Do I just need to go off social media for a year??
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Anonymous
| One of the moments during which I lost a ton of respect for my parents was when they insulted my best friend for getting into Yale, a school I was rejected from after applying early. I recommend getting off the internet so that you can avoid doing the same. |
Anonymous
| I tell my kids life is like a game of chutes and ladders. You go up, sometimes really high, and go down, sometimes really far. Then you go back up and down again. Others may get there before you, but eventually you get to the finish line. The end. |
Anonymous
Not to single out Swarthmore, because this is typical for top SLACs, but since you did: Proportion of URMs on Swarthmore sports teams: Men’s Basketball 3/17 Men’s Tennis 0/15 Men’s Swimming 2/28 Women’s softball 1/17 Women’s basketball 5/15 Women’s Field Hockey 0/25 I could have gone on, but I was beginning to feel sick to my stomach… Social justice means nothing at these schools with athletic (white, non-URM) preferences so ingrained for 30% of a freshman class. And certainly not helping “diversity” when the majority of white kids on campus are athletes (Swarthmore is only 32% domestic white). |
Anonymous
This is great perspective. They are all about to move to the next (very exciting stage) of their life. Where Larla from 12th grade homeroom went to college really doesn't matter. |
Anonymous
I doubt they are unhooked. Full pay is a hook. |
Anonymous
A few teens (kids of friends) connected with me when they were 13. It’s very funny because they wanted to be on Facebook and have lots of connections but they had not realized all the kids were on instagram. lol. They barely use Facebook now yet kept their accounts. They are still connected to me, and they rarely post to FB. |
Anonymous
| It will be a long year. Do what you need to do! Hang in there. |
Anonymous
It's a lot more fun to be proud of your friends than to be jealous, petty or competitive with them. My kid enjoys being on a couple of varsity sports, but won't get recruited. I'm glad he's learned to be genuinely happy for his friends and their accomplishments. He feels like they are good friends to him too. Please stop yourself from being that toxic parent. There is so much to lose and so little to gain. |
Anonymous
| I feel so proud of all the kids I know from my kid’s high school. Kids have found different places to go, some exploring new fields, some chasing long term passions. It’s really exciting to see where they have ended up. We are lucky in America to have so many options for higher education. No one school is “perfect” or the best. No one school is perfect for even one student; there are multiple paths any one kid can take to success. America also is a land of second chances, especially if you are willing to work hard and learn. |
Anonymous
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committing to college for athletics is a different animal in my opinion. these kids will be "working" for their colleges, almost like having a job. their experience will be different. I'm happy for them if that's the path they want, but also don't feel any envy.
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Anonymous
Building on this, while I'm sure it's nice to go have the college decision settled.bwfore senior year begins, it doesn't leave any room for pleasant surprises, i.e. the school your kid throws in the last-minute application tonl which winds up being "the one." |
Anonymous
| I've heard of instances (rare) in which the coach does not follow through with the ED athletic applicant. Does announcing the plan help with that? |
Anonymous
Full pay means nothing at an Ivy. Literally nothing. They are needs blind admissions |
Anonymous
Try April. My kid got 2 Ivies, 2 T10s and a few T20s RD in the spring. Did not ED. I have had many reaching out to ask where’s he’s going because he never posted to the school Instagram page and I never mentioned it on my own page which I seldom post. |
Anonymous
| Yes you should get off for good |