Divorced 2 years still not enthusiastic about dating

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My only warning to you would be to be careful with casual hookups. Soon after my divorce I got into the FWBs thingy, but it didn't work out. Each one of the FWBs after a few months were excepting something serious. 1 explicitly asked. 2 said they would continue having sex only if we became exclusive. They were all in their 40s. I don't do anything with anyone under 30 because they are either looking for kids/marriage or a serious boyfriend. I thought women in the 40s would be better nope. Thats just my experience.

Yea, too bad women tend to get naturally attached though having sex. Maybe you should consider a poly arrangement with one “prime” and others coming over for threesomes. I know someone who does it, but he’s got hundreds of millions and bandwidth for all women in his “pride”

Please don’t speak for all women. I don’t get “attached” though having sex.

She is not wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My only warning to you would be to be careful with casual hookups. Soon after my divorce I got into the FWBs thingy, but it didn't work out. Each one of the FWBs after a few months were excepting something serious. 1 explicitly asked. 2 said they would continue having sex only if we became exclusive. They were all in their 40s. I don't do anything with anyone under 30 because they are either looking for kids/marriage or a serious boyfriend. I thought women in the 40s would be better nope. Thats just my experience.

Yea, too bad women tend to get naturally attached though having sex. Maybe you should consider a poly arrangement with one “prime” and others coming over for threesomes. I know someone who does it, but he’s got hundreds of millions and bandwidth for all women in his “pride”

Please don’t speak for all women. I don’t get “attached” though having sex.

+1. I am a woman. I don’t get attached to men through sex. I’m always the one who ends it after about a year. Mid 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My only warning to you would be to be careful with casual hookups. Soon after my divorce I got into the FWBs thingy, but it didn't work out. Each one of the FWBs after a few months were excepting something serious. 1 explicitly asked. 2 said they would continue having sex only if we became exclusive. They were all in their 40s. I don't do anything with anyone under 30 because they are either looking for kids/marriage or a serious boyfriend. I thought women in the 40s would be better nope. Thats just my experience.

Yea, too bad women tend to get naturally attached though having sex. Maybe you should consider a poly arrangement with one “prime” and others coming over for threesomes. I know someone who does it, but he’s got hundreds of millions and bandwidth for all women in his “pride”

Please don’t speak for all women. I don’t get “attached” though having sex.

+1. I am a woman. I don’t get attached to men through sex. I’m always the one who ends it after about a year. Mid 40s.

Both of you are exceptions - there is vast research proving the opposite. Most women need consistency to be fulfilled . Of course sex is not the main driver of attachments, but it’s silly to deny that biologically it works like a glue /couple bonding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced 4 years. I am completely done with dating (woman here). I tried, it sucks. Not worth my time or energy. I would never ever remarry or live with someone ever again.

Do you have FWBs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My only warning to you would be to be careful with casual hookups. Soon after my divorce I got into the FWBs thingy, but it didn't work out. Each one of the FWBs after a few months were excepting something serious. 1 explicitly asked. 2 said they would continue having sex only if we became exclusive. They were all in their 40s. I don't do anything with anyone under 30 because they are either looking for kids/marriage or a serious boyfriend. I thought women in the 40s would be better nope. Thats just my experience.

Yea, too bad women tend to get naturally attached though having sex. Maybe you should consider a poly arrangement with one “prime” and others coming over for threesomes. I know someone who does it, but he’s got hundreds of millions and bandwidth for all women in his “pride”

Please don’t speak for all women. I don’t get “attached” though having sex.

+1. I am a woman. I don’t get attached to men through sex. I’m always the one who ends it after about a year. Mid 40s.

Both of you are exceptions - there is vast research proving the opposite. Most women need consistency to be fulfilled . Of course sex is not the main driver of attachments, but it’s silly to deny that biologically it works like a glue /couple bonding

That’s just not true though. I think it’s a myth people keep perpetuating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced 4 years. I am completely done with dating (woman here). I tried, it sucks. Not worth my time or energy. I would never ever remarry or live with someone ever again.

Do you have FWBs?

I have in the past but not now—it’s more trouble than it’s worth even when they’re 15 or 20 years younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced 4 years. I am completely done with dating (woman here). I tried, it sucks. Not worth my time or energy. I would never ever remarry or live with someone ever again.

Do you have FWBs?

I have in the past but not now—it’s more trouble than it’s worth even when they’re 15 or 20 years younger.

And some get addicted to I know I did....when I was 24 I dated a 38 and when she told me we had to end it I was so heart broken ....I felt in love with her but she didn't want to love again she had a bad divorce

[Anonymous]

Who are all you people who are managing to find FWBs 15-20 years younger? How do you even manage that?

...you probably still have all your hair, don't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are all you people who are managing to find FWBs 15-20 years younger? How do you even manage that?

...you probably still have all your hair, don't you?

I am a woman and look much younger. Not hard. Very easy. Tons of people are interested. I say no a lot. But I have had a few.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are all you people who are managing to find FWBs 15-20 years younger? How do you even manage that?

...you probably still have all your hair, don't you?

I am a woman and look much younger. Not hard. Very easy. Tons of people are interested. I say no a lot. But I have had a few.

Do you make them do std test for HSV2? Or always condoms ? They are np exclusive with you right ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all you people who are managing to find FWBs 15-20 years younger? How do you even manage that?

...you probably still have all your hair, don't you?

I am a woman and look much younger. Not hard. Very easy. Tons of people are interested. I say no a lot. But I have had a few.

Do you make them do std test for HSV2? Or always condoms ? They are np exclusive with you right ?

Most doctors won’t do a test for HSV2. Mine won’t. I do talk about STDs. I use condoms. Yes, they have been exclusive unless lying. I am not dating now though. It’s not worth my time even though I can get hot and young options. When I see someone, it usually lasts about eight months to a year and then I end it. I have been divorced 4.5 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it normal not to feel any desire to date 2 years post divorce? Indo want to date but I don't feel any enthusiasm. I did therapy for 1 year. My testosterone levels which I thought could be an issue turned to be great at 45.

I have just been focusing on my hobbies, diet, fitness, career, kids and occasional outings with friends. In a way I feel great I am happy, my income double since my divorce, just closed on a house.

Every time I am ready to start an OLD profile I just give up halfway and go back to something else.

How long did it take you to feel like you were ready to date post divorce?

Yes, of course. Plenty of women decide never to date/marry again so why not men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who are all you people who are managing to find FWBs 15-20 years younger? How do you even manage that?

...you probably still have all your hair, don't you?

I am a woman and look much younger. Not hard. Very easy. Tons of people are interested. I say no a lot. But I have had a few.

Do you make them do std test for HSV2? Or always condoms ? They are np exclusive with you right ?

Most doctors won’t do a test for HSV2. Mine won’t. I do talk about STDs. I use condoms. Yes, they have been exclusive unless lying. I am not dating now though. It’s not worth my time even though I can get hot and young options. When I see someone, it usually lasts about eight months to a year and then I end it. I have been divorced 4.5 years.

As I see so you probably have HSV2 yourself and don’t care. You can get a test for $40 with online labcorp referral not that expensive or hard. Usually those who don’t do it have breakouts

[Anonymous]

I’m not PP but I’m a woman and my partners tend to be younger. I don’t hook up randomly. When I find someone I want to be exclusive with we both test. I go to la core for a full panel. Pp was incorrect they test for hsv 1 and 2 and you should be tested. I don’t like condoms so proceed unsheathed once we share results.

Just because I won’t marry and take younger lover don’t assume I’m a slut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not PP but I’m a woman and my partners tend to be younger. I don’t hook up randomly. When I find someone I want to be exclusive with we both test. I go to la core for a full panel. Pp was incorrect they test for hsv 1 and 2 and you should be tested. I don’t like condoms so proceed unsheathed once we share results.

Just because I won’t marry and take younger lover don’t assume I’m a slut.

What birth control do you use?