Would you date a man with a 140 body count?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. He does not sound like a monogamous relationship oriented guy.

Ironically the guy I know with the highest number (well over 140) is one of very few men I know who has never cheated and is also the most devoted husband I know.

So ironic that you know anything about his supposed count, marriage or actual fathering skills.

I am a guy. He is best friend, never hid anything from me. Our families spend a lot of time together.

So you're a cheater? He is the only person you know who hasn't? Yes, you do hang around trashy people.

[Anonymous]

No, discusting!!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. He does not sound like a monogamous relationship oriented guy.

Ironically the guy I know with the highest number (well over 140) is one of very few men I know who has never cheated and is also the most devoted husband I know.

So ironic that you know anything about his supposed count, marriage or actual fathering skills.

I am a guy. He is best friend, never hid anything from me. Our families spend a lot of time together.

Why the F do you think you know anything about marriage or his marriage or his actual role in the household? Do you live in their house? No.

All you know is what he chooses to tell you. True or not.

[Anonymous]

so it's perfectly fine for the women of DCUM shame guy for a high body count.

However whenever there is a post of a guy being uncomfortable that his GF/DW has a high body count, the same women here scream saying it's absolutely no one's business to judge.

f'ing hypocrites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so it's perfectly fine for the women of DCUM shame guy for a high body count.

However whenever there is a post of a guy being uncomfortable that his GF/DW has a high body count, the same women here scream saying it's absolutely no one's business to judge.

f'ing hypocrites.

Difference is that men making those posts think 5 is a high body count for a woman. No one would "scream saying it's absolutely no one's business to judge" a woman with a number in the hundreds.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman who is conservative but not red pilled. I would absolutely not.

Reasons:

That high of a body count would lead me to believe he’s had many ONS or flings. I would worry that he has never, and more importantly, is not capable of having a serious monogamous relationship. Then I would wonder if he has intimacy issues.

I would also be weary of his values. To me it would seem he lacks self-control and self-discipline. I would worry that he would be unfaithful.

Lastly, your partner is a reflection of you. I’m not a prude, but I don’t want to be dating the town bicycle.

[Anonymous]

Plus he leaves his tweens home for five days and nights a pop with the stouffers and vhs player.

[Anonymous]

No. I consider sex as something to be shared with a person you care about. A man who takes it lightly wouldn't be on the same wavelength.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not if I knew that going in, because the fact that I know that number about him either means:

1. he's bragging about it (and keeping count, yikes), or
2. he's got a reputation from his wild oats days and people are still talking about it.

Hard no to both. That said, I have no idea what DH's number is, because he's not a 17 year old with a hit list, so I do not have a hard stop for past partners. Just the idea of keeping count and talking about it is wildly immature and indicative of someone who values quantity over quality.

Same here. I also have no idea what DH's count is and he doesn't know mine.

[Anonymous]

Nope bc he keeps track. You are clearly No 141.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't want anything to do with someone who calls it "body count". That's gross and disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not date anyone who keeps count or discusses it. How immature.
A number that high doesn’t imply anything good. He’s likely a cheater or a sex addict.
If he is neither, it’s telling that none of his partners seem to stick around for long. Yuck.

+1 Clearly someone who is so interested in casual sex he's not going to "date" in the sense of, "Getting to know each other as people." He's going to "date" as in "I'm only seeking another sex partner." And likely expects sex at the end of the first or second date, with a number that high.

Someone (man or woman) with that high a count seem unlikely ever to be satisfied with exclusivity. For reasons of both physical health, and pursuit of actual, mature love that's not rooted entirely in sex, exclusivity is essential for me, so, nope, this person has a track record that would make me say no. YMMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so it's perfectly fine for the women of DCUM shame guy for a high body count.

However whenever there is a post of a guy being uncomfortable that his GF/DW has a high body count, the same women here scream saying it's absolutely no one's business to judge.

f'ing hypocrites.

No, some of us will freely judge both women and men who are (as another poster put it) the town bicycle. You know, everyone's had a ride.

[Anonymous]

140 is nothing in the gay male world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:140 is nothing in the gay male world.

The only male who bragged to me about his "success" was bi-sexual and practiced threesomes. I was so glad I didn't sleep with him and took time to learn more about his past.