that have happened, but they can tell you if there's an adult they aren't comfortable being around.

If they express discomfort around a specific adult, even someone close like a family member or teacher, it's worth digging into. Children who are believed have the best outcomes in terms of their mental health.

+1 to this. It's imperative not to teach a child to override his/her instincts on people to be polite or deferential. Making him kiss old auntie Maude only teaches them that adults get to decide who he touches, not him.

Best parenting educator I know said the minute her young daughter said a family friend "creeped her out," she told her she never had to be around him again. She had every urge to say "Him? But he's so nice!" but knew it was a moment to empower her child to trust her instincts and learn that her mother had her back.

This is all good advice, but IMO parents regularly put their kids in situations that they shouldn’t be in. Of course you can’t control a situation at school, but why do parents allow their children to go to sleepovers? When I was a kid, sleepovers and unsupervised birthday parties is where a lot of things happened. Even sleepovers with family members’ children is a bad idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was WHC ever held responsibile for anything? My DC was there during the time, and no one interviewed us. I never felt it was handled well, and rules were broken. No adult should have been alone with the children. That is why there were 2 teachers for every class.

The two teacher rule is impossible the entire time your child is at preschool. I’ll give you an example. Let’s say the entire class is playing outside and a child falls and scratches himself and needs a bandaid or whatever, do you think the entire class goes in with that child and teacher? Nope.
As far as the Washington Hebrew situation, there was no evidence of anything and case was tossed out.
This case, the HOS seems like he has a mountain of evidence against him.

OSSE Launched an investigation into Washington Hebrew, and in a letter dated 11/7/2018 confirmed four cases of abuse, and cited Jordan Silverman (a former teacher) as the abuser. A CNN article from July, 2, 2019 reported on OSSE’s findings and printed Silverman’s name. CNN obtained the letter through a FOIA request. DC MPD failed at their responsibility to arrest him, given confirmation and proof of abuse was determined- OSSE is a government organization. A government organization confirmed he abused at least four children.
An attorney from the USAO stated ’you can’t put a three year old on the witness stand.’ Which is disgusting. They could have used OSSE’s investigation as part of a criminal case. The mishandling of that case should be investigated- but I doubt the police are going to investigate themselves.
The police stated the case could be reopened at any time. Sadly, I think the only way justice will be served in the Washington Hebrew case is for public pressure for an arrest. Proof exists, it’d be nice is the police and the USAO did their job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:86 percent of abuse is reported? That seems very high

No one can even estimate how much gets left unreported. One can easily suspect that 86% of abuse remains unreported.

The current legal system is massively hostile to victims of every kind. Who wants to deal with that? Criminals are more likely to be showered with compassion, understanding and “soft on crime” prosecutors.

That must change. Wake up.

Exactly. Listening to children takes lots of time and patience. Often you need to carefully observe your child to notice something just isn’t right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:86 percent of abuse is reported? That seems very high

No one can even estimate how much gets left unreported. One can easily suspect that 86% of abuse remains unreported.

The current legal system is massively hostile to victims of every kind. Who wants to deal with that? Criminals are more likely to be showered with compassion, understanding and “soft on crime” prosecutors.

That must change. Wake up.

Before it was listed here that 86 percent of cases WERE reported. Maybe it was a mistake and they meant only 14 percent were reported.

[Anonymous]

Allegedly, the male teacher from Washington Hebrew child abuse scandal is currently working at another school (this time in Virginia). I say allegedly, as I was told this by someone close to that particular case. I don’t know which school. But if true, then this new school needs to be warned. If the above poster is correct, and a government agency (OSSE) confirmed abuse, I can’t see it as defamation to politely suggest to the school that they do a google search regarding this person. Or obtain that OSSE letter themselves. They’d probably want to know. But I’m not an attorney.
When you prey on children that young, and the police do nothing, the cycle of abuse will continue.