is 9pm acceptable bedtime for a 7th grader?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a lot of your kids are sleeping their life away.

Kids are growing young bodies. That takes sleep.

[Anonymous]

What are ‘TikTok’ parents and why is this a point of reference?
No thanks.

[Anonymous]

My 14 yo rising 9th grader goes to bed at 8:30-9pm, goes to sleep 30 min later and gets up at 6am.

Evening youth orchestra that ended at 9:35 last year (which means 10pm+ bedtime) was brutal for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My rising junior aims to be in bed by 9 and asleep 9:30. Good sleep habits have served her very well so far.

High school sports practices and orchestra / theater rehearsals end at 9pm. Sports practices are usually 3 hours (including warm ups). Game days they have team dinner immediately after school then for away games they get back aftwr 9pm. Then there is homework and volunteering.

Lucky if they are in bed by 10pm.

That's worse that a life of a single adult working FT job When do these kids have any free time at all if their doing stuff from 6am to 10pm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a lot of your kids are sleeping their life away.

And some kids are overcommitted, exhausted or wasting their lives on screens. Do what works for your family.

It's probably because they have no life but screens if they wake up at 6 then do after school activities that end at 9-10. Find me an adult that does this and spends every evening at the gym or doing hobbies after working a full day with commute.

[Anonymous]

Only morning people post on this thread

It's whatever works for your family. Some people have jobs working diff time zones and shifts. If you aren't a 9-5 family school schedule is brutal for the entire family. Kids shouldn't be forced to wake up at 6am. We really should push back on early start times as this just makes kids sleep deprived. Also teens like free time to socialize and they squeeze screen time in on weekends staying late. I seriously doubt all of you monitor what your kids do in their rooms after the "bedtime". My friends HS kids are up playing videogames and chatting way late even on school days and on the weekends it's all hell breaking loose, they are up till 2-3am. Not sure how these kids function.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My rising junior aims to be in bed by 9 and asleep 9:30. Good sleep habits have served her very well so far.

High school sports practices and orchestra / theater rehearsals end at 9pm. Sports practices are usually 3 hours (including warm ups). Game days they have team dinner immediately after school then for away games they get back aftwr 9pm. Then there is homework and volunteering.

Lucky if they are in bed by 10pm.

Fair but the poster is asking about a 7th grader, many of whom are not going to have activities that end at 9PM. My kid is entering 7th, his sports practices are over by 7 and scouts is done by 8:30. High school students have differnet schedules and a slightly later start time to their school day.

My DCs’ MS extracircular schedules were not different than HS.

[Anonymous]

Wind down 8:30 (reading) lights out by 9:00

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8th grader and 11th grader goes to bed when they want. I think it’s wise to teach kids about judgment and natural consequences this way. They make it a point to go to bed earlier when they’ve miscalculated the night before or have a test. This is a pretty low risk example of slowly introducing more freedom/responsibility. We had bedtime rules in place until 7th grade.

+1

Kids in high school having to go to bed at 9 is nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My rising junior aims to be in bed by 9 and asleep 9:30. Good sleep habits have served her very well so far.

High school sports practices and orchestra / theater rehearsals end at 9pm. Sports practices are usually 3 hours (including warm ups). Game days they have team dinner immediately after school then for away games they get back aftwr 9pm. Then there is homework and volunteering.

Lucky if they are in bed by 10pm.

That's worse that a life of a single adult working FT job When do these kids have any free time at all if their doing stuff from 6am to 10pm?

Why do they need free time? They spend their time doing what they need and want to do (school, sports, hobbies, work part time). All of those are done around peers. Really not sure what a 15 year old would do with free time that is productive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My rising junior aims to be in bed by 9 and asleep 9:30. Good sleep habits have served her very well so far.

High school sports practices and orchestra / theater rehearsals end at 9pm. Sports practices are usually 3 hours (including warm ups). Game days they have team dinner immediately after school then for away games they get back aftwr 9pm. Then there is homework and volunteering.

Lucky if they are in bed by 10pm.

That's worse that a life of a single adult working FT job When do these kids have any free time at all if their doing stuff from 6am to 10pm?

Why do they need free time? They spend their time doing what they need and want to do (school, sports, hobbies, work part time). All of those are done around peers. Really not sure what a 15 year old would do with free time that is productive.

Downtime and being bored are shown to have academic benefits. It is said that so many kids do not know how to operate outside of structure. A few years ago — maybe 10-15 — classes started forming to teach kids how to play (another necessary step in human development).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My rising junior aims to be in bed by 9 and asleep 9:30. Good sleep habits have served her very well so far.

High school sports practices and orchestra / theater rehearsals end at 9pm. Sports practices are usually 3 hours (including warm ups). Game days they have team dinner immediately after school then for away games they get back aftwr 9pm. Then there is homework and volunteering.

Lucky if they are in bed by 10pm.

That's worse that a life of a single adult working FT job When do these kids have any free time at all if their doing stuff from 6am to 10pm?

Why do they need free time? They spend their time doing what they need and want to do (school, sports, hobbies, work part time). All of those are done around peers. Really not sure what a 15 year old would do with free time that is productive.

Downtime and being bored are shown to have academic benefits. It is said that so many kids do not know how to operate outside of structure. A few years ago — maybe 10-15 — classes started forming to teach kids how to play (another necessary step in human development).

Very true.

[Anonymous]

My 7th grader (now 8th) took a nap right after school and before sports. Then at sports until after 9 pm. Do whatever works and expect kids will get made fun of for everything in 7th, no matter what they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My rising junior aims to be in bed by 9 and asleep 9:30. Good sleep habits have served her very well so far.

High school sports practices and orchestra / theater rehearsals end at 9pm. Sports practices are usually 3 hours (including warm ups). Game days they have team dinner immediately after school then for away games they get back aftwr 9pm. Then there is homework and volunteering.

Lucky if they are in bed by 10pm.

That's worse that a life of a single adult working FT job When do these kids have any free time at all if their doing stuff from 6am to 10pm?

Why do they need free time? They spend their time doing what they need and want to do (school, sports, hobbies, work part time). All of those are done around peers. Really not sure what a 15 year old would do with free time that is productive.

Because they're kids, that's why? Adults don't have much free time, that's why childhood is so much better. Yiu dudbt have free time in your childhood? All you dud was school, homework and activities?? Seems sad to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only morning people post on this thread

It's whatever works for your family. Some people have jobs working diff time zones and shifts. If you aren't a 9-5 family school schedule is brutal for the entire family. Kids shouldn't be forced to wake up at 6am. We really should push back on early start times as this just makes kids sleep deprived. Also teens like free time to socialize and they squeeze screen time in on weekends staying late. I seriously doubt all of you monitor what your kids do in their rooms after the "bedtime". [/b]My friends HS kids are up playing videogames and chatting way late even on school days and on the weekends it's all hell breaking loose, they are up till 2-3am. Not sure how these kids function.

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I know since I work with teenagers! My kids were not allowed to have any electronics in their room after 9:30.