What in your definition makes someone a poseur? What is a poseur as an adult?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word poseur ever really, but when I hear it I think of a woman I knew for a time about a decade ago. I worked with her and she was part of a social scene I was in, so we overlapped a lot and I observed her in multiple settings.

She would adjust her politics and beliefs for the group she was around, flipping from cynical centrism to far left progressivism at the drop of a hat. It was so dramatic that when I first met her, I thought maybe she was two people I was confusing with one another.

She purchased and planned outfits like she was dressing a Barbie. At work she was corporate Barbie. Socially she was chill, boho Barbie. If she vacationed in France, she was beret-and-stripes French Barbie. If she went on a safari... well you get the idea. I think a lot of her clothes were worn once or twice only, as "outfits" to match the event, and then discarded. So weird.

She was a compulsive liar and would lie most frequently to claim some special connection to a person or situation. Like this week she probably claimed she had a sibling or cousin who is an astronomer and gave her special insight into the eclipse (she seemed to have a lot of siblings and relatives with special access and knowledge, but I think she was just reading Wikipedia entries and assigning the info to a special "expert" she happened to know). If you were watching the Super Bowl, she apparently knew several people who were there. If you mentioned a restaurant, she claimed to know the owners. If you were reading a book, she knew someone at the publisher. She was a regular UMC woman from the midwest who went to an above average SLAC (not an Ivy, not a tippy top school). There was no way all of this true, maybe some of it was. I think she just felt claiming special knowledge and connections boosted her social caché? It was really weird.

Poseur.

you need therapy

NP. That PP needs therapy for having eyes? No.

Nice try sock puppet. Obsessive compulsive disorder for a start.

I'm the PP who posted the long post and no, this wasn't a sock puppet. Your response was weird -- that woman was obviously strange and I don't think I need therapy for noticing clearly odd behavior.

Also I wasn't the only one who noticed her weird behavior. Eventually lots of people did. The downside of being a fake is that people inevitably figure you out.

You did write a lot about her, which gives the impression that you're over-invested at minimum, OCD at worst.

I love that on DCUM, writing "a lot" means four paragraphs. This town is full of lawyers! I could write four paragraphs on thumb tacks, despite never having spent more than a few second thinking about them and not having used one in at least a decade. I am not over-invested in thumbtacks, nor do I have OCD. I'm just verbose and work my thoughts out by writing.

[Anonymous]

Poseur: someone who speaks in an affected accent. Examples include an American born spouse who marries someone with a British accent and very quickly the American spouse speaks with a clipped British accent and uses British pronunciations and terms like laboratory/lorry/lift. Ugh. Note that it’s never the British person adopting the American accent. Linda McCartney is a great example.

And no, don’t tell me that you have an ear for accents and any time you travel or spend time in a country or even return to your native country that your accent comes back. No. Not the same. I mean a carefully practiced conscious decision to fake an accent and keep it going for years.

Still laugh recalling my FCPS classmates (girls) who went to southern colleges. By high school in October and certainly by winter break, they all sounded like Scarlett O’Hara, y’all! I dee-clayah! Fake poseurs!

[Anonymous]

Homecoming. By hs homecoming in October, y’all…