6th graders wearing make up?

[Anonymous]

This doesn’t seem like something that needs a lot of parental involvement in, other than keeping children from using problematic products and ensuring they’re using sun protection. Policing girls’ appearance is very passè

[Anonymous]

My 8th grader wears mascara (started in 7th). She’s not allowed to dye her hair, so I figure it’s a compromise.

I remember wearing all sorts of weird makeup in middle school (cue the viscous face glitter) - it’s part of being a young teen.

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Tacky

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain to me the rationale for allowing a 6th grader (an elementary student in FCPS) to wear full on makeup to school? Eyeshadow, mascara, blush and lipstick? It’s creeping me out. It doesn’t look good and it doesn’t seem appropriate at this age.

No one really needs to explain their rationale to you because it’s their child. If you don’t allow it in your home then fine.

I’ll bite. Mom of 2DDs, now 19+25.

Allowing DD to wear makeup (much more beyond lip gloss) this young is an example of permissive parenting. This decision is driven, encouraged and allowed by mom with dad not in the picture or who is totally clueless and disengaged and kowtows to wife.

Mom is carefully socially engineering behind the scenes and wants more than anything for her DD to be “popular” (at any cost). Mom has been jockeying for DD to be known for her appearance almost since infancy - and it starts with huge bows and dresses and photos. As DD matures, mom can intercede and use
Sun-In, do highlights, ear piercing on young elementary age daughter.

Next up: dance or cheer or “elite” travel sport. Around 5th grade, the boy craziness will begin and so looking cool/pretty/mature will attract more attention. Mom’s always encouraged DD to be a mini teen since forever so by the time DD hits 7th grade, she’ll be into typical teenage activities and all that entails so much so that her teen life will be compressed and sped up. Her freshman year of high school is pretty close to a college freshman’s 35 years ago.

I’m sure you think you are clever not how is insanely stupid.

PP and writing what I know and have observed 20 + years in FCPS. Tell me it’s not mom-driven. It’s a cautionary tale and my examples are true.

At our school the “popular” 6th grade girls were wearing makeup and crop tops, but I wouldn’t infer anything about their families.

[Anonymous]

Seriously?!? Some people need some real problems in their life. Or have too much time on their hands. A sixth grade girl wearing some make-up to school is not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously?!? Some people need some real problems in their life. Or have too much time on their hands. A sixth grade girl wearing some make-up to school is not a big deal.

It’s not some. It’s quite a bit and it’s trashy and inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Are people assuming that make-up is a cue to attract a mate? That's the only explanation I can think of for the ensuing moral panic. And since pre-pubescent or barely-pubescent girls shouldn't have mates, we are alarmed.

But I think that's a pretty myopic and misogynistic view of the purpose of make-up. Why can't make-up simply be about fine-tuning one's appearance to one's own satisfaction? What if we stopped worrying about what girls wear or apply to their faces, and started worrying about creepy grown men who take interest in such things?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder; it's also highly dependent on one's culture. In other parts of the world, all sorts of different things are considered beautiful. I don't subscribe to any hard and fast rules about what 6th grade girls should do with their bodies. A little paint on one's face seems especially innocuous.

[Anonymous]

Is it 1985?

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Are you mom?

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I'm so confused

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Anonymous wrote:The girls who are wearing heavy makeup in 6th grade will be pre-gaming at HS football games.

Yes. makeup in 6th grade is a precursor to life as an alcoholic. Sorry OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Middle school is when most girls start experimenting with makeup. In most places 6th grade is middle school. Seems totally normal.

+1 We were doing this in the 80s. We read Seventeen magazine and experimented with makeup.

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You guys have all officially become your mothers.

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Anonymous wrote:6th grade is way too young for this!

I dont disagree, but i also think you have to CHOSE your battles and not inspire your kid to rebel, and in the end, who cares if they look bad if its their body?

[Anonymous]

I don’t wear any makeup at all myself, but o don’t understand why people object to it.

My now high school senior daughter started wearing some makeup in 6th grade. It looked a bit ridiculous, but no more so than the blue eyeshadow my peers wore when I was in 6th grade. She experimented a lot with extreme makeup during covid school closings which were during middle school. By the time she was back in person school for high school she was wearing tasteful light makeup.

She’s a great kid who gets good grades, has nice friends, and plays a varsity sport. I don’t think the 6th grade makeup somehow ruined her.