Social Media oversharing and children's rights

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about other people posting pics of your kids on their accounts. Like at social gatherings or parties? I have a no social media policy but it’s now at the point where I cant control who’s posting group pics of my kids and I don’t really want to be the overzealous person messaging every parent.

If this is how you feel then tell your child not to be in the pictures.

[Anonymous]

Any adult who regularly consumes social media is mentally deficient and their children are all but doomed to the same.

"But I only follow ABC topic." - Mentally deficient

"I only share pictures privately with my family." - Mentally deficient

"How else would we learn about community events?" - Mentally deficient

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What about other people posting pics of your kids on their accounts. Like at social gatherings or parties? I have a no social media policy but it’s now at the point where I cant control who’s posting group pics of my kids and I don’t really want to be the overzealous person messaging every parent.

If you're in public then you have no expectation of privacy.

What exactly is public? A friend's bday party at their house?

I struggle with this. My child is 19 mo old and i have asked people to take down photos a few times, especially if we aren't that close. Like I get that it is prob okay, I just wonder what will be possible with all this info and shared photos in 10/15 years.

Wow I find that so bizarre (not your reaction- that people are already posting pictures of your kid when she’s not even a toddler!) I get it as kids get older— bday parties, camp, soccer practice, ok— but someone else’s baby?? Who is doing this?? Do they just constantly over share on social media? Weird.

I mean, my guess is PP was at a bbq with friends, holding her baby when someone snapped a candid shot of the group and posted it on SM. I don’t post things like that but I wouldn’t ask anyone to take down pictures of my kid if it’s in a group shot of a party or something. I can’t imagine that being embarrassing to my kid in the long term; babies all basically look the same anyway. I actually think it’s worse to post pics of older kids without asking (especially without asking the kids themselves).

+1. I agree something like this probably occurred - esp if OP didn’t know the posters that well but was connected to them on social media. I think it’s a best practice to ask if someone minds if you post a picture of them/their children prior to taking it but since that’s not the norm probably best to ask if you have a preference when it comes to social media.

[Anonymous]

I don’t post on social media, especially not kid pics - but some of you are nutty and extreme.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don’t post any pictures of our kids on social media, nor do we share anything about them. I feel sorry for the kids whose parents post embarrassing photos and information and wonder what the kid will think when he or she is 14.

My kids are now 20+. The only reason they joined FB is to look at the old posts I have done about them. Of course they are mostly embarrassing photos. I can tell you that all have gotten into college, 1/2 have graduated and hold jobs. One even has a security clearance.

I can 100% promise you that your children WILL be on social media. Your will do it behind your back and they will post lots about themselves and you. But hey just to their friends.

Weirdly defensive post. No one is talking about what their kids will post once they are old enough. This is about parents oversharing without consent. Try to keep up.

[Anonymous]

You'd have to look very closely at my 1-2 social media posts per year for evidence I have kids. I have never referred to them or posted pictures of them, but there may be some dots people could connect if paying attention.

Other people have posted pictures of my kids, but they don't tag or otherwise identify them, so I'm no more concerned than sending them to school or a park, etc.