Son’s GF driving family nuts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can talk to your son. I wouldn’t say anything to GF.

Expect every word you say to get back to his GF. My DH and I got together very young and he did not have the maturity to filter his mom’s criticisms when talking to me. It caused permanent damage to the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Tell your son how much you like her! It will immediately turn him off her. Also, try to think of this as one of the many episodes in his life that you can look back and laugh about. I had a boyfriend that my family affectionately (?) called Dudley Do-Right. I really liked him - apparently my family did not. Now we look back and laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the responses. I got what I needed.

And about the “cues” yes I realized that after but …

OP, what are YOU smoking? lol.

[Anonymous]

Say absolutely nothing! If you want a relationship with your adult son, keep quiet.

[Anonymous]

Nowhere did you describe specific behaviors, so it looks as though you just don't like that your son has a girlfriend, OP.

If they're wrapped up in each other, with no consideration for others, and get up late, make noise late at night, flake on getting together with the rest of the family, don't clean up after themselves - you know, the usual - then you say so. Firmly, clearly, no anger. Just a reminder of how adults are supposed to act in the house and in your company.

But no banishment, unless you want your kid to leave early for college, hide his relationships and not see you again for a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drug test him

Might as well face it: He's addicted to love.

[Anonymous]

Op you need to cut those apron strings get a dog or a hobby. Your son is an adult now. Be happy for him and find another project for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Son came back from college with first real GF. They are inseparable. Son’s brain functioning seems sub optimal in her presence and his ability to decipher social queues, while never a strength, has completely vanished.

We only have a few more weeks of this madness so should we 1) just endure it; August will pass quickly 2) sit them both down and explain how polite people interact with other family members or 3) banish gf for remainder of summer?

What I'm getting from this is envy that your son has a most fun relationship with his GF than you do with your spouse, or that you are jealous of the other woman competing for his attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your son how much you like her! It will immediately turn him off her. Also, try to think of this as one of the many episodes in his life that you can look back and laugh about. I had a boyfriend that my family affectionately (?) called Dudley Do-Right. I really liked him - apparently my family did not. Now we look back and laugh.

Sounds like an unkind bunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you need to cut those apron strings get a dog or a hobby. Your son is an adult now. Be happy for him and find another project for yourself.

OP can argue that this adult is staying at her home with another unpaid guest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say absolutely nothing! If you want a relationship with your adult son, keep quiet.

+1. Please try to remember what you were like when you were young and in love.

[Anonymous]

Oh no, did mommys little baby boy finally grow up? Mommy doesn't like how widdle baby is with his girlfwend?

Grow the F up, you sound so creepy. He is your son, he's allowed to be giddy and in love and goofy with her. You sound like you are jealous of your son's girlfriend and that's not a good look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the responses. I got what I needed.

And about the “cues” yes I realized that after but …

OP, what are YOU smoking? lol.

Why do you have a problem with what I wrote? I was acknowledging my misspelling in my original post. Was there something wrong with that? Why do you really need to attack me for acknowledging an error? Is that wrong? Why are you such an a$$?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op you need to cut those apron strings get a dog or a hobby. Your son is an adult now. Be happy for him and find another project for yourself.

OP can argue that this adult is staying at her home with another unpaid guest.

Yep. Many of the responses though have been helpful. I appreciate all the different POVs

[Anonymous]

I would just deal with it and hope she moves on quickly.