How long to reply to a text?

[Anonymous]

+1 I would be annoyed that I was being locked down for a kid’s party (unless it was a best friend). I would find it awkward to get a text asking about my schedule and feel obligated for my kid to attend. Sorry, OP. I know you have good intentions. Just how I would feel.


Same

Me too, but I would work on crafting a response that politely indicated that we would make it if were were able on weekends other than identified conflicts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is rude not to respond at all, but I would also not want to have to provide a list of my child's availability a month out, nor would I want the event of a less-than-best friend to be controlled by his availability. I'd likely just answer, "not 100 percent sure at this time. I know Billy isn't available X and Y dates (if true). If you let us know the date of the event, he'd certainly like to attend if he's able to make it."

+1 I would be annoyed that I was being locked down for a kid’s party (unless it was a best friend). I would find it awkward to get a text asking about my schedule and feel obligated for my kid to attend. Sorry, OP. I know you have good intentions. Just how I would feel.

Same

lol. Kid is a best friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is rude not to respond at all, but I would also not want to have to provide a list of my child's availability a month out, nor would I want the event of a less-than-best friend to be controlled by his availability. I'd likely just answer, "not 100 percent sure at this time. I know Billy isn't available X and Y dates (if true). If you let us know the date of the event, he'd certainly like to attend if he's able to make it."

+1 I would be annoyed that I was being locked down for a kid’s party (unless it was a best friend). I would find it awkward to get a text asking about my schedule and feel obligated for my kid to attend. Sorry, OP. I know you have good intentions. Just how I would feel.

Same

Ok, so then you reply "thanks so much for including Johnny. I'm sure he'd love to attend but right now we don't know our schedule"

Is that really so freakin' hard? Some of you are real pieces of work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is rude not to respond at all, but I would also not want to have to provide a list of my child's availability a month out, nor would I want the event of a less-than-best friend to be controlled by his availability. I'd likely just answer, "not 100 percent sure at this time. I know Billy isn't available X and Y dates (if true). If you let us know the date of the event, he'd certainly like to attend if he's able to make it."

+1 I would be annoyed that I was being locked down for a kid’s party (unless it was a best friend). I would find it awkward to get a text asking about my schedule and feel obligated for my kid to attend. Sorry, OP. I know you have good intentions. Just how I would feel.

Same

Ok, so then you reply "thanks so much for including Johnny. I'm sure he'd love to attend but right now we don't know our schedule"

Is that really so freakin' hard? Some of you are real pieces of work.

Who is the piece of work? Just send a 2nd text. Is it "really so freakin' hard?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is rude not to respond at all, but I would also not want to have to provide a list of my child's availability a month out, nor would I want the event of a less-than-best friend to be controlled by his availability. I'd likely just answer, "not 100 percent sure at this time. I know Billy isn't available X and Y dates (if true). If you let us know the date of the event, he'd certainly like to attend if he's able to make it."

+1 I would be annoyed that I was being locked down for a kid’s party (unless it was a best friend). I would find it awkward to get a text asking about my schedule and feel obligated for my kid to attend. Sorry, OP. I know you have good intentions. Just how I would feel.

This. There are some weeks I am so busy and too many plans are up in the air that I would be annoyed you asked me to give you some good dates. OP, just pick a date that works for you.

[Anonymous]

It is rude or disorganized or both. Totally understandable to be annoyed.

But, if you are doing this for the kid, just follow up.

[Anonymous]

Agree - I can read a text when busy and forget about it. I could see also getting stuck on the request if they have busy weekends or are thinking about going away but not sure when. Or, the other kid has no interest and you did not give them an out. Had you said a specific weekend, they could have just replied it will not work.


Text back with a reminder. Give a choice of two weekends and say you understand of it will not work, but please let you know.

[Anonymous]

Pick up the phone and call the person and leave a vm.

[Anonymous]

OP, instead of just sending a second text because this is one of your sons good friends and you want to make sure he’ll be there for your son, you’ve made it about you and your ego and your expectations and lack of grace.

[Anonymous]

Give everyone the benefit of the doubt instead of taking something they say or do personally.

You don’t know what they are going through.

Just ask again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I texted a parent inviting their son to an outing that has not yet been planned but my son wants this outing to involve this kid. My text was a very friendly and specified the outing (for a birthday) and asked if there were any weekends that didn't work between now and the end of May. This parent and I don't really text at all so it's not like we are texting frequently and she's just not getting back to me. It's now been 72hrs and there has been no acknowledgement of the invitation, let alone my request for possible dates that don't work. I understand the latter piece requires more time but isn't it plain rude to just ignore the text. I also know this mom is in town and doesn't work.
Wouldn't most people reply with "How nice!! Let me get back to you with dates" or something to acknowledge this invitation.

This parent has been especially rude to deal with since my son made a sports team and her kid did not but I don't see how that can lead to this impossibly rude behavior. It makes me want to retract the invite.

You are not being specific you clown

[Anonymous]

How old are these kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are these kids?

They're 10. I hear everyone's point of view. I guess I was thinking of it as let's start a dialogue on this and find a time that works. I think the silence is what I wasn't expecting. So I'll follow up. Perhaps I'm more gracious when I receive invites.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if they don't like the No Way Out of this. Are you sure the kid wants to attend?

I hate when people ask me for dates that DON'T work if I would like a way to say, Oh, sorry, that date doesn't work, if there is a specific date is given.

No text response from a texter is a little worrisome.

[Anonymous]

I know plenty of people who don't respond at all if they don't want to commit. Friends, family, business colleagues. I always text back something, so this drives me crazy. But it is common.