What in your definition makes someone a poseur? What is a poseur as an adult?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think less about people wearing which particular school sweatshirt they didn’t go to. and more about the people asking here once a year about which soup kitchen their kid can volunteer at for Thanksgiving so they can teach about the less fortunate.

Reverse for me.

Volunteering on Thanksgiving is cliche pseudoservice.

Oh you meant you it think it's less about that aspect, not you think less of those people.

I mean I’m less concerned about someone wearing a certain outfit, but am concerned with them engaging in what you called said “pseudoservcice”, so they can signal they are kind and helpful and caring on SM or to their friends. That’s poseur to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you move to Durham and begin to sport Duke apparel but did not attend Duke for undergrad or grad school, are you a poseur?

If you dress differently than you do at home while on vacation, does that make you a poseur? (Ex: Preppy for Nantucket)

What makes an adult a poseur vs. someone blending in with their environment?

1) if you are a fan of their sports teams it’s ok; if not, poseur.

2) if you only dress preppy in Nantucket then yes, somewhat poseur

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spelling poser with a French u

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word poseur ever really, but when I hear it I think of a woman I knew for a time about a decade ago. I worked with her and she was part of a social scene I was in, so we overlapped a lot and I observed her in multiple settings.

She would adjust her politics and beliefs for the group she was around, flipping from cynical centrism to far left progressivism at the drop of a hat. It was so dramatic that when I first met her, I thought maybe she was two people I was confusing with one another.

She purchased and planned outfits like she was dressing a Barbie. At work she was corporate Barbie. Socially she was chill, boho Barbie. If she vacationed in France, she was beret-and-stripes French Barbie. If she went on a safari... well you get the idea. I think a lot of her clothes were worn once or twice only, as "outfits" to match the event, and then discarded. So weird.

She was a compulsive liar and would lie most frequently to claim some special connection to a person or situation. Like this week she probably claimed she had a sibling or cousin who is an astronomer and gave her special insight into the eclipse (she seemed to have a lot of siblings and relatives with special access and knowledge, but I think she was just reading Wikipedia entries and assigning the info to a special "expert" she happened to know). If you were watching the Super Bowl, she apparently knew several people who were there. If you mentioned a restaurant, she claimed to know the owners. If you were reading a book, she knew someone at the publisher. She was a regular UMC woman from the midwest who went to an above average SLAC (not an Ivy, not a tippy top school). There was no way all of this true, maybe some of it was. I think she just felt claiming special knowledge and connections boosted her social caché? It was really weird.

Poseur.

you need therapy

NP. That PP needs therapy for having eyes? No.

Nice try sock puppet. Obsessive compulsive disorder for a start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word poseur ever really, but when I hear it I think of a woman I knew for a time about a decade ago. I worked with her and she was part of a social scene I was in, so we overlapped a lot and I observed her in multiple settings.

She would adjust her politics and beliefs for the group she was around, flipping from cynical centrism to far left progressivism at the drop of a hat. It was so dramatic that when I first met her, I thought maybe she was two people I was confusing with one another.

She purchased and planned outfits like she was dressing a Barbie. At work she was corporate Barbie. Socially she was chill, boho Barbie. If she vacationed in France, she was beret-and-stripes French Barbie. If she went on a safari... well you get the idea. I think a lot of her clothes were worn once or twice only, as "outfits" to match the event, and then discarded. So weird.

She was a compulsive liar and would lie most frequently to claim some special connection to a person or situation. Like this week she probably claimed she had a sibling or cousin who is an astronomer and gave her special insight into the eclipse (she seemed to have a lot of siblings and relatives with special access and knowledge, but I think she was just reading Wikipedia entries and assigning the info to a special "expert" she happened to know). If you were watching the Super Bowl, she apparently knew several people who were there. If you mentioned a restaurant, she claimed to know the owners. If you were reading a book, she knew someone at the publisher. She was a regular UMC woman from the midwest who went to an above average SLAC (not an Ivy, not a tippy top school). There was no way all of this true, maybe some of it was. I think she just felt claiming special knowledge and connections boosted her social caché? It was really weird.

Poseur.

you need therapy

NP. That PP needs therapy for having eyes? No.

Nice try sock puppet. Obsessive compulsive disorder for a start.

I'm the PP who posted the long post and no, this wasn't a sock puppet. Your response was weird -- that woman was obviously strange and I don't think I need therapy for noticing clearly odd behavior.

Also I wasn't the only one who noticed her weird behavior. Eventually lots of people did. The downside of being a fake is that people inevitably figure you out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word poseur ever really, but when I hear it I think of a woman I knew for a time about a decade ago. I worked with her and she was part of a social scene I was in, so we overlapped a lot and I observed her in multiple settings.

She would adjust her politics and beliefs for the group she was around, flipping from cynical centrism to far left progressivism at the drop of a hat. It was so dramatic that when I first met her, I thought maybe she was two people I was confusing with one another.

She purchased and planned outfits like she was dressing a Barbie. At work she was corporate Barbie. Socially she was chill, boho Barbie. If she vacationed in France, she was beret-and-stripes French Barbie. If she went on a safari... well you get the idea. I think a lot of her clothes were worn once or twice only, as "outfits" to match the event, and then discarded. So weird.

She was a compulsive liar and would lie most frequently to claim some special connection to a person or situation. Like this week she probably claimed she had a sibling or cousin who is an astronomer and gave her special insight into the eclipse (she seemed to have a lot of siblings and relatives with special access and knowledge, but I think she was just reading Wikipedia entries and assigning the info to a special "expert" she happened to know). If you were watching the Super Bowl, she apparently knew several people who were there. If you mentioned a restaurant, she claimed to know the owners. If you were reading a book, she knew someone at the publisher. She was a regular UMC woman from the midwest who went to an above average SLAC (not an Ivy, not a tippy top school). There was no way all of this true, maybe some of it was. I think she just felt claiming special knowledge and connections boosted her social caché? It was really weird.

Poseur.

you need therapy

NP. That PP needs therapy for having eyes? No.

Agree.

I know a similar woman. She's from Venezuela, not the Midwest, but very very similar behaviors. Oh, she also takes other people's experiences and stories and tell them as her own, like it happened to her. So strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word poseur ever really, but when I hear it I think of a woman I knew for a time about a decade ago. I worked with her and she was part of a social scene I was in, so we overlapped a lot and I observed her in multiple settings.

She would adjust her politics and beliefs for the group she was around, flipping from cynical centrism to far left progressivism at the drop of a hat. It was so dramatic that when I first met her, I thought maybe she was two people I was confusing with one another.

She purchased and planned outfits like she was dressing a Barbie. At work she was corporate Barbie. Socially she was chill, boho Barbie. If she vacationed in France, she was beret-and-stripes French Barbie. If she went on a safari... well you get the idea. I think a lot of her clothes were worn once or twice only, as "outfits" to match the event, and then discarded. So weird.

She was a compulsive liar and would lie most frequently to claim some special connection to a person or situation. Like this week she probably claimed she had a sibling or cousin who is an astronomer and gave her special insight into the eclipse (she seemed to have a lot of siblings and relatives with special access and knowledge, but I think she was just reading Wikipedia entries and assigning the info to a special "expert" she happened to know). If you were watching the Super Bowl, she apparently knew several people who were there. If you mentioned a restaurant, she claimed to know the owners. If you were reading a book, she knew someone at the publisher. She was a regular UMC woman from the midwest who went to an above average SLAC (not an Ivy, not a tippy top school). There was no way all of this true, maybe some of it was. I think she just felt claiming special knowledge and connections boosted her social caché? It was really weird.

Poseur.

you need therapy

NP. That PP needs therapy for having eyes? No.

Agree.

I know a similar woman. She's from Venezuela, not the Midwest, but very very similar behaviors. Oh, she also takes other people's experiences and stories and tell them as her own, like it happened to her. So strange.

I have known people who do this. It is sometimes very blatant, like a colleague who will adopt something about another colleague's background and appropriate it when talking to a client.

A fun but risky thing to do is to call people out on this when they do it. Just act confused. They get very mad but you can play it off as "I just didn't understand, I though Joe was the one who ran the Boston marathon last year -- I could have sworn I remember seeing a photo of him with a finisher medal... do you have any photos from the marathon? I love that stuff."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word poseur ever really, but when I hear it I think of a woman I knew for a time about a decade ago. I worked with her and she was part of a social scene I was in, so we overlapped a lot and I observed her in multiple settings.

She would adjust her politics and beliefs for the group she was around, flipping from cynical centrism to far left progressivism at the drop of a hat. It was so dramatic that when I first met her, I thought maybe she was two people I was confusing with one another.

She purchased and planned outfits like she was dressing a Barbie. At work she was corporate Barbie. Socially she was chill, boho Barbie. If she vacationed in France, she was beret-and-stripes French Barbie. If she went on a safari... well you get the idea. I think a lot of her clothes were worn once or twice only, as "outfits" to match the event, and then discarded. So weird.

She was a compulsive liar and would lie most frequently to claim some special connection to a person or situation. Like this week she probably claimed she had a sibling or cousin who is an astronomer and gave her special insight into the eclipse (she seemed to have a lot of siblings and relatives with special access and knowledge, but I think she was just reading Wikipedia entries and assigning the info to a special "expert" she happened to know). If you were watching the Super Bowl, she apparently knew several people who were there. If you mentioned a restaurant, she claimed to know the owners. If you were reading a book, she knew someone at the publisher. She was a regular UMC woman from the midwest who went to an above average SLAC (not an Ivy, not a tippy top school). There was no way all of this true, maybe some of it was. I think she just felt claiming special knowledge and connections boosted her social caché? It was really weird.

Poseur.

you need therapy

NP. That PP needs therapy for having eyes? No.

Nice try sock puppet. Obsessive compulsive disorder for a start.

Ask Jeff, that was my first post in the thread. Tighten it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spelling poser with a French u

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think less about people wearing which particular school sweatshirt they didn’t go to. and more about the people asking here once a year about which soup kitchen their kid can volunteer at for Thanksgiving so they can teach about the less fortunate.

Reverse for me.

Volunteering on Thanksgiving is cliche pseudoservice.

Oh you meant you it think it's less about that aspect, not you think less of those people.

I mean I’m less concerned about someone wearing a certain outfit, but am concerned with them engaging in what you called said “pseudoservcice”, so they can signal they are kind and helpful and caring on SM or to their friends. That’s poseur to me.

+1

And posting their volunteering on social media. NO. Just no. They are missing the point entirely, and it goes right over their heads. Volunteering is not to be announced on social media, people. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

Many posters here are poseurs, as they are basically renting their lifestyle, leveraged to the gills, all cash flow and no savings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word poseur ever really, but when I hear it I think of a woman I knew for a time about a decade ago. I worked with her and she was part of a social scene I was in, so we overlapped a lot and I observed her in multiple settings.

She would adjust her politics and beliefs for the group she was around, flipping from cynical centrism to far left progressivism at the drop of a hat. It was so dramatic that when I first met her, I thought maybe she was two people I was confusing with one another.

She purchased and planned outfits like she was dressing a Barbie. At work she was corporate Barbie. Socially she was chill, boho Barbie. If she vacationed in France, she was beret-and-stripes French Barbie. If she went on a safari... well you get the idea. I think a lot of her clothes were worn once or twice only, as "outfits" to match the event, and then discarded. So weird.

She was a compulsive liar and would lie most frequently to claim some special connection to a person or situation. Like this week she probably claimed she had a sibling or cousin who is an astronomer and gave her special insight into the eclipse (she seemed to have a lot of siblings and relatives with special access and knowledge, but I think she was just reading Wikipedia entries and assigning the info to a special "expert" she happened to know). If you were watching the Super Bowl, she apparently knew several people who were there. If you mentioned a restaurant, she claimed to know the owners. If you were reading a book, she knew someone at the publisher. She was a regular UMC woman from the midwest who went to an above average SLAC (not an Ivy, not a tippy top school). There was no way all of this true, maybe some of it was. I think she just felt claiming special knowledge and connections boosted her social caché? It was really weird.

Poseur.

you need therapy

NP. That PP needs therapy for having eyes? No.

Nice try sock puppet. Obsessive compulsive disorder for a start.

Ask Jeff, that was my first post in the thread. Tighten it up.

They won’t ask Jeff. They never do. They just cry “sock puppet!” then crawl back into their hole.

[Anonymous]

The mom at our school who went on and on about “our family house on the Outer Banks.” Turned out to be a timeshare week in April!

[Anonymous]

Someone who sets up a go fund me page for a downtrodden person they happen to come across in their lives and posts about it not just in all their social media accounts but in their business accounts under headings such as, “giving back to the community.” I mean it’s kind but some of it feels like “look at me, I’m so caring.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word poseur ever really, but when I hear it I think of a woman I knew for a time about a decade ago. I worked with her and she was part of a social scene I was in, so we overlapped a lot and I observed her in multiple settings.

She would adjust her politics and beliefs for the group she was around, flipping from cynical centrism to far left progressivism at the drop of a hat. It was so dramatic that when I first met her, I thought maybe she was two people I was confusing with one another.

She purchased and planned outfits like she was dressing a Barbie. At work she was corporate Barbie. Socially she was chill, boho Barbie. If she vacationed in France, she was beret-and-stripes French Barbie. If she went on a safari... well you get the idea. I think a lot of her clothes were worn once or twice only, as "outfits" to match the event, and then discarded. So weird.

She was a compulsive liar and would lie most frequently to claim some special connection to a person or situation. Like this week she probably claimed she had a sibling or cousin who is an astronomer and gave her special insight into the eclipse (she seemed to have a lot of siblings and relatives with special access and knowledge, but I think she was just reading Wikipedia entries and assigning the info to a special "expert" she happened to know). If you were watching the Super Bowl, she apparently knew several people who were there. If you mentioned a restaurant, she claimed to know the owners. If you were reading a book, she knew someone at the publisher. She was a regular UMC woman from the midwest who went to an above average SLAC (not an Ivy, not a tippy top school). There was no way all of this true, maybe some of it was. I think she just felt claiming special knowledge and connections boosted her social caché? It was really weird.

Poseur.

you need therapy

NP. That PP needs therapy for having eyes? No.

Nice try sock puppet. Obsessive compulsive disorder for a start.

I'm the PP who posted the long post and no, this wasn't a sock puppet. Your response was weird -- that woman was obviously strange and I don't think I need therapy for noticing clearly odd behavior.

Also I wasn't the only one who noticed her weird behavior. Eventually lots of people did. The downside of being a fake is that people inevitably figure you out.

You did write a lot about her, which gives the impression that you're over-invested at minimum, OCD at worst.