If your husband drinks, does he pre-drink before you go to dinner?

[Anonymous]

My husband has done this sometimes. I don’t think the delay in buzz is the issue, it’s more that he’d rather not pay for 2-3 drinks of expensive alcohol there when he can have one prior at home and then one at dinner. I drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My entire extended family does this. No one has ever had social, occupational, legal, or medical consequences of drinking, so I would say that we aren’t alcoholics.
But it’s part of the ritual of going out. Everyone gets dressed and then we meet up in the kitchen or the family room for a glass of wine before we leave.

You're describing a social ritual. The OP is describing a purposeful act to walk into a restaurant buzzed and if he can't do it, he doesn't bother to drink at the restaurant.

An alcoholic will always drink. Drinking is dosing and more people should see it this way vs social ritual.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he has an alcohol issue if he needs the social lubricant to go to a restaurant.

For what it is worth, I work in addiction counseling - but I would definitely keep an eye on that behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ummmm, no. My husband drinks socially. His goal is not to get buzzed. If he ever accidentally get buzzed, he asks me to drive or we would make a plan to get a ride or take an Uber.

Desiring a buzz and putting so much into achieving and maintaining it is beyond weird and not normal, social drinking behavior.

This - the active need to have the buzz is what is concerning.

[Anonymous]

Buzzed driving?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My entire extended family does this. No one has ever had social, occupational, legal, or medical consequences of drinking, so I would say that we aren’t alcoholics.
But it’s part of the ritual of going out. Everyone gets dressed and then we meet up in the kitchen or the family room for a glass of wine before we leave.

You're describing a social ritual. The OP is describing a purposeful act to walk into a restaurant buzzed and if he can't do it, he doesn't bother to drink at the restaurant.

I guess you could say that. But it’s not like we all sit around drinking tea if we are going somewhere that doesn’t involve alcohol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buzzed driving?

Why do people keeping posting this, when the whole premise of OP's post is that he DH *doesn't* get buzzed for an hour or so after a drink. That's why he pregames -- so the buzz will hit when he's at the restaurant.

P.S. Most people can drive just fine after one or two drinks.

[Anonymous]

"Pre-gaming" = alcoholic behavior.

Needing to have a buzz is alcoholic behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is alcoholic behavior if you ask me.

- Alcoholic

That sums up a lot of people.

- A person that doesn’t drink alcohol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is alcoholic behavior if you ask me.

- Alcoholic

That sums up a lot of people.

- A person that doesn’t drink alcohol

And a lot of people have alcoholic behavior, but deny it.

-true social drinker, maybe 20 drinks/year

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband says he likes to have a cocktail or two an hour or so before going to a restaurant because otherwise any drink(s) he has at the restaurant won't provide much if any buzz or social lubricant until after we leave, if not after we return home. In other words, whether it's just us or meeting others out, he likes to walk into the restaurant with a little buzz and maintain it with restaurant wine or cocktails.

It only takes me a single glass of wine or a pint of beer to quickly feel a buzz, so I can't relate to such a delay.

Is this normal for a man? He's a normal height and weight and not some alcoholic with a high tolerance. He would and often does choose to simply not drink alcohol at all at a restaurant if it's not viable for him to pre-drink. He just doesn't see the point if the boozy buzz doesn't happen while you're out.

No and if he is driving you are sickening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dcum is so weird about alcohol.

Presumably a lot of Muslims and Mormons post here? Plus status conscious prole strivers who are obsessed with all things classy and image.

[Anonymous]

Ah, the “dress drunk(s).” Another rung on the way to a diagnosis.

[Anonymous]

dress drink(s) not drunks(s)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buzzed driving?

They can walk, Uber or Lyft or take public transport.