Boyfriend travelling and hasn't been in much contact

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men just want peace and a certain amount of agreeableness to feel solid about the relationship. The arguing and disagreement is stressful to him. He doesn’t want that to be his life, OP, and neither should you.

The reason why you argue isn’t at issue. Of course you think you have ample reasons. The question is whether that matters.
And I’d say no because he just wants peace.

Of course it matters. You’re gaslighting OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most men just want peace and a certain amount of agreeableness to feel solid about the relationship. The arguing and disagreement is stressful to him. He doesn’t want that to be his life, OP, and neither should you.

The reason why you argue isn’t at issue. Of course you think you have ample reasons. The question is whether that matters.
And I’d say no because he just wants peace.

Texting other women and ex girlfriends certainly qualifies as "ample reasons". Stop downplaying these issues

[Anonymous]

This is not the way to get to the next step.

We had none of this drama and marriage gets rocky after 2-3 kids. You should be in the honeymoon phase where you can’t get enough of one another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men just want peace and a certain amount of agreeableness to feel solid about the relationship. The arguing and disagreement is stressful to him. He doesn’t want that to be his life, OP, and neither should you.

The reason why you argue isn’t at issue. Of course you think you have ample reasons. The question is whether that matters.
And I’d say no because he just wants peace.

Texting other women and ex girlfriends certainly qualifies as "ample reasons". Stop downplaying these issues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you both need to do some serious thinking while he’s on this trip. I never understand why people want to partner with people they argue with all the time. A successful relationship shouldn’t be that volatile.

This.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps your boyfriend is relieved to be on this work trip…..he likely is getting a taste of peace since he doesn’t have to argue w/you every day.

And he may be enjoying it.

He sounds like a jerk honestly.

He should not be talking to his exes or other woman period if he is committed to you.

I would not move in w/him until you both can figure stuff out. ❤️‍🩹

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

A man who goes on a trip and doesnt ever text you does not care about you. He's shown you how little he cares about your feelings, especially if he knows you have anxiety about it. Just move on now before you get any more tied to him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you both need to do some serious thinking while he’s on this trip. I never understand why people want to partner with people they argue with all the time. A successful relationship shouldn’t be that volatile.

OP here. I think we argue a lot for a combination of reasons. 1) I think I have attachment issues due to a very "unsafe" feeling childhood with a lot of benign neglect and volatile parents 2) He does a lot of things that make me feel unsafe, like talking to girls he used to hook up with, snapchatting girls, etc. He lets me see his phone whenever so it's not that he's actually cheating with these women but it still drives me up a wall, I lash out, etc. And whenever I retreat from the relationship and want space (like sleeping in a separate bed) it really triggers him in response. In a way we bring out the worst in each other.

He is pathetically immature if he is still using Snap as an adult.

[Anonymous]

Fighting this much when youre only dating does not bode well for the future.

[Anonymous]

Ask him to send nudes.