Sibling living in deceased parent’s home

[Anonymous]

We have two of DH's brothers living in his deceased parents' house indefinitely. Probably until they die. The house is ours by legal title and we pay the taxes. Sure we could evict them. Are we going to? Of course not. There are some mighty unfeeling people on this website. Until it happens to you and you are in this position, don't give advice about starting legal proceedings against sibs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the executor and the house is probably about 40 percent of the estate. We haven’t started probate yet as we’ve trying to give sibling time to sort themselves out, grieve, figure out job…

Sibling seems to think parent would have wanted me to leave home available for as long as needed. I’ve been trying to be reasonable and don’t want to have to evict my sibling, but by the same token, having this hanging over me and my family is stressful because anything could go wrong with the home, and we’d have to then deal with it. I’m just ready to be done with this and move on. Is a year too short?

If you parents intended them to have the house, they would have left it to them in the will (equitable or not).

This is not necessarily true. I know a lot of African American families where I am from where the parent leaves the house to all siblings but with the understanding whoever needs to will be allowed to live there. I also know Af Am families where the parent leaves the house to the most responsible sibling but with the express understanding that that sibling will look after the house, make sure the taxes get paid, and let the less successful sibling live there.

[Anonymous]

Your parent’s Will stated that the assets be divided up. As the executor, you don’t have the authority to change the Will - your job is to follow the will. He doesn’t want to start emptying the house either. So what, the things aren’t HIS, they belong to the estate.