Wedding WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Hotel room, but coach her in hotel room safety, please.

[Anonymous]

Grandma, hire someone or stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have, maybe, a bit of a dilemma. Maybe we are overthinking.

We have a wedding to attend next weekend. Kids aren’t invited. We have one DD13. We had a plan set up where she was going to spend the night with a friend, but the parents unfortunately had to cancel. DD13 is adamant she does not want to spend the night with her grandma, who is our only local family (long backstory, but we don’t blame her.) So now we have two other options:

One of us doesn’t go and stays home with DD, or

We bring DD along (we are staying at a hotel for the night) and she stays in the hotel room while we attend the reception (only one of us would attend the wedding), which is a half mile down the road. We would get her a pizza for dinner and she could do what she would do at home anyway on a Saturday night: FaceTime with friends, watch movies, hang out in her room.

Option 2 is what DD wants, she thinks it will be fun. I’m worried she will be bored or get scared in the hotel room alone (it’s a large Marriott.) We have no clue what to do.

It's not her decision. You are the parent and she is a child.

[Anonymous]

Having to self entertain and not burn a hotel down for a couple hours is age appropriate at age 13

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have, maybe, a bit of a dilemma. Maybe we are overthinking.

We have a wedding to attend next weekend. Kids aren’t invited. We have one DD13. We had a plan set up where she was going to spend the night with a friend, but the parents unfortunately had to cancel. DD13 is adamant she does not want to spend the night with her grandma, who is our only local family (long backstory, but we don’t blame her.) So now we have two other options:

One of us doesn’t go and stays home with DD, or

We bring DD along (we are staying at a hotel for the night) and she stays in the hotel room while we attend the reception (only one of us would attend the wedding), which is a half mile down the road. We would get her a pizza for dinner and she could do what she would do at home anyway on a Saturday night: FaceTime with friends, watch movies, hang out in her room.

Option 2 is what DD wants, she thinks it will be fun. I’m worried she will be bored or get scared in the hotel room alone (it’s a large Marriott.) We have no clue what to do.

Why would only one of you attend the wedding?

[Anonymous]

The hotel for sure. She will love it.

[Anonymous]

You rsvp'd to the wedding and your child is old enough to be in a hotel room alone for a few hours. You both attend the wedding and the reception, get her some pizza, and she stays at the hotel until you return. At 13 she is old enough to babysit others. She can be alone in a hotel for a few hours.

[Anonymous]

Is there another family that would want her to babysit their kids at the hotel? Then she could make some money and wouldn't be alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grandma, hire someone or stay home.

There is no reason all to do this. The girl wants to stay alone and will love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We took our dc to the wedding, and he stayed in the hotel room for the reception. FWIW church weddings technically are open to the parish to attend, so you could take her to the ceremony if it's in a church.

Dont do this. It’s rude.

No it isn't. Anyway, people who get married in religious houses of worship generally don't ban kids from their weddings. Most religious people consider kids to be the point of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there another family that would want her to babysit their kids at the hotel? Then she could make some money and wouldn't be alone.

Terrible idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why in the world would a 13yo be scared in a hotel room for a few hours? Esp if she has a phone. Option 2, for sure.

I have no idea! Unfamiliar sounds in an unfamiliar location? Like I said, I’m probably overthinking.

Is she neurodiverse?

Use plain language instead of clinical mumbo jumbo please and thank you.

[Anonymous]

Just a thought- could you bring her to the wedding itself so one of you doesn’t have to skip? If it’s at a place of worship those are usually open anyway.

[Anonymous]

Option 2. As long as someone will actually answer if she calls (that can be grandma or an adult not at the wedding) to chat with her if she does get scared.

[Anonymous]

2!

And she would be OK spending the wedding and reception hours alone in the room. She’s 13 as long as she doesn’t go out.