If you had your first baby after 40

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was natural, but this was after a year of 2-3x daily creampies, 6 days per week (one day off per week to “recharge”),so it took a long time and a lot of work to say the least. We were literally all set to go the IVF route but then it happened. I would advocate for a multi factorial approach — do daily creampies like we did, while also pursing IVF.

What in the world is a creampie...

I was confused as well.

Google it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was natural, but this was after a year of 2-3x daily creampies, 6 days per week (one day off per week to “recharge”),so it took a long time and a lot of work to say the least. We were literally all set to go the IVF route but then it happened. I would advocate for a multi factorial approach — do daily creampies like we did, while also pursing IVF.

What in the world is a creampie...

I was confused as well.

Google it.

No. You use a term no one knows and get called on it, you don't make us do the research. And it might be NSFW.

[Anonymous]

lol, yes creampie is an NSFW/pornographic term. But here they’re just using it to replace the word sex.

Anyway to answer the actual question, my friend had her baby at 41 and needed IVF.

[Anonymous]

I had one after 40. I'm single, and I used IVF. It took several years of trying, likely due to age. My kid is a teenager now and is doing well.

[Anonymous]

I've conceived 6 children since 36 and none have made it to birth.

[Anonymous]

Had our first days after I turned 40, and our 2nd at 42.5. In between, had a miscarriage (at 8 weeks).

I went to an RE immediately once we decided to start trying, but what really made a difference was the HSG i got as part of the work up. First HSG was extraordinarily painful. Turns out I had a blockage. And I conceived my next cycle.

After reading up on HSGs, I had the procedure again when we started trying for our second. This time it wasn’t painful at all, as my tubes were clear. Conceived on the 2nd cycle but miscarried.

Tried for another 8 or 9 months, and then got another HSG, conceived the month after and had my 2nd and last.

For me, the HSG procedure seemed to work wonders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you use ivf? Did it occur naturally or with intervention? By yourself or had a boyfriend or husband? If there were issues do you think those issues would have prevented pregnancy at any age?

I had my healthy baby girl at almost 45 years old, quite by surprise, as I had been diagnosed as infertile in my late 30’s after multiple miscarriages in my 20’s and 30’s and had tests at age 41 to determine whether I would be able to do egg harvesting showed that my hormone levels and egg production were very low. Basically, I was written off.
My OBGYN was of little help - and then I got divorced so my baby quest was over.

At age 42, For family research, I had a DNA test done by Ancestry and uploaded the raw data to a different healthcare focused DNA service. I learned I have something called MTHFR , a genetic variation which affects aspects of how my body converts folate and folic acid and directly impacts the ability to sustain pregnancy. It causes a lot of miscarriages. I also learned using the NIH website that women like me need the Methylated form of B vitamins especially Methylfolate, to successfully carry a pregnancy.

(NB: I am greatly simplifying this and I encourage everyone to do their own research about MTHFR, there are a lot of variations that have different health impacts and different interventions that could be applied for each type.)

I am also a lifelong Polycystic Ovary Disease sufferer from menarche onward even though I was very thin and didn’t have other conditions that go with it. Just genetics. When I entered my 40’s and started perimenopause, my PCOs symptoms began worsening rapidly. Usually they are just controlled by birth control pills, but I can’t take birth control hormones because BCP caused two severe TIA in me at age 19 and 24.


My OB was not very forward leaning to help me with find a different solution, and I turned to peer reviewed studies and research to see what was being researched on PCOS.

The clinical benefits of taking Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinol, B1, and the methylated form of B vitamins together help reduce PCOS symptoms.

What I didn’t know at the time, is this is a very similar preparation for fertility treatments. I learned all this in September during my first pregnancy OB appointment when I filled out my questionnaire about what supplements I was taking.

Sometime in July I got pregnant, but didn’t know until late August because I didn’t have any symptoms….. and I was 43, in perimenopause so I thought it was just normal that my period stopped. I was 8 weeks pregnant when I finally started having symptoms (constant hunger, sharply increased sense of smell, occasional dizziness, and intermittent blurry vision) and no symptoms whatsoever of morning sickness.

My boyfriend (now husband) and I were stunned. I didn’t hesitate to say I was keeping my baby, and despite not being married it was not even a question for us. He was 49!

My OB was stunned as he looked at my ultrasound. He said I was a rarity because I had very low egg reserves three years prior. He went back to check his notes and confirmed that he had counseled me I was very likely infertile. I was his last pregnancy patient before he retired. I had been seeing him since I was 30.

My 6months of trying at-home relief for PCOS was what likely increased my fertility: supplemental Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinone, methylated B complex vitamin, B1, plus increased exercise and low alcohol consumption. That’s how I unintentionally became pregnant and had a beautiful healthy daughter.

Today, our girl is 4 years old, smart, funny, very intelligent, tall for her age, and starts preschool in the fall.

[Anonymous]

My cousin got married first time at 40 to a 50 year old and had all three kids no problem.

But they are both Irish and they breed like rabbits

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you use ivf? Did it occur naturally or with intervention? By yourself or had a boyfriend or husband? If there were issues do you think those issues would have prevented pregnancy at any age?

I had my healthy baby girl at almost 45 years old, quite by surprise, as I had been diagnosed as infertile in my late 30’s after multiple miscarriages in my 20’s and 30’s and had tests at age 41 to determine whether I would be able to do egg harvesting showed that my hormone levels and egg production were very low. Basically, I was written off.
My OBGYN was of little help - and then I got divorced so my baby quest was over.

At age 42, For family research, I had a DNA test done by Ancestry and uploaded the raw data to a different healthcare focused DNA service. I learned I have something called MTHFR , a genetic variation which affects aspects of how my body converts folate and folic acid and directly impacts the ability to sustain pregnancy. It causes a lot of miscarriages. I also learned using the NIH website that women like me need the Methylated form of B vitamins especially Methylfolate, to successfully carry a pregnancy.

(NB: I am greatly simplifying this and I encourage everyone to do their own research about MTHFR, there are a lot of variations that have different health impacts and different interventions that could be applied for each type.)

I am also a lifelong Polycystic Ovary Disease sufferer from menarche onward even though I was very thin and didn’t have other conditions that go with it. Just genetics. When I entered my 40’s and started perimenopause, my PCOs symptoms began worsening rapidly. Usually they are just controlled by birth control pills, but I can’t take birth control hormones because BCP caused two severe TIA in me at age 19 and 24.


My OB was not very forward leaning to help me with find a different solution, and I turned to peer reviewed studies and research to see what was being researched on PCOS.

The clinical benefits of taking Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinol, B1, and the methylated form of B vitamins together help reduce PCOS symptoms.

What I didn’t know at the time, is this is a very similar preparation for fertility treatments. I learned all this in September during my first pregnancy OB appointment when I filled out my questionnaire about what supplements I was taking.

Sometime in July I got pregnant, but didn’t know until late August because I didn’t have any symptoms….. and I was 43, in perimenopause so I thought it was just normal that my period stopped. I was 8 weeks pregnant when I finally started having symptoms (constant hunger, sharply increased sense of smell, occasional dizziness, and intermittent blurry vision) and no symptoms whatsoever of morning sickness.

My boyfriend (now husband) and I were stunned. I didn’t hesitate to say I was keeping my baby, and despite not being married it was not even a question for us. He was 49!

My OB was stunned as he looked at my ultrasound. He said I was a rarity because I had very low egg reserves three years prior. He went back to check his notes and confirmed that he had counseled me I was very likely infertile. I was his last pregnancy patient before he retired. I had been seeing him since I was 30.

My 6months of trying at-home relief for PCOS was what likely increased my fertility: supplemental Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinone, methylated B complex vitamin, B1, plus increased exercise and low alcohol consumption. That’s how I unintentionally became pregnant and had a beautiful healthy daughter.

Today, our girl is 4 years old, smart, funny, very intelligent, tall for her age, and starts preschool in the fall.

It’s amazing how much women have to do their own health related research.

Congrats to you!

[Anonymous]

Forget all that other stuff.

Adopted a newborn at age 44.

[Anonymous]

IVF baby at 42. It took a lot of egg retrievals.

I had an embryo left over and thought for sure I'd go for another at 45, but so many of my friends who have gotten pregnant via IVF at 45/46 had complications for them or baby that were likely age-related. I was so focused on whether I could get pregnant at that age (yes, via frozen embryo) that I hadn't really thought about whether pregnancy at this age was the best idea.

Decided to stop with one child.

My only advice would be to move fast. Test everything previous posters have recommended up front. Get your diet and health in order. Don't waste too long trying without intervention if it's not working. The sooner you can get pregnant, the lower-risk your pregnancy is.

[Anonymous]

Got pregnant while playing Russian roulette at 39, delivered at 40. It's not the first baby that you want to be thinking about but about the desired size of the entire family. If I had kids I knew I wanted two. It was the second one who was work.

[Anonymous]

IVF baby at 43. Am single and do not have a husband or boyfriend. Have a healthy six year old and glad I did it.

[Anonymous]

Yes natural conception at 41 after years if infertility and DOR of .01. Healthy baby boy age 9. I did take lots of supplements and acupuncture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you use ivf? Did it occur naturally or with intervention? By yourself or had a boyfriend or husband? If there were issues do you think those issues would have prevented pregnancy at any age?

I had my healthy baby girl at almost 45 years old, quite by surprise, as I had been diagnosed as infertile in my late 30’s after multiple miscarriages in my 20’s and 30’s and had tests at age 41 to determine whether I would be able to do egg harvesting showed that my hormone levels and egg production were very low. Basically, I was written off.
My OBGYN was of little help - and then I got divorced so my baby quest was over.

At age 42, For family research, I had a DNA test done by Ancestry and uploaded the raw data to a different healthcare focused DNA service. I learned I have something called MTHFR , a genetic variation which affects aspects of how my body converts folate and folic acid and directly impacts the ability to sustain pregnancy. It causes a lot of miscarriages. I also learned using the NIH website that women like me need the Methylated form of B vitamins especially Methylfolate, to successfully carry a pregnancy.

(NB: I am greatly simplifying this and I encourage everyone to do their own research about MTHFR, there are a lot of variations that have different health impacts and different interventions that could be applied for each type.)

I am also a lifelong Polycystic Ovary Disease sufferer from menarche onward even though I was very thin and didn’t have other conditions that go with it. Just genetics. When I entered my 40’s and started perimenopause, my PCOs symptoms began worsening rapidly. Usually they are just controlled by birth control pills, but I can’t take birth control hormones because BCP caused two severe TIA in me at age 19 and 24.


My OB was not very forward leaning to help me with find a different solution, and I turned to peer reviewed studies and research to see what was being researched on PCOS.

The clinical benefits of taking Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinol, B1, and the methylated form of B vitamins together help reduce PCOS symptoms.

What I didn’t know at the time, is this is a very similar preparation for fertility treatments. I learned all this in September during my first pregnancy OB appointment when I filled out my questionnaire about what supplements I was taking.

Sometime in July I got pregnant, but didn’t know until late August because I didn’t have any symptoms….. and I was 43, in perimenopause so I thought it was just normal that my period stopped. I was 8 weeks pregnant when I finally started having symptoms (constant hunger, sharply increased sense of smell, occasional dizziness, and intermittent blurry vision) and no symptoms whatsoever of morning sickness.

My boyfriend (now husband) and I were stunned. I didn’t hesitate to say I was keeping my baby, and despite not being married it was not even a question for us. He was 49!

My OB was stunned as he looked at my ultrasound. He said I was a rarity because I had very low egg reserves three years prior. He went back to check his notes and confirmed that he had counseled me I was very likely infertile. I was his last pregnancy patient before he retired. I had been seeing him since I was 30.

My 6months of trying at-home relief for PCOS was what likely increased my fertility: supplemental Myo-Inositol, Ubiquinone, methylated B complex vitamin, B1, plus increased exercise and low alcohol consumption. That’s how I unintentionally became pregnant and had a beautiful healthy daughter.

Today, our girl is 4 years old, smart, funny, very intelligent, tall for her age, and starts preschool in the fall.

It’s amazing how much women have to do their own health related research.

Congrats to you!

Doctors make money from ivf, not bloodwork and counseling us on supplements. I think a lot of infertility would be resolved by proper thyroid management alone, not to mention everything pp uncovered for herself.