Lumping Single Parenting, Adoption and Gay and Lesbian Parenting Into One Category? Thoughts?

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:The name kind of rubs me the wrong way though. I like Parenting - special concerns.

Since I have heard this repeatedly, I am going to change it now.

[Anonymous]

jsteele wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you think you will receive more responses from two-parent households simply because Jeff thinks that our families are abnormal, I think you will be solely disappointed.

There is no need for this type of statement. I don't think your families are abnormal. Those of you who think you deserve your own specific forum think you are abnormal.

Oh noooooooooooo. Jeff, you took the troll bait. And you flung mud back. You, of all people, I thought would be able to avoid that!

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:
Oh noooooooooooo. Jeff, you took the troll bait. And you flung mud back. You, of all people, I thought would be able to avoid that!

That's not mud. That's just fact. It is those that say "group X needs its own forum because we are different than everyone else" that thinks their group is abnormal. Otherwise, they would be saying "how dare you ostracize us to our own Siberia when we are just like everyone else".

[Anonymous]

Ouch.

[Anonymous]

I am the person who originally suggested having a forum for adoptive parents - after I got backlash on the general parenting forum for asking about a nature-versus-nurture issue that concerned me. (People made really snarky comments without understanding I just wanted to make sure my child, who is not genetically related to me, was developmentally on track in one area.)

I had not followed that these three forums were to be rolled together but am saddened and frankly stunned by that step. I would just as soon you cancel the blended forum altogether and we adoptive parents will manage without a special place on DCUM. FWIW, I am also a single mom and here, too, we can just do without.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's like having a support group with cancer survivors, transplant patients and amputees all in one. VERY DIFFERENT!

This is a great illustration! While I don't object to learning new things from other peoples' posts, it can be more difficult to winnow out the relevant topics I'm looking for in here now. It just doesn't seem logical to blend the categories in this forum, other than we are all parents and as such, maybe it's more appropriate to go back to the mainstream parenting or general forums. As long as our posts aren't deleted or moved here. Sigh.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I wish Jeff had waited until after Labor Day when more people were around to comment on this. We'll see where it goes. I feels less active but maybe not.

Jeff, in the future if you are considering a change might you post the idea on the forum(s) in question? I never looked at the forum on the website until AFTER you made this change. After clicking around I appreciate that you got all sorts of requests. Thanks for considering this suggestion.