“You will miss this when your kids are grown”

[Anonymous]

Sayings like this drive me insane. Sure I will miss my kids when they are grown and leave I am sure. But I won’t miss the running around, the exhaustion, the 2 hours to put my toddler to bed every night and making lunches every morning.

My retired parents are living their best lives. They sure as hell don’t miss the days of non stop sports, being stressed about kids!

[Anonymous]

If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

NP. Everyone gets stressed and exhausted sometimes and dayung people are doing it wrong is condescending. I'm currently exhausted because my kid's been struggling to sleep because he has a cold and he was up multiple times last night.

[Anonymous]

I'm with you. I have a 7 year old and even now I can tell you, I do not miss the toddler years. There isn't enough money in the world you could pay me to go back to those days. I hated it. I hated the tantrums for cutting the toast incorrectly. I hated having to be on alert all the time. I hated that he could not entertain himself for 5 minutes. I was not one of those people who loved watching the "wonder of discovery of the world." I loved the newborn/infant stage.

My son has his moments now but I really enjoy being with him now. I can have conversations with him. We can do things together that are fun for both of us.

I'm sure I will miss lots of stuff once my son is grown and I'm sure that there will be lots of moments yet to come that I won't miss once they are in the past. (teenage years?)

[Anonymous]

My kids are now in college and I do sometimes look back on the early years with rose colored glasses. But, do I want to go back? I’d like to go back for hour long increments just to remember how sweet and cute my kids were.

You also hear this because a lot of people, me included, one day wake up and our kids are gone and all of the sudden our identities as moms are gone,or at lease very much minimized, and it’s a weird adjustment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

Op - are you kidding me? This is the crap that annoys me. Who likes making lunches? I hated it as a kid and hate it now.

I know I will miss the baby snuggles and sweet moments. It’s the daily grind I won’t miss. I haven’t had a moment alone in peace in over 10 years. It’s always constantly thinking about what time is nap, who needs to eat, are clothes clean, do I need to get bottles ready, is homework done, etc. not to mention when kids are sick then it’s even more worrying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

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Ignore this poster

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

Op - are you kidding me? This is the crap that annoys me. Who likes making lunches? I hated it as a kid and hate it now.

I know I will miss the baby snuggles and sweet moments. It’s the daily grind I won’t miss. I haven’t had a moment alone in peace in over 10 years. It’s always constantly thinking about what time is nap, who needs to eat, are clothes clean, do I need to get bottles ready, is homework done, etc. not to mention when kids are sick then it’s even more worrying.

I make breakfast, lunch and dinner for every person in my house every day; it's great. It's a simple and tangible way to show people that I love that I love them. I have a sick kid right now! I have a sick kid right now, but taking care of her is rewarding. I don't know why you'd choose to hate all that, instead of embracing it. You can choose to love life or you can choose to hate it.

"I haven't had a moment alone in peace in over ten years" but you've got time for belly aching about making some sandwiches on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sayings like this drive me insane. Sure I will miss my kids when they are grown and leave I am sure. But I won’t miss the running around, the exhaustion, the 2 hours to put my toddler to bed every night and making lunches every morning.

My retired parents are living their best lives. They sure as hell don’t miss the days of non stop sports, being stressed about kids!

I have teens about to leave for college and I would absolutely go back to where you are. 100%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

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Ignore this poster

Yes, ignore the poster suggesting you reframe your view on your life to see it more positively. Just listen to the miserable posters who reinforce all the reasons for your unhappiness.

Sounds healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

Oh go away. Not everyone enjoys the slog. And it's okay to say so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

🙄🙄🙄🙄

Ignore this poster

Yes, ignore the poster suggesting you reframe your view on your life to see it more positively. Just listen to the miserable posters who reinforce all the reasons for your unhappiness.

Sounds healthy.

Toxic positivity to the rescue! /s

[Anonymous]

I have teens, and while I love my teens I miss those days when they were little.

But while I would take toddlerhood as a whole, that doesn’t mean I miss the toast tantrums or the taking an hour to get out the door moments, or the middle of the night wakings, and those are consistently the moments when people say dumb things like “you will miss these days”. When I day dream about going back, it’s other moments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

Op - are you kidding me? This is the crap that annoys me. Who likes making lunches? I hated it as a kid and hate it now.

I know I will miss the baby snuggles and sweet moments. It’s the daily grind I won’t miss. I haven’t had a moment alone in peace in over 10 years. It’s always constantly thinking about what time is nap, who needs to eat, are clothes clean, do I need to get bottles ready, is homework done, etc. not to mention when kids are sick then it’s even more worrying.

Some have bottles & some have homework? How many kids do you have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you're stressed and exhausted you're doing it wrong. I will miss getting to make lunches in the morning; providing for people you love is a gift.

+1

I remind myself how short it is every time it gets stressful/exhausting. I truly will miss endless hours in the car going places, watching them try their hardest in a game in the pouring rain, etc.