Wedding WWYD?

[Anonymous]

We have, maybe, a bit of a dilemma. Maybe we are overthinking.

We have a wedding to attend next weekend. Kids aren’t invited. We have one DD13. We had a plan set up where she was going to spend the night with a friend, but the parents unfortunately had to cancel. DD13 is adamant she does not want to spend the night with her grandma, who is our only local family (long backstory, but we don’t blame her.) So now we have two other options:

One of us doesn’t go and stays home with DD, or

We bring DD along (we are staying at a hotel for the night) and she stays in the hotel room while we attend the reception (only one of us would attend the wedding), which is a half mile down the road. We would get her a pizza for dinner and she could do what she would do at home anyway on a Saturday night: FaceTime with friends, watch movies, hang out in her room.

Option 2 is what DD wants, she thinks it will be fun. I’m worried she will be bored or get scared in the hotel room alone (it’s a large Marriott.) We have no clue what to do.

[Anonymous]

Why in the world would a 13yo be scared in a hotel room for a few hours? Esp if she has a phone. Option 2, for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why in the world would a 13yo be scared in a hotel room for a few hours? Esp if she has a phone. Option 2, for sure.

I have no idea! Unfamiliar sounds in an unfamiliar location? Like I said, I’m probably overthinking.

[Anonymous]

She'll be fine at the hotel.

[Anonymous]

Hotel room. NBD

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks everyone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why in the world would a 13yo be scared in a hotel room for a few hours? Esp if she has a phone. Option 2, for sure.

I have no idea! Unfamiliar sounds in an unfamiliar location? Like I said, I’m probably overthinking.

Is she neurodiverse?

[Anonymous]

2 fs. She’ll have fun!

[Anonymous]

I would bring her and let her stay in the hotel room. You can check in with her periodically.

Worst case, she gets freaked out and one of you goes back to the hotel room early. But that's better than the option of one person missing it altogether (assuming this is a wedding you want to attend.)

[Anonymous]

OP, this isn’t a a crowd source issue.

You and your kid know your kid best.

What does she want?

[Anonymous]

She can stay home. Is home far away? I'd rather kids stay home alone than in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

Hotel room. Put out the Do Not Disturb sign. Have food and beverages already in the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, this isn’t a a crowd source issue.

You and your kid know your kid best.

What does she want?

The OP states DD wants to stay in the hotel.

[Anonymous]

definitely option 2.

what a great -contained- opportunity to treat your daughter more like an adult.

-trust
-expectations
-personal safety

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why in the world would a 13yo be scared in a hotel room for a few hours? Esp if she has a phone. Option 2, for sure.

I have no idea! Unfamiliar sounds in an unfamiliar location? Like I said, I’m probably overthinking.

You think? She’s 13 not 3. She’ll be fine.