If you had your first baby after 40

[Anonymous]

40, conceived without science in 5 cycles. Healthy full-term kid. Good luck to you, OP!

[Anonymous]

41 conceived naturally 2nd month. Partner was also 41. I did not feel ready to try again for a few years and he was concerned about our finances with two so we didn’t continue. I was never on bc and was a late ovulator. Have no idea when we conceived. Thought we’d missed the month I got preg. Temping and mucus charting helps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any woman over 40 should be smart enough not to have a baby with a “boyfriend.”

Oh I disagree. Women can be economically independent by then and want a child not a partner. BUT you need to be sure that boyfriend would be a good dad bc it’s a forever relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married and had 2 miscarriages at 39, saw an RE and started IVF at 40. Second cycle at 41 was successful and 18 months later pregnant again via FET - 2 children.

What is FET?

[Anonymous]

I need mucus to get pregnant or not?

[Anonymous]

I had my only at 41 on first try with my husband. Had a difficult pregnancy (not due to age). Wasn't ready to try again for 3 years. Got pregnant on second cycle but then miscarried. Never got pregnant again despite trying. I am grateful for the one I have.

[Anonymous]

I became pregnant without assistance and give birth at ages 41 and 43 (with husband). Easy pregnancies and easy births. Wonderful kids. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need mucus to get pregnant or not?

It’s a sign of ovulation but says nothing about egg quality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I became pregnant without assistance and give birth at ages 41 and 43 (with husband). Easy pregnancies and easy births. Wonderful kids. Good luck!

PS got pregnant without assistance and first after three cycles of trying. Second one took longer to conceive—6 cycles or so, but by then I was 42 and still nursing the first (which has a natural bc effect).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you use ivf? Did it occur naturally or with intervention? By yourself or had a boyfriend or husband? If there were issues do you think those issues would have prevented pregnancy at any age?

I had my healthy baby girl at almost 45 years old, quite by surprise, as I had been diagnosed as infertile in my late 30’s after multiple miscarriages in my 20’s and 30’s and had tests at age 41 to determine whether I would be able to do egg harvesting showed that my hormone levels and egg production were very low. Basically, I was written off.
My OBGYN was of little help - and then I got divorced so my baby quest was over.

At age 42, For family research, I had a DNA test done by Ancestry and uploaded the raw data to a different healthcare focused DNA service. I learned I have something called MTHFR , a genetic variation which affects aspects of how my body converts folate and folic acid and directly impacts the ability to sustain pregnancy. It causes a lot of miscarriages. I also learned using the NIH website that women like me need the Methylated form of B vitamins especially Methylfolate, to successfully carry a pregnancy.

(NB: I am greatly simplifying this and I encourage everyone to do their own research about MTHFR, there are a lot of variations that have different health impacts and different interventions that could be applied for each type.)

I am also a lifelong Polycystic Ovary Disease sufferer from menarche onward even though I was very thin and didn’t have other conditions that go with it. Just genetics. When I entered my 40’s and started perimenopause, my PCOs symptoms began worsening rapidly. Usually they are just controlled by birth control pills, but I can’t take birth control hormones because BCP caused two severe TIA in me at age 19 and 24.


My OB was not very forward leaning to help me with find a different solution, and I turned to peer reviewed studies and research to see what was being researched on PCOS.

The clinical benefits of taking Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinol, B1, and the methylated form of B vitamins together help reduce PCOS symptoms.

What I didn’t know at the time, is this is a very similar preparation for fertility treatments. I learned all this in September during my first pregnancy OB appointment when I filled out my questionnaire about what supplements I was taking.

Sometime in July I got pregnant, but didn’t know until late August because I didn’t have any symptoms….. and I was 43, in perimenopause so I thought it was just normal that my period stopped. I was 8 weeks pregnant when I finally started having symptoms (constant hunger, sharply increased sense of smell, occasional dizziness, and intermittent blurry vision) and no symptoms whatsoever of morning sickness.

My boyfriend (now husband) and I were stunned. I didn’t hesitate to say I was keeping my baby, and despite not being married it was not even a question for us. He was 49!

My OB was stunned as he looked at my ultrasound. He said I was a rarity because I had very low egg reserves three years prior. He went back to check his notes and confirmed that he had counseled me I was very likely infertile. I was his last pregnancy patient before he retired. I had been seeing him since I was 30.

My 6months of trying at-home relief for PCOS was what likely increased my fertility: supplemental Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinone, methylated B complex vitamin, B1, plus increased exercise and low alcohol consumption. That’s how I unintentionally became pregnant and had a beautiful healthy daughter.

Today, our girl is 4 years old, smart, funny, very intelligent, tall for her age, and starts preschool in the fall.

It’s amazing how much women have to do their own health related research.

Congrats to you!

Doctors make money from ivf, not bloodwork and counseling us on supplements. I think a lot of infertility would be resolved by proper thyroid management alone, not to mention everything pp uncovered for herself.

I got pregnant at 36 while on the brink of ivf. My ultrasound tech informed me of facts leading me to the conclusion that my use of a ClearBlue Easy fertility monitor (machine, not sticks) and mucus signals were probably notifying me too late. Early and often leading up to ovulation would have been a better strategy vs. monitoring. I think I systematically biased against success.

That one ultrasound and advice was worth more than all the other interventions my DH and I had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was natural, but this was after a year of 2-3x daily creampies, 6 days per week (one day off per week to “recharge”),so it took a long time and a lot of work to say the least. We were literally all set to go the IVF route but then it happened. I would advocate for a multi factorial approach — do daily creampies like we did, while also pursing IVF.

What in the world is a creampie...

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you use ivf? Did it occur naturally or with intervention? By yourself or had a boyfriend or husband? If there were issues do you think those issues would have prevented pregnancy at any age?

I had my healthy baby girl at almost 45 years old, quite by surprise, as I had been diagnosed as infertile in my late 30’s after multiple miscarriages in my 20’s and 30’s and had tests at age 41 to determine whether I would be able to do egg harvesting showed that my hormone levels and egg production were very low. Basically, I was written off.
My OBGYN was of little help - and then I got divorced so my baby quest was over.

At age 42, For family research, I had a DNA test done by Ancestry and uploaded the raw data to a different healthcare focused DNA service. I learned I have something called MTHFR , a genetic variation which affects aspects of how my body converts folate and folic acid and directly impacts the ability to sustain pregnancy. It causes a lot of miscarriages. I also learned using the NIH website that women like me need the Methylated form of B vitamins especially Methylfolate, to successfully carry a pregnancy.

(NB: I am greatly simplifying this and I encourage everyone to do their own research about MTHFR, there are a lot of variations that have different health impacts and different interventions that could be applied for each type.)

I am also a lifelong Polycystic Ovary Disease sufferer from menarche onward even though I was very thin and didn’t have other conditions that go with it. Just genetics. When I entered my 40’s and started perimenopause, my PCOs symptoms began worsening rapidly. Usually they are just controlled by birth control pills, but I can’t take birth control hormones because BCP caused two severe TIA in me at age 19 and 24.


My OB was not very forward leaning to help me with find a different solution, and I turned to peer reviewed studies and research to see what was being researched on PCOS.

The clinical benefits of taking Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinol, B1, and the methylated form of B vitamins together help reduce PCOS symptoms.

What I didn’t know at the time, is this is a very similar preparation for fertility treatments. I learned all this in September during my first pregnancy OB appointment when I filled out my questionnaire about what supplements I was taking.

Sometime in July I got pregnant, but didn’t know until late August because I didn’t have any symptoms….. and I was 43, in perimenopause so I thought it was just normal that my period stopped. I was 8 weeks pregnant when I finally started having symptoms (constant hunger, sharply increased sense of smell, occasional dizziness, and intermittent blurry vision) and no symptoms whatsoever of morning sickness.

My boyfriend (now husband) and I were stunned. I didn’t hesitate to say I was keeping my baby, and despite not being married it was not even a question for us. He was 49!

My OB was stunned as he looked at my ultrasound. He said I was a rarity because I had very low egg reserves three years prior. He went back to check his notes and confirmed that he had counseled me I was very likely infertile. I was his last pregnancy patient before he retired. I had been seeing him since I was 30.

My 6months of trying at-home relief for PCOS was what likely increased my fertility: supplemental Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinone, methylated B complex vitamin, B1, plus increased exercise and low alcohol consumption. That’s how I unintentionally became pregnant and had a beautiful healthy daughter.

Today, our girl is 4 years old, smart, funny, very intelligent, tall for her age, and starts preschool in the fall.

It’s amazing how much women have to do their own health related research.

Congrats to you!

Doctors make money from ivf, not bloodwork and counseling us on supplements. I think a lot of infertility would be resolved by proper thyroid management alone, not to mention everything pp uncovered for herself.

I started seeing an RE at 39, she started me on CoQ10 and vitamin D and told me to keep trying while we did all the labs and prep work for IVF because based on the initial information she had she thought I could conceive naturally. And we did. So no, most doctors are there to treat you and make you healthier, not make money off of IVF.

[Anonymous]

Two natural with husband. Mucinex and COQ10. First at 42 concieved third month. Second at 44 concieved First month.

No miscarriages. From all I've read I can only assume it was genetics and luck. I'm forever grateful I know it's not that easy for everybody.

[Anonymous]

I was 40 when pg, delivered at 41. Had a lot of trouble getting and staying pregnant. Baby with husband and conceived old fashioned way -after I finally gave up and thought it would never happen. I think my body just relaxed. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman over 40 should be smart enough not to have a baby with a “boyfriend.”

Oh I disagree. Women can be economically independent by then and want a child not a partner. BUT you need to be sure that boyfriend would be a good dad bc it’s a forever relationship.

No dad-relationship required for women who select single-motherhood by choice.

“Natural insemination” is an increasingly popular option for these women. However, it’s important to consider the legal ramifications, such as paternal rights. Once he relinquishes those legally (usually by a legally binding agreement), it can be a good option.