What to do when your kid sucks at sports

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unless your kid is a super athlete you need to set him up for success and that includes NOT putting him on teams where there is a big age range and he will be one of the youngest. I also generally found that rec sports are not great for unathletic kids because the coaches aren't that great (generally).

I put my non-athletic kids in the following sports over the years (they are 14 and 12 now): sailing, rock climbing, swimming, fencing. None of these required a ton of hand-eye coordination and all were sports where my kids could work hard, be coached by people who knew what they were doing, and make measurable improvements in a supportive environment.

Fencing doesn’t require hand eye coordination…?

No

My kid who couldn't hit the tee ball on the tee is a reasonably good fencer. His coach says he is good at the strategy aspects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

I would hope the cheering would be muted at the end of a "blow out win" out of respect for the other team. Am I misunderstanding this? Were the kids being good sports and coach wanted them to be jerks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

I would hope the cheering would be muted at the end of a "blow out win" out of respect for the other team. Am I misunderstanding this? Were the kids being good sports and coach wanted them to be jerks?

NP here. I read it in that PP’s team was on the losing end of the blowout and the coach put in the reserves because they weren’t going to win anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

I would hope the cheering would be muted at the end of a "blow out win" out of respect for the other team. Am I misunderstanding this? Were the kids being good sports and coach wanted them to be jerks?

NP here. I read it in that PP’s team was on the losing end of the blowout and the coach put in the reserves because they weren’t going to win anyway.

Either way sounds like the coaches "starting 5" maybe should be the starters then. Sounds like a shit coach all around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

I would hope the cheering would be muted at the end of a "blow out win" out of respect for the other team. Am I misunderstanding this? Were the kids being good sports and coach wanted them to be jerks?

NP here. I read it in that PP’s team was on the losing end of the blowout and the coach put in the reserves because they weren’t going to win anyway.

Either way sounds like the coaches "starting 5" maybe should be the starters then. Sounds like a shit coach all around.

Should NOT be the starters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does he have to be good if he is having fun? Why would you pull him? You are a terrible person. I admire your kid

Ignore this person.

Are you the op? Why ignore? You can't get better if you don't play. Why can't kids just play for fun?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why does he have to be good if he is having fun? Why would you pull him? You are a terrible person. I admire your kid

Because he’s being bullied, you f-ing clown.

Agree with earlier poster — ignore this person, OP.

I did not read the follow up until now. Slunds like this isn't right for op's kid. But that does not mean the kid has to stop playing.

You 'ignore this poster' sounds like bullies yourself. I'm pretty sure if op doesn't like my thoughts they know they can ignore. Duh!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

I would hope the cheering would be muted at the end of a "blow out win" out of respect for the other team. Am I misunderstanding this? Were the kids being good sports and coach wanted them to be jerks?

NP here. I read it in that PP’s team was on the losing end of the blowout and the coach put in the reserves because they weren’t going to win anyway.

Either way sounds like the coaches "starting 5" maybe should be the starters then. Sounds like a shit coach all around.

Should NOT be the starters.

God, this forum is so insane.

My kid’s team was up by 20 at halftime. Coach swapped out all starters for the entire second half. The other team cut into the lead, but reserves stayed ahead and they won.

The coach made the starters run after the game because they were talking to each other, not watching the game, and not encouraging/cheering for the reserves as they worked to maintain the lead.

If you think HS kids sitting on the bench and cheering teammates who are working to not lose a lead is bad sportsmanship, then I don’t know what tell you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

I would hope the cheering would be muted at the end of a "blow out win" out of respect for the other team. Am I misunderstanding this? Were the kids being good sports and coach wanted them to be jerks?

NP here. I read it in that PP’s team was on the losing end of the blowout and the coach put in the reserves because they weren’t going to win anyway.

Either way sounds like the coaches "starting 5" maybe should be the starters then. Sounds like a shit coach all around.

Should NOT be the starters.

God, this forum is so insane.

My kid’s team was up by 20 at halftime. Coach swapped out all starters for the entire second half. The other team cut into the lead, but reserves stayed ahead and they won.

The coach made the starters run after the game because they were talking to each other, not watching the game, and not encouraging/cheering for the reserves as they worked to maintain the lead.

If you think HS kids sitting on the bench and cheering teammates who are working to not lose a lead is bad sportsmanship, then I don’t know what tell you.

Then it wasn't a "blow out win" the problem is you didn't clearly explain the situation. They barely won in the end. A blowout win is like 30 points ahead as the final score. Which would be bad sportsmanship. We weren't there, just going off your poor explanation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

I would hope the cheering would be muted at the end of a "blow out win" out of respect for the other team. Am I misunderstanding this? Were the kids being good sports and coach wanted them to be jerks?

NP here. I read it in that PP’s team was on the losing end of the blowout and the coach put in the reserves because they weren’t going to win anyway.

Either way sounds like the coaches "starting 5" maybe should be the starters then. Sounds like a shit coach all around.

Should NOT be the starters.

God, this forum is so insane.

My kid’s team was up by 20 at halftime. Coach swapped out all starters for the entire second half. The other team cut into the lead, but reserves stayed ahead and they won.

The coach made the starters run after the game because they were talking to each other, not watching the game, and not encouraging/cheering for the reserves as they worked to maintain the lead.

If you think HS kids sitting on the bench and cheering teammates who are working to not lose a lead is bad sportsmanship, then I don’t know what tell you.

Then it wasn't a "blow out win" the problem is you didn't clearly explain the situation. They barely won in the end. A blowout win is like 30 points ahead as the final score. Which would be bad sportsmanship. We weren't there, just going off your poor explanation.

30 points? Have you every watched a baseball game before?

[Anonymous]

Slam the door ignore this person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

I would hope the cheering would be muted at the end of a "blow out win" out of respect for the other team. Am I misunderstanding this? Were the kids being good sports and coach wanted them to be jerks?

NP here. I read it in that PP’s team was on the losing end of the blowout and the coach put in the reserves because they weren’t going to win anyway.

Either way sounds like the coaches "starting 5" maybe should be the starters then. Sounds like a shit coach all around.

Should NOT be the starters.

God, this forum is so insane.

My kid’s team was up by 20 at halftime. Coach swapped out all starters for the entire second half. The other team cut into the lead, but reserves stayed ahead and they won.

The coach made the starters run after the game because they were talking to each other, not watching the game, and not encouraging/cheering for the reserves as they worked to maintain the lead.

If you think HS kids sitting on the bench and cheering teammates who are working to not lose a lead is bad sportsmanship, then I don’t know what tell you.

Then it wasn't a "blow out win" the problem is you didn't clearly explain the situation. They barely won in the end. A blowout win is like 30 points ahead as the final score. Which would be bad sportsmanship. We weren't there, just going off your poor explanation.

30 points? Have you every watched a baseball game before?

I think the non-blowout “blowout win” poster was talking about BASKETball…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m guessing this could be Babe Ruth or Juniors Little League baseball, where the spread is indeed a mixed 13-15 age group.

One thing I’ve noticed from my own son playing travel baseball and watching high school games, the amount of trash talking obnoxiousness is incredible from the high school-aged kids. I don’t know what it is that makes them act like that but it’s a big difference between the middle school set and HS.

This is true.

Which is pretty ironic for those 15 year olds playing Babe Ruth in April. Bc it means they didn't make their HS club

That sucks. My kid played basketball, and his experience was that the better the team, the more supportive good players were of younger/developing players. The best coaches he had insisted on that culture, and anybody who failed to support teammates ran a lot of laps. One coach made the starting five run a ton of laps after a game because they weren’t cheering for the reserves playing at the end of a blowout win.

That's right. But PP was talking about Babe Ruth and LL. Which, lets be honest, most kids ages 14-15 that are playing Babe Ruth probably weren't good enough to make their JV team and many probably tried out but didn't make any club teams.

So they aren't on one of the "better" teams as you described.