Do private high school alums marry earlier?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you've met the right person and you aren't worried about money, why not marry early? Move in together, buy a house (maybe with parents' help), work on building equity, have kids before you have fertility issues. All of this can be done while pursuing a career. -- Had baby during PhD

Given that two income families are more stable, marriage might actually be a way to worry less about money. Pool resources and all that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I are both private school alums and were married at 26 and 28, so pretty young. We had already bought our first house in Arlington (without help from parents) and the only debt we had was grad school for my husband. We also have two kids in private school and pay full tuition without help from parents.

Well, not really since you had no undergrad debt and your parents paid for your education.

Yep - those same parents who also paid for their private school. Definitely not “doing it on your own.”

[Anonymous]

Religious ones, yes. Half my Catholic high school graduation class is married to each other. The other half (the non Catholic half) married a few years later. Lots of cheating, some divorce, an equal number of deaths.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It might be the case because they come from wealthy families who help them out with a down payment on their first home or other assets.
I feel finances may stop many young people from getting married and that tends not to be as much of an issue with the private school alums.

Of course the families are helping (with engagement ring, wedding, down payment on house). There is nothing wrong with that.

No one said it was wrong. Sensitive much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God, if I were young, highly educated and debt free the last thing I would jump into is marriage.

It's quite literally the smartest thing college educated kids can do. Young wedding, buying a house together ASAP, and having kids before you need IVF.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did they go to conservative or Catholic HSs?

Cathedral, GPS, and St Albans.

Most of the alums from NCS and STA do NOT marry soon after college. OP's DD is not reflective of the norm. Yes, most do get married (as is the norm for the well-educated and wealthy), but usually in their late 20s/early 30s.

You are wrong. This generation will of kids is different. And when there’s an early wave, it’s cascading and pressures all of their other friends to pair up and get engaged too. Social media fuels this because it’s not like you can be oblivious anymore. Even if you’re not invited, the courting, engagement, bachelor and bachelorette parties, and weddings are in everyone’s face. Pressure to join and conform immense. It’s really fascinating to witness as a parent.

Hmmmm. How many is the majority? Five girls from DD's NCS class? Ten? Twenty? Even so, that is a far cry from the 40+ who would need to be married by age 25 to make up most of the class as marrying young. I stand by the trend that most NCS girls are waiting until their late 20s to get married.

Looking at the NCS classes of 2016 and 2017, ~ age 25: Most are engaged or married, skewing towards the wealthiest i.e. most desirable. This is very early compared to the alleged national average of ~ age 30 (f) for first marriage.

[Anonymous]

Dozens of engagement announcements two years after undergrad (six years after high school). Married by age 25 is the rich private school kid sweet spot right now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did they go to conservative or Catholic HSs?

Cathedral, GPS, and St Albans.

Most of the alums from NCS and STA do NOT marry soon after college. OP's DD is not reflective of the norm. Yes, most do get married (as is the norm for the well-educated and wealthy), but usually in their late 20s/early 30s.

You are wrong. This generation will of kids is different. And when there’s an early wave, it’s cascading and pressures all of their other friends to pair up and get engaged too. Social media fuels this because it’s not like you can be oblivious anymore. Even if you’re not invited, the courting, engagement, bachelor and bachelorette parties, and weddings are in everyone’s face. Pressure to join and conform immense. It’s really fascinating to witness as a parent.

Hmmmm. How many is the majority? Five girls from DD's NCS class? Ten? Twenty? Even so, that is a far cry from the 40+ who would need to be married by age 25 to make up most of the class as marrying young. I stand by the trend that most NCS girls are waiting until their late 20s to get married.

Looking at the NCS classes of 2016 and 2017, ~ age 25: Most are engaged or married, skewing towards the wealthiest i.e. most desirable. This is very early compared to the alleged national average of ~ age 30 (f) for first marriage.

I have a NCS (LS) girl and find this interesting. It would be a deviation from their parents who all seemed to be “older” parents as compared to those in my community. Unless they’re getting married earlier and delaying children? Seems odd to me. I wouldn’t want my daughter getting married earlier than late 20s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:God, if I were young, highly educated and debt free the last thing I would jump into is marriage.

It's quite literally the smartest thing college educated kids can do. Young wedding, buying a house together ASAP, and having kids before you need IVF.

Yeah, no. It’s really not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Religious ones, yes. Half my Catholic high school graduation class is married to each other. The other half (the non Catholic half) married a few years later. Lots of cheating, some divorce, an equal number of deaths.

How old are you though? We are talking about the current generation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:God, if I were young, highly educated and debt free the last thing I would jump into is marriage.

It's quite literally the smartest thing college educated kids can do. Young wedding, buying a house together ASAP, and having kids before you need IVF.

Yeah, no. It’s really not.

For fertility reasons, yes; for maturity reasons, no.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did they go to conservative or Catholic HSs?

Cathedral, GPS, and St Albans.

Most of the alums from NCS and STA do NOT marry soon after college. OP's DD is not reflective of the norm. Yes, most do get married (as is the norm for the well-educated and wealthy), but usually in their late 20s/early 30s.

You are wrong. This generation will of kids is different. And when there’s an early wave, it’s cascading and pressures all of their other friends to pair up and get engaged too. Social media fuels this because it’s not like you can be oblivious anymore. Even if you’re not invited, the courting, engagement, bachelor and bachelorette parties, and weddings are in everyone’s face. Pressure to join and conform immense. It’s really fascinating to witness as a parent.

Hmmmm. How many is the majority? Five girls from DD's NCS class? Ten? Twenty? Even so, that is a far cry from the 40+ who would need to be married by age 25 to make up most of the class as marrying young. I stand by the trend that most NCS girls are waiting until their late 20s to get married.

Looking at the NCS classes of 2016 and 2017, ~ age 25: Most are engaged or married, skewing towards the wealthiest i.e. most desirable. This is very early compared to the alleged national average of ~ age 30 (f) for first marriage.

I have a NCS (LS) girl and find this interesting. It would be a deviation from their parents who all seemed to be “older” parents as compared to those in my community. Unless they’re getting married earlier and delaying children? Seems odd to me. I wouldn’t want my daughter getting married earlier than late 20s.

Being an old parent isn't cool anymore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:God, if I were young, highly educated and debt free the last thing I would jump into is marriage.

It's quite literally the smartest thing college educated kids can do. Young wedding, buying a house together ASAP, and having kids before you need IVF.

Yeah, no. It’s really not.

For fertility reasons, yes; for maturity reasons, no.

It's easier to raise a kid in your 20s than your 40s and you might actually meet your grand kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Religious ones, yes. Half my Catholic high school graduation class is married to each other. The other half (the non Catholic half) married a few years later. Lots of cheating, some divorce, an equal number of deaths.

I’m sorry, deaths? already?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Religious ones, yes. Half my Catholic high school graduation class is married to each other. The other half (the non Catholic half) married a few years later. Lots of cheating, some divorce, an equal number of deaths.

I’m sorry, deaths? already?

Divorces out number deaths everywhere except Compton and Long Beach High. No half of your class is not married to each other. No school has that. Even at your school the kids that went to ND, BC and the like met better people and are now married to them.