Social Media oversharing and children's rights

[Anonymous]

What about other people posting pics of your kids on their accounts. Like at social gatherings or parties? I have a no social media policy but it’s now at the point where I cant control who’s posting group pics of my kids and I don’t really want to be the overzealous person messaging every parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about other people posting pics of your kids on their accounts. Like at social gatherings or parties? I have a no social media policy but it’s now at the point where I cant control who’s posting group pics of my kids and I don’t really want to be the overzealous person messaging every parent.

To me that is very different than posting tmi health stuff about your kids online.

[Anonymous]

Why are you publicly posting anything?

[Anonymous]

I have a private Facebook group for my kids pictures and that's it. My kids have a right to their own digital footprint.

[Anonymous]

There is a woman online who has disabled twin girls and she has all these videos of herself pushing them around to various places in their wheelchairs. This seems particularly invasive and exploitative. These activists should reach out to disability rights groups to advocate for the privacy of children with disabilities online as well.

[Anonymous]

I recently joined a facebook group for local parents of kids with anxiety, hoping to find some therapist recommendations. It's horrifying how much detail parents will go into publicly about their children's mental health problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about other people posting pics of your kids on their accounts. Like at social gatherings or parties? I have a no social media policy but it’s now at the point where I cant control who’s posting group pics of my kids and I don’t really want to be the overzealous person messaging every parent.

If you're in public then you have no expectation of privacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about other people posting pics of your kids on their accounts. Like at social gatherings or parties? I have a no social media policy but it’s now at the point where I cant control who’s posting group pics of my kids and I don’t really want to be the overzealous person messaging every parent.

If you're in public then you have no expectation of privacy.

That’s kind of how I feel. We do not post pictures of our kids or about them on social media. I also would never post a picture of someone else’s kids. But I can’t control what others do. Also, our friends and family follow pretty much the same guidelines- I don’t have to worry about grandma posting pictures, for instance. In general, my family/social circle doesn’t use social media all that much, so it’s not a problem. I am amazed by what I see other people write and post though. Like what will your kids think of you posting medical info about them in 5 years from now??? Horrifying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have always thought so called family influencers were trash and after having a child I know for sure they are. I don’t understand why people would post these personal things about their kids on social media.

well some (many?) nowadays have their own youtube or instagram channel so one reason is obviously the potential $$$.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about other people posting pics of your kids on their accounts. Like at social gatherings or parties? I have a no social media policy but it’s now at the point where I cant control who’s posting group pics of my kids and I don’t really want to be the overzealous person messaging every parent.

If you're in public then you have no expectation of privacy.

What exactly is public? A friend's bday party at their house?

I struggle with this. My child is 19 mo old and i have asked people to take down photos a few times, especially if we aren't that close. Like I get that it is prob okay, I just wonder what will be possible with all this info and shared photos in 10/15 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have always thought so called family influencers were trash and after having a child I know for sure they are. I don’t understand why people would post these personal things about their kids on social media.

well some (many?) nowadays have their own youtube or instagram channel so one reason is obviously the potential $$$.

I just feel like there is no amount of money that would make me want to do that!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What about other people posting pics of your kids on their accounts. Like at social gatherings or parties? I have a no social media policy but it’s now at the point where I cant control who’s posting group pics of my kids and I don’t really want to be the overzealous person messaging every parent.

If you're in public then you have no expectation of privacy.

What exactly is public? A friend's bday party at their house?

I struggle with this. My child is 19 mo old and i have asked people to take down photos a few times, especially if we aren't that close. Like I get that it is prob okay, I just wonder what will be possible with all this info and shared photos in 10/15 years.

Wow I find that so bizarre (not your reaction- that people are already posting pictures of your kid when she’s not even a toddler!) I get it as kids get older— bday parties, camp, soccer practice, ok— but someone else’s baby?? Who is doing this?? Do they just constantly over share on social media? Weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What about other people posting pics of your kids on their accounts. Like at social gatherings or parties? I have a no social media policy but it’s now at the point where I cant control who’s posting group pics of my kids and I don’t really want to be the overzealous person messaging every parent.

If you're in public then you have no expectation of privacy.

What exactly is public? A friend's bday party at their house?

I struggle with this. My child is 19 mo old and i have asked people to take down photos a few times, especially if we aren't that close. Like I get that it is prob okay, I just wonder what will be possible with all this info and shared photos in 10/15 years.

Wow I find that so bizarre (not your reaction- that people are already posting pictures of your kid when she’s not even a toddler!) I get it as kids get older— bday parties, camp, soccer practice, ok— but someone else’s baby?? Who is doing this?? Do they just constantly over share on social media? Weird.

I mean, my guess is PP was at a bbq with friends, holding her baby when someone snapped a candid shot of the group and posted it on SM. I don’t post things like that but I wouldn’t ask anyone to take down pictures of my kid if it’s in a group shot of a party or something. I can’t imagine that being embarrassing to my kid in the long term; babies all basically look the same anyway. I actually think it’s worse to post pics of older kids without asking (especially without asking the kids themselves).

[Anonymous]

I posted the question about people posting of other people’s kids. My issue is when the pics/caption identify the school/kids names. It really bothers me especially since I try to not have that kind of info online. I know I’m on the more over protective side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don’t post any pictures of our kids on social media, nor do we share anything about them. I feel sorry for the kids whose parents post embarrassing photos and information and wonder what the kid will think when he or she is 14.

My kids are now 20+. The only reason they joined FB is to look at the old posts I have done about them. Of course they are mostly embarrassing photos. I can tell you that all have gotten into college, 1/2 have graduated and hold jobs. One even has a security clearance.

I can 100% promise you that your children WILL be on social media. Your will do it behind your back and they will post lots about themselves and you. But hey just to their friends.