Is this tacky for a teen athlete? Swimmer displaying every trophy, medal, photo, etc. at a party

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22:09 and none of them played in college. These were rec and travel youth and HS sports. They never wanted the attention.

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Anonymous wrote:Like the moms who post report cards or GPAs on facebook. Read the room.

People do this?

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You're gross, OP. Just don't go to people's parties if you can't think nice thoughts.

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Grew up in the Midwest and this was normal. We had huge scrapbooks that the team parents would make for graduating seniors from each team, plus you’d out your letter jacket out on a hanger and things like Girl Scout vests (if you did it all those years), orchestra awards, etc.

It was totally standard and usually in the area in the dining room by the gift table, the anutograph hound and the sheet cake . It’s just something to make conversation over during open houses.

And to answer the August question: I went to multiple graduation parties from June-August all through HS. It was normal to stagger them within friend groups to avoid overlap and keep socializing over an otherwise transitional summer.

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Anonymous wrote:You're gross, OP. Just don't go to people's parties if you can't think nice thoughts.

This. Come on. It’s not like you went to an open house of a house for sale. These are people who mean something to you presumably if they invited you to their daughter’s graduation party. What a jerk. The party is to celebrate her accomplishments in her youth as she moves on to the next stage of her life. Just try to be happy for her and recognize her parents are proud of her.

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Tonihhhs the weekend

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Tonight’s the weekend

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Anonymous wrote:Grew up in the Midwest and this was normal. We had huge scrapbooks that the team parents would make for graduating seniors from each team, plus you’d out your letter jacket out on a hanger and things like Girl Scout vests (if you did it all those years), orchestra awards, etc.

It was totally standard and usually in the area in the dining room by the gift table, the anutograph hound and the sheet cake . It’s just something to make conversation over during open houses.

I think that’s a lovely tradition. Kids deserve to be celebrated at the end of HS whether their accomplishments are objectively impressive or not. Most of us are just average after all - if your family can’t be proud of you, who can?

And to answer the August question: I went to multiple graduation parties from June-August all through HS. It was normal to stagger them within friend groups to avoid overlap and keep socializing over an otherwise transitional summer.

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Anonymous wrote:Grew up in the Midwest and this was normal. We had huge scrapbooks that the team parents would make for graduating seniors from each team, plus you’d out your letter jacket out on a hanger and things like Girl Scout vests (if you did it all those years), orchestra awards, etc.

It was totally standard and usually in the area in the dining room by the gift table, the anutograph hound and the sheet cake . It’s just something to make conversation over during open houses.

And to answer the August question: I went to multiple graduation parties from June-August all through HS. It was normal to stagger them within friend groups to avoid overlap and keep socializing over an otherwise transitional summer.

I think that’s a lovely tradition. Kids deserve to be celebrated at the end of HS whether their accomplishments are objectively impressive or not. Most of us are just average after all - if your family can’t be proud of you, who can?

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Anonymous wrote:It seems fine. A high schooler celebrating the end of her childhood, including rec sports.

Not everything is tacky, don't be a hater.

It's their party. Who TF cares? I would hate to have a. "friend" like you, attending and then criticizing every thing

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It’s their party they can celebrate little nothings if they want to

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Anonymous wrote:Why is this person graduating in August?

Probably having the party right before going off to college.

I assume the display was the parents’ idea so I wouldn’t hold it against the kid. And honestly, out of all the awful things in the world, overly eager parents gushing about their kid hardly ranks.

I remember when I was first admitted to law school my dad would tell any and everyone who would listen including random strangers in line at the grocery store (I was also the first in my family to go to college). It was mortifying, but also sweet. Just assume these parents are coming from a good (even if a bit awkward) place OP and it will make life more pleasant.

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That many trophies suggests someone who is dedicated to a sport and hard working. Especially for someone who may be mediocre. They could have quit and gotten none, but here they are spending time at an activity to collect enough trophies to make someone mad their kid doesn’t have any.

Why go to a party for someone you can’t be happy for?

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Anonymous wrote:You're gross, OP. Just don't go to people's parties if you can't think nice thoughts.

This. Come on. It’s not like you went to an open house of a house for sale. These are people who mean something to you presumably if they invited you to their daughter’s graduation party. What a jerk. The party is to celebrate her accomplishments in her youth as she moves on to the next stage of her life. Just try to be happy for her and recognize her parents are proud of her.

+1. Ate you that insecure that you can’t just be happy for the kid?

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Anonymous wrote:We attended a high school graduation party last weekend. The young lady is an above average but certainly not a great swimmer, yet if you looked at the immense display, you'd think she was over in Paris competing in the Olympics. It is that easy to rack up awards and pageantry if you enter enough tournaments and teams or something? Seemed very odd and tacky, to us.

yes this sounds like it was tacky