Can a young teen wear sneakers to a formal wedding? Ankle support?

[Anonymous]

They are going to have a miserable time at the wedding, let them stay home with their friends

[Anonymous]

It's not like anyone actually adheres to what black tie really means anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wore black sneakers to a wedding once when I hurt my foot. No one cared.

+1 I wore a pair of Keds to a black tie wedding last month. I've got chronic instability in one ankle from repeated injuries in my youth. I also wear custom orthotics in both shoes. I have hallux rigidus (a type of osteoarthritis) in the foot of my good ankle and have a Morton's extension in that orthotic for additional support.

I, literally, cannot get one foot into heels. The cost of dress shoes/flats that I can wear with orthotics would be much more than what I paid for my dress. So, I wore a pair of Keds that I blinged out on top and Chromed the bottom. My orthotics fit, they were comfortable and I could dance in abandon without pain or instability.

Oh, BTW, very few people at the wedding are aware of my disability. I'm a healthy weight, fit and active (as evidenced by my dancing). I know some women judged me (men don't care) but I have no Fs to give. I did what worked for me in keeping with the spirit of the event.

Good for you! What does the bolded mean?

PP here. I blinged the shoes on top by using a hot glue gun and rhinestones (crafting 101 - basic basic beginner level stuff!)

"Chroming" the sole is just applying some leather/suede on the front half of the sole. It turns any shoe into a "dance shoe". The only caveat is that means you can't walk on non-dance or non-carpeted floors unless you're willing to re-do the chroming later. Not a big deal, just a little work.

Here's a good video on how to do it. You can get the supplies easily on Amazon or a craft store. I use a shoe glue even if the leather already has adhesive since the sole has tread. That's just me. If you're doing it to heels, do not do the actual heel. It makes the shoe too slippery.

https://youtu.be/oB152ldXfvg?feature=shared

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wore black sneakers to a wedding once when I hurt my foot. No one cared.

+1 I wore a pair of Keds to a black tie wedding last month. I've got chronic instability in one ankle from repeated injuries in my youth. I also wear custom orthotics in both shoes. I have hallux rigidus (a type of osteoarthritis) in the foot of my good ankle and have a Morton's extension in that orthotic for additional support.

I, literally, cannot get one foot into heels. The cost of dress shoes/flats that I can wear with orthotics would be much more than what I paid for my dress. So, I wore a pair of Keds that I blinged out on top and Chromed the bottom. My orthotics fit, they were comfortable and I could dance in abandon without pain or instability.

Oh, BTW, very few people at the wedding are aware of my disability. I'm a healthy weight, fit and active (as evidenced by my dancing). I know some women judged me (men don't care) but I have no Fs to give. I did what worked for me in keeping with the spirit of the event.

What kind of Orthodics do you have that they fit into Keds?! Mine are way too bulky to fit into shoes like that.

PP here. They are the same full length orthotics that I use in my New Balance sneakers. I get the Keds in a Wide size and half size bigger. Haven't had any problems getting them in. I do have to heel lock lace the Keds in a way to make them a little tighter in the heel. I do that for a lot of my shoes and is a handy trick.

https://kicksshoelaces.com/blogs/content-hub/heel-lock-lacing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wore black sneakers to a wedding once when I hurt my foot. No one cared.

+1 I wore a pair of Keds to a black tie wedding last month. I've got chronic instability in one ankle from repeated injuries in my youth. I also wear custom orthotics in both shoes. I have hallux rigidus (a type of osteoarthritis) in the foot of my good ankle and have a Morton's extension in that orthotic for additional support.

I, literally, cannot get one foot into heels. The cost of dress shoes/flats that I can wear with orthotics would be much more than what I paid for my dress. So, I wore a pair of Keds that I blinged out on top and Chromed the bottom. My orthotics fit, they were comfortable and I could dance in abandon without pain or instability.

Oh, BTW, very few people at the wedding are aware of my disability. I'm a healthy weight, fit and active (as evidenced by my dancing). I know some women judged me (men don't care) but I have no Fs to give. I did what worked for me in keeping with the spirit of the event.

Good for you! What does the bolded mean?

PP here. I blinged the shoes on top by using a hot glue gun and rhinestones (crafting 101 - basic basic beginner level stuff!)

"Chroming" the sole is just applying some leather/suede on the front half of the sole. It turns any shoe into a "dance shoe". The only caveat is that means you can't walk on non-dance or non-carpeted floors unless you're willing to re-do the chroming later. Not a big deal, just a little work.

Here's a good video on how to do it. You can get the supplies easily on Amazon or a craft store. I use a shoe glue even if the leather already has adhesive since the sole has tread. That's just me. If you're doing it to heels, do not do the actual heel. It makes the shoe too slippery.

https://youtu.be/oB152ldXfvg?feature=shared

^^PP again. Forgot to mention that sometimes I have to buy longer laces to fit my foot, orthotics and heel lock lace the shoes. YMMV

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not like anyone actually adheres to what black tie really means anyway.

What world are you living in? In my family and circles of friends, everyone follows dress codes.

[Anonymous]

I would let her wear what she wants if they look cute enough with the dress. If I were picking out 13 yo’s shoes I’d get some Mary Janes and pair with some patterned short crew socks. I saw some cute ones with hearts at Sezane the other day and they seem young and cute for a teen in a long dress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wore black sneakers to a wedding once when I hurt my foot. No one cared.

+1 I wore a pair of Keds to a black tie wedding last month. I've got chronic instability in one ankle from repeated injuries in my youth. I also wear custom orthotics in both shoes. I have hallux rigidus (a type of osteoarthritis) in the foot of my good ankle and have a Morton's extension in that orthotic for additional support.

I, literally, cannot get one foot into heels. The cost of dress shoes/flats that I can wear with orthotics would be much more than what I paid for my dress. So, I wore a pair of Keds that I blinged out on top and Chromed the bottom. My orthotics fit, they were comfortable and I could dance in abandon without pain or instability.

Oh, BTW, very few people at the wedding are aware of my disability. I'm a healthy weight, fit and active (as evidenced by my dancing). I know some women judged me (men don't care) but I have no Fs to give. I did what worked for me in keeping with the spirit of the event.

What kind of Orthodics do you have that they fit into Keds?! Mine are way too bulky to fit into shoes like that.

PP here. They are the same full length orthotics that I use in my New Balance sneakers. I get the Keds in a Wide size and half size bigger. Haven't had any problems getting them in. I do have to heel lock lace the Keds in a way to make them a little tighter in the heel. I do that for a lot of my shoes and is a handy trick.

https://kicksshoelaces.com/blogs/content-hub/heel-lock-lacing

Thank you so much for that link! I've never heard of that and had no idea this is a thing! And to think, I worked in a shoe store and everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, not for a black tie wedding, sorry kid.

+1. Or a job interview, or your grandparents funeral.

There’d be pretty stiff consequences in our house for this. Find something suitable.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Fine if they are clean and "trendy"

[Anonymous]

Time for some formal converse sneakers! They come in satin and glitter!

[Anonymous]

Yes.
But what about Floral Doc Martens? Or Docs with hearts? Or even Docs Mary Janes?
Another option could be Crocs flats, but those won’t offer ankle support although some of them have quite good arch support.


https://www.drmartens.com/us/en/1460-womens-english-garden-leather-lace-up-boots-multi/p/31689649


https://www.drmartens.com/us/en/1460-zip-heart-virgina-satin-lux-lace-up-boots/p/31882150

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Strictly speaking a young teen shouldn’t be in a full length dress anyway. It’s age inappropriate, at least by old WASPy standards (like putting a toddler in a tux).

My 3 yr old nephew LOVES wearing his bowtie. He looks outrageously adorable in it. He's an excellent dancer and loves to toast people too - honestly, everyone should invite him to their wedding.

What SHOULD a young teen be in at a black tie wedding by old WASP standards?

Op here, echoing the question.

Most people don't invite kids to black tie-weddings, so this is interesting. I think a short dress (like knee-length or slightly above) would be more appropriate at that age. I would not expect a 13 year old to be wearing a floor length gown.

I would expect below the knee...like tea length. Old-timey junior bridesmaid dresses.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I can't find her exact dress online, but it's fine for a 13 year old. Sort of like this but a little liver and a little higher cut neckline with more substantial shoulders
https://www.jjshouse.com/a-line-off-the-shoulder-tea-length-chiffon-lace-homecoming-dress-with-beading-022170654-g170654