“You will miss this when your kids are grown”

[Anonymous]

This is a stupid thing to say because it's literally just a comment on how we always miss certain great times in our life fondly. People get nostalgic for their own you or their kid's youth. We will miss the time when our bodies were young and resilient. I already sometimes miss having less responsibility at work or at home and the freedom that went with being single and childless. Sometimes I miss college and grad school because being a student really suited me.

So yeah obviously I will miss lots of things about my kid being young. This is self-evident. I will also be relieved about some of it ending in the same way I was relieved to finally graduate school and start my career or get married and say goodbye to singlehood.

I mean this is really the most banal commentary on the passage of time not some profound commentary on parenthood. People who say stuff like this are just looking for stuff to say and are probably generally quite dull.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

+1

I remind myself how short it is every time it gets stressful/exhausting. I truly will miss endless hours in the car going places, watching them try their hardest in a game in the pouring rain, etc.

I tell you something I won't miss -- other moms being smug and myopic. That got old fast though.

[Anonymous]

The best thing my mom ever told me when I had kids was that she hated being a mom and didn't miss a single second of it. It helped me to realize that not loving being a mom is fine, and thinking otherwise is largely a cultural expectation.

[Anonymous]

News flash: you WON’T miss it!😀

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a stupid thing to say because it's literally just a comment on how we always miss certain great times in our life fondly. People get nostalgic for their own you or their kid's youth. We will miss the time when our bodies were young and resilient. I already sometimes miss having less responsibility at work or at home and the freedom that went with being single and childless. Sometimes I miss college and grad school because being a student really suited me.

So yeah obviously I will miss lots of things about my kid being young. This is self-evident. I will also be relieved about some of it ending in the same way I was relieved to finally graduate school and start my career or get married and say goodbye to singlehood.

I mean this is really the most banal commentary on the passage of time not some profound commentary on parenthood. People who say stuff like this are just looking for stuff to say and are probably generally quite dull.

Maybe it is a stupid thing to say but the people who get driven “insane” by it aren’t much better, tbh.

[Anonymous]

Grass is always greener...

Sometimes the challenges are what makes things worthwhile.

[Anonymous]

My kids are grown, and I don’t miss it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:News flash: you WON’T miss it!😀

There are things I miss, but packing lunch for kids who don't like packed lunch (but it's summer camp and there are not alternatives)? No. I don't miss that. I'm glad I did it, I'm glad I raised kids who thanked me even if they didn't love their lunches, but some things suck.

I don't miss kids who can't throw up in a toilet.
I don't miss kids kids who couldn't get themselves in and out of the car.
I don't miss kids who were frustrated because they didn't have the language skills to tell me what the problem was.

You're allowed not to like parts of parenting. If you really miss having kids around, there are lots of charities looking for volunteers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sayings like this drive me insane. Sure I will miss my kids when they are grown and leave I am sure. But I won’t miss the running around, the exhaustion, the 2 hours to put my toddler to bed every night and making lunches every morning.

My retired parents are living their best lives. They sure as hell don’t miss the days of non stop sports, being stressed about kids!

Wut?

Respectfully, you are doing something wrong if you are serious.

[Anonymous]

I remember someone saying that to me when I was on like day 4 of only a few hours of broken sleep in a row and feeling terrible. It made feel worse! It made me feel better when a friend said “sleep deprivation is a form of torture” because that’s what it felt like!

I do and I don’t miss things about my kids being little. Elementary school age, where we are now feels like a sweet spot and I’m physically able to enjoy it so I am trying to savor as much as I can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:News flash: you WON’T miss it!😀

A lot of us DO miss it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

Sounds like you’re parenting under ideal circumstances. Nice for you. Also, I don’t know a single mom who likes packing lunch- everyone complain about this. This actually sounds kind of JD Vance creepy- stop complaining and serve your family!

Bottom line most of us are going to miss many aspects of having our kids home when they go. Different people have affinities for different ages. Life with kids up and out has pros and cons. Responding to stress about kids with “you’ll miss them” is just insensitive and presumptuous.

DP - you don’t know me then. It is a slog and I *love* the one day a week they get pizza at school, but I am proud to have set up my life so that I can make them tasty, nutritious, well-balanced lunches day in and day out rather than resorting to crap school lunch or Lunchables.

[Anonymous]

Patenting is a cult. Some people fall for it and other people see it for what it is. My life became much better when I stopped making everything about my kids. I worked on fulfilling myself first and it made me a much better parent.
I don't respond to everything like it's an emergency and I don't validate every feeling. I also tell my kids struggle is required and discomfort is a part of life.
When you parent the way I do it's far more tolerable and no I do not miss the early years and I'd never want to go bad.

[Anonymous]

As all know it all people, you missed the whole point of the saying.

You will miss the sweet baby in your arms, rocking your child to sleep, running into your arms and giving you hugs, taking them to activities and watching them play, and even the mom, mom questions that are so sweet. You will miss bike rides, hikes, and camping when they were little; everything was exciting and new to them.

You will even miss when they call in at night to say they are scared, and you let them into your bed.

You will forget about the hard times and remember the best of it.

Also, you think you know everything; it is a very strange, closed-minded set.

People open to learning would have paused and asked, "What do you miss?" Does the person saying this have grown children and hence have over 20 years more experience than I? Can I learn something from parents who have been through this and try to ask for help getting through these years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sayings like this drive me insane. Sure I will miss my kids when they are grown and leave I am sure. But I won’t miss the running around, the exhaustion, the 2 hours to put my toddler to bed every night and making lunches every morning.

My retired parents are living their best lives. They sure as hell don’t miss the days of non stop sports, being stressed about kids!

It is just conversation. Some people do miss the younger stage others not so much. Why can't you shrug it off?