Son’s GF driving family nuts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can talk to your son. I wouldn’t say anything to GF.

Expect every word you say to get back to his GF. My DH and I got together very young and he did not have the maturity to filter his mom’s criticisms when talking to me. It caused permanent damage to the relationship.

This. My DD is the gf in similar relationship. He tells her every word ever said by his parents.

[Anonymous]

I’m confused , the examples you gave are about his behavior not hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh no, did mommys little baby boy finally grow up? Mommy doesn't like how widdle baby is with his girlfwend?

Grow the F up, you sound so creepy. He is your son, he's allowed to be giddy and in love and goofy with her. You sound like you are jealous of your son's girlfriend and that's not a good look.

You must be very lonely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused , the examples you gave are about his behavior not hers.

Yes. I don’t want to go into too many details. There isn’t anything wrong with her. After reading through comments and having a think, the issue is really one of boundaries.

There are things you are ok with guests present and other things that are more family only.

Anyway, I think we are comfortable closing out this thread. I know I gave little details and I actually got really good food for thought considering how little I shared so I appreciate the time people put into it. It’s been very helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can talk to your son. I wouldn’t say anything to GF.

Expect every word you say to get back to his GF. My DH and I got together very young and he did not have the maturity to filter his mom’s criticisms when talking to me. It caused permanent damage to the relationship.

This. My DD is the gf in similar relationship. He tells her every word ever said by his parents.

How do you know? Did DD tell you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can talk to your son. I wouldn’t say anything to GF.

Expect every word you say to get back to his GF. My DH and I got together very young and he did not have the maturity to filter his mom’s criticisms when talking to me. It caused permanent damage to the relationship.

This. My DD is the gf in similar relationship. He tells her every word ever said by his parents.

How do you know? Did DD tell you?

DP. BFs often tell their gf what parents say about them. Guys at that age can be really, ah, not smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nephew brought home his college girlfriend and she talks non stop. However it has been good as they have never lived together and now spending 24/7 together for a couple weeks has led to him seeing her a little differently. Chatty is cute on a date but non stop talking around the clock is a lot less cute. Being together all the time and with family gives them a new perspective on their partner.

It’s all relative.

Maybe you’re an introvert who hates to talk and wants to “decompress” in silence after work a few hours. So everyone else who talks to each other at dinner or in the kitchen is “crazy”. To you.