How did you meet your spouse/partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We met freshman year in college at a St. Patrick’s Day party. Dated exclusively all thru college and broke up a year after graduation. Our paths crossed every few years (we live in a medium sized city) until age 53 when we bumped in to each other again. She was widowed, I was divorced. Moved in together about 5 years later and that was 10 years ago.
Life is funny sometimes.

That's a sweet outcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.

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Too old for you.

Not at all. We've been very, very happy for 20 years. Guessing by your knee jerk reaction to the relationships of strangers that you have not been.

NP. That is a wide age gap whether you are a stranger or not to anyone.

[Anonymous]

I’m divorced . Met current partner through mutual friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced . Met current partner through mutual friends.

How will you meet next partner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced . Met current partner through mutual friends.

How will you meet next partner?

I’m not sure. That’s why I don’t marry. Been there, done that, have the money to do as I wish.

[Anonymous]

We were tennis players at the same club and the club director put us together for a mixed doubles event. We didn’t win but we had a lot of fun together but we were dating other people. After those relationships ended the club organized a trip to the US Open in NY and we both signed up, the only non couple in the group. So we hung out together the entire time and ended up in my room the last night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.

🤮
Too old for you.

Not at all. We've been very, very happy for 20 years. Guessing by your knee jerk reaction to the relationships of strangers that you have not been.

NP. That is a wide age gap whether you are a stranger or not to anyone.

Also NP, what’s it to you?

I’m a woman who has had three serious relationships in my life, all with men 2-6 years younger than me. Always some busy body commenting on it. 5-15 years is not nothing but it’s not like living in different eras! I’d agree maybe that 20 years is a lot to deal with but 12-13 seems totally manageable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.

🤮
Too old for you.

Not at all. We've been very, very happy for 20 years. Guessing by your knee jerk reaction to the relationships of strangers that you have not been.

NP. That is a wide age gap whether you are a stranger or not to anyone.

Also NP, what’s it to you?

I’m a woman who has had three serious relationships in my life, all with men 2-6 years younger than me. Always some busy body commenting on it. 5-15 years is not nothing but it’s not like living in different eras! I’d agree maybe that 20 years is a lot to deal with but 12-13 seems totally manageable.

So only you can decide what is too old.

[Anonymous]

Can the age imbalance posters please take it elsewhere? This is not the thread to discuss that.

I'm finding the other stories interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced . Met current partner through mutual friends.

How will you meet next partner?

I’m not sure. That’s why I don’t marry. Been there, done that, have the money to do as I wish.

Your thinking that marrying is for money is why you aren’t the marrying type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced . Met current partner through mutual friends.

How will you meet next partner?

I’m not sure. That’s why I don’t marry. Been there, done that, have the money to do as I wish.

Your thinking that marrying is for money is why you aren’t the marrying type.

Maybe. Having parted with a lot of mine to shed the ex H I’m just not willing to do it again. You should celebrate people like me who take marriage seriously enough to know not to enter into it if they don’t want to.

I have my family and enjoy being partnered. There is no reason to have the government enter any of that.

[Anonymous]

Met at 22 (me, f) and 26 (him) at work. Kind of casual acquaintances. Became friends a few months later when on the same contract. Were pretty good friends for a couple years. started dating when we were 24 at my pushing. Dated three years and married when I was 28 and he was 32. Now married coming up on 11 years with three kids, very very very in love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m divorced . Met current partner through mutual friends.

How will you meet next partner?

I’m not sure. That’s why I don’t marry. Been there, done that, have the money to do as I wish.

Your thinking that marrying is for money is why you aren’t the marrying type.

Maybe. Having parted with a lot of mine to shed the ex H I’m just not willing to do it again. You should celebrate people like me who take marriage seriously enough to know not to enter into it if they don’t want to.

I have my family and enjoy being partnered. There is no reason to have the government enter any of that.

I do think you are right to not remarry because you see marriage as a monetary means which is not what marriage should be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.

He was a senior in high school when you were in kindergarten.

How is that even remotely relevant? She wasn't dating him when she was in K. An age difference in your 20s or younger is significantly different than an age difference when you are a full-fledged functioning adult. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At work. We are both lawyers. I was 32 and he was 45.

He was a senior in high school when you were in kindergarten.

How is that even remotely relevant? She wasn't dating him when she was in K. An age difference in your 20s or younger is significantly different than an age difference when you are a full-fledged functioning adult. Get over it.

You inadvertently agreed that it is a wide age difference.
I suppose you agree that a 21 years old is appropriate to be romantically involved with an 80 years old.