If your kid wants to bring instrument and math book on vacation

[Anonymous]

Hotel? No instrument. Otherwise it’s fine

[Anonymous]

No to the instrument for logistical reasons. Yes to everything else. In fact, I do make my kids do “homework” on vacation! 15-30 minutes a day either in the early morning or during the youngest’s nap time. And they would do this anyway, but I remind them to bring plenty of books for reading. As you can probably tell, we do very limited screentime, really only to relax together at the end of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No to the instrument for logistical reasons. Yes to everything else. In fact, I do make my kids do “homework” on vacation! 15-30 minutes a day either in the early morning or during the youngest’s nap time. And they would do this anyway, but I remind them to bring plenty of books for reading. As you can probably tell, we do very limited screentime, really only to relax together at the end of the day.

I can tell you've taught your kids that the two choices are work or relaxing with screens. Poor kids, you're setting them up for addiction as soon as those restrictions drop.

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I am impressed.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a great kid. How is this bad?

Neuroticism maybe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So DC wants to bring instrument + sheet music (to practice and get “really really good at it”), and math workbook (because “math is fun”) on a trip, along with chapter books for reading AND a craft. Yes I do sometimes wonder about ADHD…

Do you let them take “work” on long trips, or encourage them to just soak up vacation and family time? DH says it’s fine, but I wonder if I need to enforce a break.

Enforce a break? If the kid wants it and you have space I don't see a problem.

Is this a 'humble' brag? My kud us so amazing becsuse he wants to do math and practice his instrument on vacation?

You know this isn't a problem ...lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So DC wants to bring instrument + sheet music (to practice and get “really really good at it”), and math workbook (because “math is fun”) on a trip, along with chapter books for reading AND a craft. Yes I do sometimes wonder about ADHD…

Do you let them take “work” on long trips, or encourage them to just soak up vacation and family time? DH says it’s fine, but I wonder if I need to enforce a break.

Enforce a break? If the kid wants it and you have space I don't see a problem.

Is this a 'humble' brag? My kud us so amazing becsuse he wants to do math and practice his instrument on vacation?

You know this isn't a problem ...lol!

OP isn't giving out any information, so probably not legit. But it's a problem if your kid is a rigid schedule follower who won't engage in any new activities on vacation and wants to follow the same schedule at home of math books and instrument practice. That's not healthy. Unless you're the type of parents who wants to brag about your kid who can't take a break and obsessively does math workbooks to avoid having to try anything new or break the routine.

[Anonymous]

This is what my kids did sometimes, OP. But then DH is a mathematician, I'm a research scientist, we love classical music... this is normal for us. It did/will help our kids get into good colleges, so why would you worry about it?

[Anonymous]

Yes, but no music at the hotel. That’s so, so, so rude. You don’t know who on the hall has a baby who finally got to sleep, or is suffering from jet lag, or got sick on their trip and is exhausted. Hotels are for sleeping. DC needs to play instrument outside somewhere. Otherwise, I see no problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So DC wants to bring instrument + sheet music (to practice and get “really really good at it”), and math workbook (because “math is fun”) on a trip, along with chapter books for reading AND a craft. Yes I do sometimes wonder about ADHD…

Do you let them take “work” on long trips, or encourage them to just soak up vacation and family time? DH says it’s fine, but I wonder if I need to enforce a break.

Enforce a break? If the kid wants it and you have space I don't see a problem.

Is this a 'humble' brag? My kud us so amazing becsuse he wants to do math and practice his instrument on vacation?

You know this isn't a problem ...lol!

OP isn't giving out any information, so probably not legit. But it's a problem if your kid is a rigid schedule follower who won't engage in any new activities on vacation and wants to follow the same schedule at home of math books and instrument practice. That's not healthy. Unless you're the type of parents who wants to brag about your kid who can't take a break and obsessively does math workbooks to avoid having to try anything new or break the routine.

Yes and no. Saying "rigid schedule follower" like it's a pejorative is unnecessarily judgmental. Some people like routine and enjoy academic stimulation and trying to force someone like that to give up their schedule or their favorite activities for what YOUR idea of fun is. You can introduce the idea of ensuring their schedule is *balanced* at that they make time for relaxation and fund and socializing. But you aren't going to convince a person who is like this to be NOT like this on vacation just because you don't think it's healthy.

I have a rule following kid who likes schedules and can be rigid. She makes a to-do list every day and likes to check it off. But over time I've made sure her list always includes stuff like exercising and spending time with people and doing something that is fun for her (keeping in mind that fun for her includes stuff like making and checking off to-do lists). On vacations she also has to do some stuff with the family that might not be her very favorite and she accepts this and doens't complain (too much).

You can't change someone's basic disposition and if you try you will likely just make the vacation worse for everyone. If you think it's annoying or weird for a kid to want to spend vacation doing math and practicing an instrument wait until you find out what someone like that is like when you try to force them to put those activities away and "have fun" with the family the whole time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No to the instrument for logistical reasons. Yes to everything else. In fact, I do make my kids do “homework” on vacation! 15-30 minutes a day either in the early morning or during the youngest’s nap time. And they would do this anyway, but I remind them to bring plenty of books for reading. As you can probably tell, we do very limited screentime, really only to relax together at the end of the day.

I can tell you've taught your kids that the two choices are work or relaxing with screens. Poor kids, you're setting them up for addiction as soon as those restrictions drop.

I hope you’ve taught your kids better reading comprehension skills than you have yourself! I literally said, they bring books for reading. That is their preferred form of r&r, not screens. They don’t even really ask for screens, and when they do we make it a group activity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So DC wants to bring instrument + sheet music (to practice and get “really really good at it”), and math workbook (because “math is fun”) on a trip, along with chapter books for reading AND a craft. Yes I do sometimes wonder about ADHD…

Do you let them take “work” on long trips, or encourage them to just soak up vacation and family time? DH says it’s fine, but I wonder if I need to enforce a break.

Enforce a break? If the kid wants it and you have space I don't see a problem.

Is this a 'humble' brag? My kud us so amazing becsuse he wants to do math and practice his instrument on vacation?

You know this isn't a problem ...lol!

OP isn't giving out any information, so probably not legit. But it's a problem if your kid is a rigid schedule follower who won't engage in any new activities on vacation and wants to follow the same schedule at home of math books and instrument practice. That's not healthy. Unless you're the type of parents who wants to brag about your kid who can't take a break and obsessively does math workbooks to avoid having to try anything new or break the routine.

All of this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So DC wants to bring instrument + sheet music (to practice and get “really really good at it”), and math workbook (because “math is fun”) on a trip, along with chapter books for reading AND a craft. Yes I do sometimes wonder about ADHD…

Do you let them take “work” on long trips, or encourage them to just soak up vacation and family time? DH says it’s fine, but I wonder if I need to enforce a break.

Enforce a break? If the kid wants it and you have space I don't see a problem.

Is this a 'humble' brag? My kud us so amazing becsuse he wants to do math and practice his instrument on vacation?

You know this isn't a problem ...lol!

OP isn't giving out any information, so probably not legit. But it's a problem if your kid is a rigid schedule follower who won't engage in any new activities on vacation and wants to follow the same schedule at home of math books and instrument practice. That's not healthy. Unless you're the type of parents who wants to brag about your kid who can't take a break and obsessively does math workbooks to avoid having to try anything new or break the routine.

Yes and no. Saying "rigid schedule follower" like it's a pejorative is unnecessarily judgmental. Some people like routine and enjoy academic stimulation and trying to force someone like that to give up their schedule or their favorite activities for what YOUR idea of fun is. You can introduce the idea of ensuring their schedule is *balanced* at that they make time for relaxation and fund and socializing. But you aren't going to convince a person who is like this to be NOT like this on vacation just because you don't think it's healthy.

I have a rule following kid who likes schedules and can be rigid. She makes a to-do list every day and likes to check it off. But over time I've made sure her list always includes stuff like exercising and spending time with people and doing something that is fun for her (keeping in mind that fun for her includes stuff like making and checking off to-do lists). On vacations she also has to do some stuff with the family that might not be her very favorite and she accepts this and doens't complain (too much).

You can't change someone's basic disposition and if you try you will likely just make the vacation worse for everyone. If you think it's annoying or weird for a kid to want to spend vacation doing math and practicing an instrument wait until you find out what someone like that is like when you try to force them to put those activities away and "have fun" with the family the whole time.

You have a really weird kid and that’s fine too

[Anonymous]

My favorite vacation of all time was when I was 8 and spent the entire week at old orchard beach in Maine teaching myself how to do a back handspring. Best summer was when I was the first kid in my grade to hit 100 books at the library.
Such good memories, why would you take that away from a kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So DC wants to bring instrument + sheet music (to practice and get “really really good at it”), and math workbook (because “math is fun”) on a trip, along with chapter books for reading AND a craft. Yes I do sometimes wonder about ADHD…

Do you let them take “work” on long trips, or encourage them to just soak up vacation and family time? DH says it’s fine, but I wonder if I need to enforce a break.

Enforce a break? If the kid wants it and you have space I don't see a problem.

Is this a 'humble' brag? My kud us so amazing becsuse he wants to do math and practice his instrument on vacation?

You know this isn't a problem ...lol!

OP isn't giving out any information, so probably not legit. But it's a problem if your kid is a rigid schedule follower who won't engage in any new activities on vacation and wants to follow the same schedule at home of math books and instrument practice. That's not healthy. Unless you're the type of parents who wants to brag about your kid who can't take a break and obsessively does math workbooks to avoid having to try anything new or break the routine.

Yes and no. Saying "rigid schedule follower" like it's a pejorative is unnecessarily judgmental. Some people like routine and enjoy academic stimulation and trying to force someone like that to give up their schedule or their favorite activities for what YOUR idea of fun is. You can introduce the idea of ensuring their schedule is *balanced* at that they make time for relaxation and fund and socializing. But you aren't going to convince a person who is like this to be NOT like this on vacation just because you don't think it's healthy.

I have a rule following kid who likes schedules and can be rigid. She makes a to-do list every day and likes to check it off. But over time I've made sure her list always includes stuff like exercising and spending time with people and doing something that is fun for her (keeping in mind that fun for her includes stuff like making and checking off to-do lists). On vacations she also has to do some stuff with the family that might not be her very favorite and she accepts this and doens't complain (too much).

You can't change someone's basic disposition and if you try you will likely just make the vacation worse for everyone. If you think it's annoying or weird for a kid to want to spend vacation doing math and practicing an instrument wait until you find out what someone like that is like when you try to force them to put those activities away and "have fun" with the family the whole time.

Yeah ok. Thats a lot of words to agree with me. You just don’t care if your kid branches out much. Moderation is important which is why you make her participate in family activities.