Mom talks too much

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:She doesn't like to read, listen to music or watch movies. Family politics, national politics and religion (even though not religious at heart) are her only interests.


My dad is interested in world events (though he is full of conspiracy theories and outdated knowledge) and still he talks too much, and nothing interesting.
I am looking for a way out too. He doesn’t even live with me but he calls and keeps yapping (sorry!)
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Anonymous wrote:She needs to hang out with other oldies more. They can talk each other to death.


+1. You’ll miss it when it stops. Hard to imagine but it’s true.


+1000



I didn't miss my mother when she died. I basked in the silence.


Same.
And what’s worse, I probably won’t miss my father either even though he is a much nicer person.
Anonymous
My mom now has this problem in old age. I seriously think the part of her brain that controls inner vs outer speech has atrophied, so essentially she says every thought out loud because she can’t screen inner vs outer thoughts anymore. It’s tough to be around.
Anonymous
1) She's too old to change
2) she probably doesn't care
3) try to find an assisted living community for her where she'll make friends to talk all day with.
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Anonymous wrote:She needs to hang out with other oldies more. They can talk each other to death.


+1. You’ll miss it when it stops. Hard to imagine but it’s true.


+1000



I didn't miss my mother when she died. I basked in the silence.


Truth.
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Anonymous wrote:She needs to hang out with other oldies more. They can talk each other to death.


+1. You’ll miss it when it stops. Hard to imagine but it’s true.


+1000



I didn't miss my mother when she died. I basked in the silence.

So hateful


Not hateful at all. Relief is a genuine response to the death of someone who has been lingering for 30 yrs on the cusp.

There was nothing about on the cusp or the mom suffering. Just the daughter irritated at listening.


Nope. That was not stated by PP. That's you imposing your assumptions. Your incorrect assumptions.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My mom now has this problem in old age. I seriously think the part of her brain that controls inner vs outer speech has atrophied, so essentially she says every thought out loud because she can’t screen inner vs outer thoughts anymore. It’s tough to be around.


My father doesn’t talk to himself (that I know of) but he sings, whistles, and makes other weird sounds.
My brother was going insane when he was living with him; now he lives separately thank god!
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Anonymous wrote:She needs to hang out with other oldies more. They can talk each other to death.


+1. You’ll miss it when it stops. Hard to imagine but it’s true.


+1000



I didn't miss my mother when she died. I basked in the silence.


Same.
And what’s worse, I probably won’t miss my father either even though he is a much nicer person.


OP likes her mom. She will miss the chatter.
Anonymous
Get her a phone and download some language exchange apps. HelloTalk and Tandem are what I use personally.There is a huge demand among language learners to practice long-form listening skills and speaking with a native speaker. She doesn't need to know English to be on these apps, and would not be expected to speak to people in English. She would just put in her profile that she's available for speaking and listening practice in x language only. Then, people can request to have phone calls, video calls, or text her through the language app. She can end the conversations at any time, talk about whatever she wants, and have people hanging on to her every word lol. I use these apps myself, and the user base is generally very kind. People would get a real kick out of talking to a grandma type.
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Anonymous wrote:She needs to hang out with other oldies more. They can talk each other to death.


+1. You’ll miss it when it stops. Hard to imagine but it’s true.


+1000



I didn't miss my mother when she died. I basked in the silence.

So hateful



Nope. That was not stated by PP. That's you imposing your assumptions. Your incorrect assumptions.


Not hateful at all. Relief is a genuine response to the death of someone who has been lingering for 30 yrs on the cusp.

There was nothing about on the cusp or the mom suffering. Just the daughter irritated at listening.

The whole thread is about being irritated by a parent talking too much. PP specifically said she wasn’t sad when her mother died and “basked in the silence.” It’s a logical inference.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to hang out with other oldies more. They can talk each other to death.


+1. You’ll miss it when it stops. Hard to imagine but it’s true.


+1000



I didn't miss my mother when she died. I basked in the silence.

So hateful



Nope. That was not stated by PP. That's you imposing your assumptions. Your incorrect assumptions.


Not hateful at all. Relief is a genuine response to the death of someone who has been lingering for 30 yrs on the cusp.

There was nothing about on the cusp or the mom suffering. Just the daughter irritated at listening.

The whole thread is about being irritated by a parent talking too much. PP specifically said she wasn’t sad when her mother died and “basked in the silence.” It’s a logical inference.



And yet, incorrect. I am that poster. I was not irritated. Officially.
Anonymous


And yet, incorrect. I am that poster. I was not irritated. Officially.

Well then, you expressed yourself poorly. Saying I wasn’t sad when my mom died, I basked in the silence is scornful and sounds heartless.

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And yet, incorrect. I am that poster. I was not irritated. Officially.

Well then, you expressed yourself poorly. Saying I wasn’t sad when my mom died, I basked in the silence is scornful and sounds heartless.



ok but other posters have said the same so, you do you and I'll just do me.
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