My teen daughter has Lupus. It's a lifelong, potentially debilitating, autoimmune disease whose triggers are really difficult to pinpoint, and can vary wildly by individual. It is well-known that stress and anxiety can exacerbate or trigger Lupus flare-ups. I sympathize when you say that she's nitpicky in general - but that's because it's stressful to live a life where you can suffer at the drop of a hat! It's a vicious circle, OP.
It would be nice if you could stop using toxic chemicals on your property that can be wafted over to a neighbor, particularly if they're vulnerable. Also don't forget it's carcinogenic for you and everyone in your house, OP. |
The fact that you didn’t immediately apologize and stop spraying crap on your precious lawn (that you apparently aren’t even there to enjoy most of the time) indicates that you are a massive, gaping AH.
Normal, decent human beings don’t blithely aggravate their neighbors serious medical issues because they want green grass all year. Seriously, anyone who even has to question what the right thing to do is in this situation is just a terrible person. |
It's poison. Lupus is a serious and debilitating autoimmune disease. Have some compassion and also stop putting poison into the environment. |
It’s not your neighbor’s job to manage your anxiety. Why do people even think this is a realistic expectation? It’s not. |
FYI -- it is silly to think that the spray is only hitting your grass and staying there. Yes, you are tracking it into your house. Yes, it is getting into your neighbor's yard. Better to be honest with yourself about the risk you are taking, and how your behavior impacts others. |
This, OP. Do her this favor and she will be more likely to help you. She shouldn’t have to move because you want a house you don’t live in to look like a golf course. |
Why are you using it? We have a nice lawn on a part of our property and never used chemical sprays. |
PP you replied to. I did not say it was. I said it would be nice if OP stopped using toxic chemicals. Not only as a gesture of goodwill to a vulnerable neighbor, but also for her own health and safety and that of any other household members. These products should be banned anyway. We need to pivot to genetically modified mosquitoes. |
What would I do? Say a little prayer of gratitude that I don't have lupus or another debilitating autoimmune disease, apologize to the neighbor, ask if she had recommendations, and start researching environmentally friendly lawn care. |
. You think spray doesn't carry? |
She can’t stop you but the lawn spraying is vile. |
+1. But also do it because it’s the right thing to do. I judge people very harshly for their stupid manicured, wasteful, environmentally toxic lawns. It tells me you care about appearances more than you care about the world. |
That’s not what you said, you were concerned about wafting chemicals to a “vulnerable neighbor”. It’s not a banned substance so OP and others can treat their lawns as they seem fit. |
I think her health should win out here. I wonder why you are hesitant when you're so blessed to not be as reactive as her. I won't say it won't affect you long term but by then you'll forget how you hurt her. |
I guarantee you make bad decisions every day that tells people you don’t care about the world. Nobody cares about your hypocritical judgment. |