Advice for a mom whose husband travels for work?

[Anonymous]

Millions of women take care of family and house every single day with or without a partner. Their secret is they get organized and stop whining! American women are the best educated in the world and yet they appear to be incapable of taking responsibility for themselves and their families.

[Anonymous]

You spend a few hours at the gym every day? Lol. Not anymore you don't, unless you have the money to hire someone to drive your kids and do what you need to do.

[Anonymous]

Make friends with a military wife juggling kids and you’ll learn all the tricks.

[Anonymous]

My first reaction is one of jealousy- ifyou have hours for gym a day, you are already doing well beyond many, but if you want more time then that, outsource whether that means more prepared meals from grocery or just sandwiches instead of fancier night meals or paying for driver or other help. And yes if kids are older, they can do their laundry and wash dishes. Even if kids younger they can help sooner than you think. Do try to help them do at least one activity beyond school if can.

[Anonymous]

OP: it is the same situation that single and military parents deal with as part of life. (Yours is only for a year!) Do you not know any of them?

Kids need to let go of some extras and do more responsibility around the house. That is just your family situation right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Millions of women take care of family and house every single day with or without a partner. Their secret is they get organized and stop whining! American women are the best educated in the world and yet they appear to be incapable of taking responsibility for themselves and their families.

I gave birth via C section and had zero help on the post partum floor (twice) and I think you're a turbo B. Husband works long hours and is absolutely useless in the kitchen (weaponized incompetence, can't boil potatoes) and I think you're a turbo B. If you don't have something helpful to say, just click another topic. It's better for everybody's mental health, including your's

[Anonymous]

If you work all day and spend hours each night in the gym, your kids are basically raising themselves.

I would either work part time (since he is making so much) ir conclude that his salary is not worth it because your kids should matter more than money. They are almost grown. And likely would benefit from a father (and mother who is not overwhelmed).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millions of women take care of family and house every single day with or without a partner. Their secret is they get organized and stop whining! American women are the best educated in the world and yet they appear to be incapable of taking responsibility for themselves and their families.

I gave birth via C section and had zero help on the post partum floor (twice) and I think you're a turbo B. Husband works long hours and is absolutely useless in the kitchen (weaponized incompetence, can't boil potatoes) and I think you're a turbo B. If you don't have something helpful to say, just click another topic. It's better for everybody's mental health, including your's

Tsh tsh, omebody's raw nerve was touched.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is currently in the beginning-middle of a year-long work stint that involves exclusive travel; he leaves Sunday and returns Friday. There are many factors involved, but the long and short of it is the money and his seniority make it so finding another job isn’t an option. We will just suffer through this.

But I’m exhausted and overwhelmed with everything and finding it even more daunting with the prospect of summer ahead of us. Kids are young teens and they just have SO MUCH going on. On top of managing a household and my own career, I feel like I’m being pulled in four different directions constantly.

Teens are too old for babysitters, obviously. I don’t like to ask other parents to help carpool, etc, because I don’t have the energy to reciprocate. I do “escape” and go to the gym for a couple hours every evening, but then it’s like I have to play catch up when I get home — dinner, kids need picking up, then help with homework, household tasks, even though kids do help, etc. By the time everything is done and I could relax and just “be”, I’m exhausted and just go to bed. And the weekends are a reprieve, because dad is a novelty, but they go by SO FAST, and he just wants to relax, too, and I feel bad pushing the kids his way.

I don’t know what advice I’m looking for, just seeking any general advice to help me through this.

Hire a driver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You hire someone that can clean and cook. Are there kids that live close by who can carpool? We do it with a kid that lives 5 min away so it really doesn't add much time on.

Kids are old enough tomorrow house picked up and also do simple/easy meals and clean kitchen as well as doing laundry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Millions of women take care of family and house every single day with or without a partner. Their secret is they get organized and stop whining! American women are the best educated in the world and yet they appear to be incapable of taking responsibility for themselves and their families.

I gave birth via C section and had zero help on the post partum floor (twice) and I think you're a turbo B. Husband works long hours and is absolutely useless in the kitchen (weaponized incompetence, can't boil potatoes) and I think you're a turbo B. If you don't have something helpful to say, just click another topic. It's better for everybody's mental health, including your's

My mental health is excellent. You appear to have major problems.