Why people have fallen out of love with dating apps?

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone post a gift article link?

Or maybe, you know, PAY FOR JOURNALISM

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The apps wouldn’t exist if people mostly met long-term partners on them, so these business owners are invested in keeping people scrolling, not being coupled up.

The other thing is that these apps create an illusion of endless “supply,” which I think leads some to have a permanent curiosity about what they’re missing, what else is out there etc.

I met my husband on an app (bumble, if you’re wondering) but the experience was generally hellish and I found a lot of weird, coupled, and non-committal people on them.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the women I know are falling out of love with the idea of dating men. There are too many men who will show you their genitals or ask for sexual gratification in the first 5 messages on dating apps. Eww.

If you want a hookup, maybe apps could be functional. But very few women want to risk STIs and pregnancy for a casual hookup with "some guy from an app" when reliable toys are easy to access.

Men who want relationships have to learn how to cultivate them. Apps are a hindrance here, not a help. Anyone who was in love with apps in the first place was probably only after messy, likely intoxicant-fueled, casual flings. Way too much liability, IMO.

Disagree. Practically every woman I ever met on the apps were totally DTF immediately. Especially the ones who went out of their way to say "no hookups" in their profiles.

It was weird. I'm not gonna lie. But it happened. I usually had to be the one turning them down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The apps wouldn’t exist if people mostly met long-term partners on them, so these business owners are invested in keeping people scrolling, not being coupled up.

This. Dating apps want to extend users' time using the apps so it's not in their interest to match too soon. They help people cycle through mulitple good-but-not-great-fit/short-term partners - just good enough to feel like the app was successful, so they don't abandon the app, but not the right fit - before matching them with great-fit/long-term partners. App users are becoming savvy to the tactics and don't want to play the game.

[Anonymous]

As a widower who had had a very happy marriage I stopped using the apps because so many of the woman carried loads of baggage - unhappy marriages, problem children etc. I’m sure that holds true for men as well. Thankfully, my 26 year old daughter introduced me to an older coworker of hers who my daughter described as “beautiful and sane.”

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People meet each other on Snapchat and DM etc the apps aren't needed

Plus the apps shot themselves in the foot by adding all the rules

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Anonymous wrote:Most of the women I know are falling out of love with the idea of dating men. There are too many men who will show you their genitals or ask for sexual gratification in the first 5 messages on dating apps. Eww.

If you want a hookup, maybe apps could be functional. But very few women want to risk STIs and pregnancy for a casual hookup with "some guy from an app" when reliable toys are easy to access.

Men who want relationships have to learn how to cultivate them. Apps are a hindrance here, not a help. Anyone who was in love with apps in the first place was probably only after messy, likely intoxicant-fueled, casual flings. Way too much liability, IMO.

Disagree. Practically every woman I ever met on the apps were totally DTF immediately. Especially the ones who went out of their way to say "no hookups" in their profiles.

It was weird. I'm not gonna lie. But it happened. I usually had to be the one turning them down.

This has always been my experience also. I'm still kind of shocked by it, years later.

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone post a gift article link?

Or maybe, you know, PAY FOR JOURNALISM

That will be the day I subscribe to an online news source just to read one article when I can always find that same article for free with a simple Google search.

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All the male and female whores on them. That have sex upon first meet. And lots of liars. It’s gross. I’m glad to see more organic ways of meeting people is coming back in style.

I’m so glad I was pre-OLD. Match had just started. People just met IRL.

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Anonymous wrote:Tinder and Bumble are struggling as singles refuse to pay up. Are we going back to organic ways of dating or to matchmakers or just denouncing dating?

https://www.economist.com/business/2024/08/08...TPD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Most people don’t want to date these days period. They prefer having convos with ChatGPT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems that a growing number of men as are not very active on the dating scene. I am not sure why. They are also having less sex. I am not sure why either. Perhaps women don't want to date as well.

Dating is dead.

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I'm almost a year into a relationship that started on a dating app. Many people I know started relationships on dating apps. Since I'm not into religious institutions, running clubs, game nights, or dating at work, the apps were my only real option after my divorce. I met nice people on them, even though most dates went nowhere, and I'm not alone in think they are very helpful. The thing about apps that makes them hard to use for me is that everyone has lots of choices all the time. Liking someone and then getting disappointed is a basic part of using a dating app.

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Men have been emasculated. More and more men are afraid of approaching women.
You add to this that being LGBTQ is cooler than it has ever been. The result is less dating. The dating apps are paying that price.

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I don't understand the point about LGBTQ. You mean people used to date the opposite sex so nobody would know they're gay?

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Anonymous wrote:Men are stupid for going on an app. Arithmetic baby. Women are swamped with responses, men are not. Kind of like going to bar where there are 300 guys and six women at the bar soaking up the attention. Yes, someone is going to say that their cousin met a great woman in one of these places and got married, but that's the rarity.

Yep. A computerised dude ranch.