is there really any help for perimenopausal hair?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There is nothing wrong with mourning the loss of your youth but referring to your former hair as beautiful simply it was blond and shiny (and not wiry) makes you sound racist OP.

You win the dumb comment of the day award.

DP. Didn't sound dumb to me -- I actually had the same thought.

Same, as a black woman with dark, wiry hair, it is just another day, another comment to remind myself that most white people think that the way my hair naturally grows out of my head is something awful to be dealt with and gotten rid of.

Uh. Most people like their hair to be uniform. Not a mix of straight blond hair and wiry grays. Not to mention people also like what their hair looked liked in the youth - not as they go thru menopause. So why don’t you not cheapen your complaints about racism and use them when they are valid.

[Anonymous]

This is the OP. How on earth could you have taken a question from me and turned it into something about yourself? I am failing to see the logic. My natural hair texture is blonde and smooth. Perimenopause is causing my hair To change. I still don’t understand why you had the idea that this had anything to do with African-American hair. I am baffled to be honest I was talking about myself. Why are you getting upset about a question about my hair?

[Anonymous]

It’s not even logical.

When someone has the answer about how to fix perimenopause hair please drop it in the comments.

Currently, I am dealing with a bunch of wiry hairs that are sticking up all over my head And they are poking out of my normally smooth hair texture. Flat ironing and heat tools are not doing anything to tame them.


Like a PP noted, what I am really looking for is to get all of my hair texture back to its former uniform look. I am still scratching my head about whoever took offense.

I would definitely love to see some good advice on how to fix this. Has anybody found something like a brow taming product That can be applied to renegade hairs that are continuing to stick up despite my best efforts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have tons of sympathy for you, OP. The perimenopausal hair issue came up for me during the pandemic. I didn't have access to my hairdresser at the time, so my hair went from beautiful, thick, shiny, and enviable to a really dry and just impossible to do anything with. Of course, the stress of the pandemic didn't help, but when that stress eased, my hair wasn't the same. I finally was able to get back to my hairdresser and she recommended Kevin Murphy Young Again Wash and Kevin Murphy Young Again Rinse. The shampoo has literally given me my hair texture back. Of course, it is a little different given the amount of gray that has come in, but I am pleased with the overall shine and condition of my hair when I use this shampoo and conditioner. I have tried other super-moisturizing shampoos/shampoo for grey hair etc, but my hair never really seemed to lock into the moisturizer and it felt like the product sat on top of my hair rather than in it (for lack of any other better way to describe it). But, in comparison, my hair seems to lock onto the Kevin Murphy shampoo/conditioner. These products are on the pricey side, so sometimes, when I am feeling a little guilty about the price, I use my next best favorite moisturizing shampoo on a regular basis, and then use the Kevin Murphy products a week or so before I am doing something important/extra special.

I originally bought my supply from my hairdresser, but sometimes I do buy my supply from Amazon if I can't get to her shop.

If Kevin Murphy doesn't work for you, maybe ask a trusted hairdresser for recommendations.

I love Kevin Murphy products. Yep salon recommended. Yep buy from Amazon now.
Keeps my color from fading.

[Anonymous]

I have that same issue and I did not know it was a peri thing! I thought I was doing something wrong with my hair care. It does suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wiry hairs are the grays. Mine has done the same. It's so depressing. I have no solution.

Phyto re30. It doesn’t turn my hair brown again but keeps the greys from being wiry. You can order from Nordstrom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing wrong with mourning the loss of your youth but referring to your former hair as beautiful simply it was blond and shiny (and not wiry) makes you sound racist OP.

You win the dumb comment of the day award.

DP. Didn't sound dumb to me -- I actually had the same thought.

Same, as a black woman with dark, wiry hair, it is just another day, another comment to remind myself that most white people think that the way my hair naturally grows out of my head is something awful to be dealt with and gotten rid of.

What if as you aged you started growing blonde shiny hairs? Would you be a bad person for wanting your old hair back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing wrong with mourning the loss of your youth but referring to your former hair as beautiful simply it was blond and shiny (and not wiry) makes you sound racist OP.

You win the dumb comment of the day award.

DP. Didn't sound dumb to me -- I actually had the same thought.

Same, as a black woman with dark, wiry hair, it is just another day, another comment to remind myself that most white people think that the way my hair naturally grows out of my head is something awful to be dealt with and gotten rid of.

What if as you aged you started growing blonde shiny hairs? Would you be a bad person for wanting your old hair back?

Thank you, pp. I was first pp in thread who is having the same issue and it’s driving me crazy. Though it’s never been beautiful. I’ve had crappy blonde hair my entire life and now it looks worse. I see many dark-haired women who can grow long, gorgeous hair (even at this age) and am insanely jealous. I wish I’d been born with thick, dark hair, but that wasn’t in the cards (my sister is a brunette). Reading the follow up made me feel like I can’t even complain about ugly hair without it being a micro aggression. I know most women have issues with their hair at some point, which is what several stylists have told me over the years when I’ve openly stated I’d rather have someone else’s hair. I assumed there was a universality to the issue, allowing women to bond. We all go through perimenopause if we live long enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing wrong with mourning the loss of your youth but referring to your former hair as beautiful simply it was blond and shiny (and not wiry) makes you sound racist OP.

You win the dumb comment of the day award.

DP. Didn't sound dumb to me -- I actually had the same thought.

Same, as a black woman with dark, wiry hair, it is just another day, another comment to remind myself that most white people think that the way my hair naturally grows out of my head is something awful to be dealt with and gotten rid of.

What if as you aged you started growing blonde shiny hairs? Would you be a bad person for wanting your old hair back?

Thank you, pp. I was first pp in thread who is having the same issue and it’s driving me crazy. Though it’s never been beautiful. I’ve had crappy blonde hair my entire life and now it looks worse. I see many dark-haired women who can grow long, gorgeous hair (even at this age) and am insanely jealous. I wish I’d been born with thick, dark hair, but that wasn’t in the cards (my sister is a brunette). Reading the follow up made me feel like I can’t even complain about ugly hair without it being a micro aggression. I know most women have issues with their hair at some point, which is what several stylists have told me over the years when I’ve openly stated I’d rather have someone else’s hair. I assumed there was a universality to the issue, allowing women to bond. We all go through perimenopause if we live long enough.

That’s the problem with it be encouraged to be offended about everything or to think everything is about you. Dislike your hair doesn’t mean it’s about race.

[Anonymous]

Same thing going on here. The texture is improved when I get it colored.

[Anonymous]

My hair has gotten SO dark. To the point that highlights, which used to look natural on my dishwater blonde former hair now look like tiger stripes no matter who does them. I’m going to see about low lights. I do use K18 for hair damage and that helps but the days of shiny fine but plentiful blonde hair are gone for me I’m afraid

[Anonymous]

I get a keratin treatment every year right at the beginning of summer and that helps for a few months. At least it gets me through the most humid frizzy months. It's expensive but it saves my sanity, so it's worth it to me.

It's not the treatment that has formaldehyde in it, so it's not as effective at straightening the hair, but I'm fine with that.

[Anonymous]

I use kerastace deep conditioner (not sure if it’s called a mask but it comes in a tub). I use a tiny bit for my regular daily hair conditioner then use the revlon dryer brush.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same thing going on here. The texture is improved when I get it colored.

Same I color my hair every 6 weeks and the texture is fine

[Anonymous]

the thing that has happened to my hair is that the front is just not growing...the back is. my layers in the front are the same length for two year.....