Would you date a man with a 140 body count?

[Anonymous]

Exactly - girls throw themselves at many boys nowadays at HS. But not all boys f…k anything that moves. Many are disgusted by promiscuous women, and want actual relationships, a connection. My son avoids these girls - he wants to have a beautiful GF. He’s tall, attractive, well educated and comes from wealth.

Also, he comes from parents who have taught him modesty (but, sadly, cannot teach him good grammar.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Exactly - girls throw themselves at many boys nowadays at HS. But not all boys f…k anything that moves. Many are disgusted by promiscuous women, and want actual relationships, a connection. My son avoids these girls - he wants to have a beautiful GF. He’s tall, attractive, well educated and comes from wealth.

Also, he comes from parents who have taught him modesty (but, sadly, cannot teach him good grammar.)

Yea, those immigrants took over everything!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners ."

This person was having lots of sex for a little over 10 years while young and is now over the age of 50. Married for about 10 of those post-30 years. Not sure how it's fair to say they built their life around their D.

I think you don't realize how easy a small, select group of males in their 20s have it when it comes to casual sex. My brother was like this when he was young, and my son is now too. It's wild to witness up close, but many women really do throw themselves at certain men and request ONSs. (I never did this, so I was surprised to see it.)

Women have always thrown myself at my brother, same situation you're describing. If he had wanted a ONS every day of the week he could have had them in his 20s. Completely different situation for my other brother, who really had to work to get a date. The other brother wasn't objectively that much more attractive than the other one, but there was something about his funloving, athletic, easygoing manner that made women love him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners ."

This person was having lots of sex for a little over 10 years while young and is now over the age of 50. Married for about 10 of those post-30 years. Not sure how it's fair to say they built their life around their D.

I think you don't realize how easy a small, select group of males in their 20s have it when it comes to casual sex. My brother was like this when he was young, and my son is now too. It's wild to witness up close, but many women really do throw themselves at certain men and request ONSs. (I never did this, so I was surprised to see it.)

Women have always thrown myself at my brother, same situation you're describing. If he had wanted a ONS every day of the week he could have had them in his 20s. Completely different situation for my other brother, who really had to work to get a date. The other brother wasn't objectively that much more attractive than the other one, but there was something about his funloving, athletic, easygoing manner that made women love him.

So you are staying here that men have no own agency or inclination to be in relationships at all, if casual sex is guaranteed from multiple women? This is just BS. There are many attractive men for whom monogamy (or serial monogamy) is a preferred way of living. Women can hit on them as much as they want, but if he’s loyal to his GF and wants monogamy, it won’t make him sleep around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners ."

This person was having lots of sex for a little over 10 years while young and is now over the age of 50. Married for about 10 of those post-30 years. Not sure how it's fair to say they built their life around their D.

I think you don't realize how easy a small, select group of males in their 20s have it when it comes to casual sex. My brother was like this when he was young, and my son is now too. It's wild to witness up close, but many women really do throw themselves at certain men and request ONSs. (I never did this, so I was surprised to see it.)

Women have always thrown myself at my brother, same situation you're describing. If he had wanted a ONS every day of the week he could have had them in his 20s. Completely different situation for my other brother, who really had to work to get a date. The other brother wasn't objectively that much more attractive than the other one, but there was something about his funloving, athletic, easygoing manner that made women love him.

So you are staying here that men have no own agency or inclination to be in relationships at all, if casual sex is guaranteed from multiple women? This is just BS. There are many attractive men for whom monogamy (or serial monogamy) is a preferred way of living. Women can hit on them as much as they want, but if he’s loyal to his GF and wants monogamy, it won’t make him sleep around.

+1. The boys will be boys mentality is gross. Sounds like an excuse for poor parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners ."

This person was having lots of sex for a little over 10 years while young and is now over the age of 50. Married for about 10 of those post-30 years. Not sure how it's fair to say they built their life around their D.

I think you don't realize how easy a small, select group of males in their 20s have it when it comes to casual sex. My brother was like this when he was young, and my son is now too. It's wild to witness up close, but many women really do throw themselves at certain men and request ONSs. (I never did this, so I was surprised to see it.)

Women have always thrown myself at my brother, same situation you're describing. If he had wanted a ONS every day of the week he could have had them in his 20s. Completely different situation for my other brother, who really had to work to get a date. The other brother wasn't objectively that much more attractive than the other one, but there was something about his funloving, athletic, easygoing manner that made women love him.

So you are staying here that men have no own agency or inclination to be in relationships at all, if casual sex is guaranteed from multiple women? This is just BS. There are many attractive men for whom monogamy (or serial monogamy) is a preferred way of living. Women can hit on them as much as they want, but if he’s loyal to his GF and wants monogamy, it won’t make him sleep around.

+1. The boys will be boys mentality is gross. Sounds like an excuse for poor parenting.

Yes, it’s partially poor parenting: spoiling boys, always telling them “my handsome son” etc. Other reason - these men and women are just poly. They need to date others who are poly, eg have similarly wired sexuality. Mono partner won’t be happy with poly and other way around

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners ."

This person was having lots of sex for a little over 10 years while young and is now over the age of 50. Married for about 10 of those post-30 years. Not sure how it's fair to say they built their life around their D.

I think you don't realize how easy a small, select group of males in their 20s have it when it comes to casual sex. My brother was like this when he was young, and my son is now too. It's wild to witness up close, but many women really do throw themselves at certain men and request ONSs. (I never did this, so I was surprised to see it.)

Women have always thrown myself at my brother, same situation you're describing. If he had wanted a ONS every day of the week he could have had them in his 20s. Completely different situation for my other brother, who really had to work to get a date. The other brother wasn't objectively that much more attractive than the other one, but there was something about his funloving, athletic, easygoing manner that made women love him.

So you are staying here that men have no own agency or inclination to be in relationships at all, if casual sex is guaranteed from multiple women? This is just BS. There are many attractive men for whom monogamy (or serial monogamy) is a preferred way of living. Women can hit on them as much as they want, but if he’s loyal to his GF and wants monogamy, it won’t make him sleep around.

+1. The boys will be boys mentality is gross. Sounds like an excuse for poor parenting.

Yes, it’s partially poor parenting: spoiling boys, always telling them “my handsome son” etc. Other reason - these men and women are just poly. They need to date others who are poly, eg have similarly wired sexuality. Mono partner won’t be happy with poly and other way around

That's incorrect. Poly is a choice not a different wiring. Kids of polygamy cultures majority decided monogamy was the better choice after seeing their parents way of life

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"I wouldn’t want to be near with someone who’s built his life around his D and pleasures. Living in a constant search of sex partners ."

This person was having lots of sex for a little over 10 years while young and is now over the age of 50. Married for about 10 of those post-30 years. Not sure how it's fair to say they built their life around their D.

I think you don't realize how easy a small, select group of males in their 20s have it when it comes to casual sex. My brother was like this when he was young, and my son is now too. It's wild to witness up close, but many women really do throw themselves at certain men and request ONSs. (I never did this, so I was surprised to see it.)

Women have always thrown myself at my brother, same situation you're describing. If he had wanted a ONS every day of the week he could have had them in his 20s. Completely different situation for my other brother, who really had to work to get a date. The other brother wasn't objectively that much more attractive than the other one, but there was something about his funloving, athletic, easygoing manner that made women love him.

So you are staying here that men have no own agency or inclination to be in relationships at all, if casual sex is guaranteed from multiple women? This is just BS. There are many attractive men for whom monogamy (or serial monogamy) is a preferred way of living. Women can hit on them as much as they want, but if he’s loyal to his GF and wants monogamy, it won’t make him sleep around.

+1. The boys will be boys mentality is gross. Sounds like an excuse for poor parenting.

Yes, it’s partially poor parenting: spoiling boys, always telling them “my handsome son” etc. Other reason - these men and women are just poly. They need to date others who are poly, eg have similarly wired sexuality. Mono partner won’t be happy with poly and other way around

That's incorrect. Poly is a choice not a different wiring. Kids of polygamy cultures majority decided monogamy was the better choice after seeing their parents way of life

I do think people who need multiple sexual partners somehow just can't get constant hormonal stimulation from being with one partner. They constantly need a change. I've known men like that who were raised by a single mother. A crazy super devoted and spoiling mom a common theme for the poly men in my past experience. She remains the only woman he's truly devoted to through his life.

[Anonymous]

"Women have always thrown myself at my brother, same situation you're describing. If he had wanted a ONS every day of the week he could have had them in his 20s. Completely different situation for my other brother, who really had to work to get a date. The other brother wasn't objectively that much more attractive than the other one, but there was something about his funloving, athletic, easygoing manner that made women love him."

I'm the PP you are responding to. Thanks for giving another example of this phenomenon.

My son prefers to be in a monogamous relationship and truly doesn't like fending off the overtures from girls/women. Most of the girls who go after him are legit gorgeous and smart (9s and 10s), just like the ones he's been in relationships with. (I don't think the less attractive girls have the confidence to throw themselves at a really good looking guy?) I don't blame him for sometimes accepting offers from the many very pretty girls who approach him, but he does say that now and then these girls come back hoping that it meant something it didn't, and he tries to avoid those situations. He doesn't sleep with more than one at a time because he says that he can't handle keeping track of all that. (He's got ADHD. LOL!) In your early 20s and at a residential college, you encounter new girls every weekend. I know that for us old farts it's hard to fathom that you could have so many attractive people approaching you, but it definitely does happen.

[Anonymous]

"I do think people who need multiple sexual partners somehow just can't get constant hormonal stimulation from being with one partner."

I think you're mixing apples and oranges here. There probably isn't much overlap between the polyamory people (who tend to be in couples and skew middle aged) and the high body count hetero guys in their 20s.

[Anonymous]

"Yes, it’s partially poor parenting: spoiling boys, always telling them “my handsome son” etc."

I know three men who are in poly situations. Only one of them is physically attractive. The others are neutral at best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Women have always thrown myself at my brother, same situation you're describing. If he had wanted a ONS every day of the week he could have had them in his 20s. Completely different situation for my other brother, who really had to work to get a date. The other brother wasn't objectively that much more attractive than the other one, but there was something about his funloving, athletic, easygoing manner that made women love him."

I'm the PP you are responding to. Thanks for giving another example of this phenomenon.

My son prefers to be in a monogamous relationship and truly doesn't like fending off the overtures from girls/women. Most of the girls who go after him are legit gorgeous and smart (9s and 10s), just like the ones he's been in relationships with. (I don't think the less attractive girls have the confidence to throw themselves at a really good looking guy?) I don't blame him for sometimes accepting offers from the many very pretty girls who approach him, but he does say that now and then these girls come back hoping that it meant something it didn't, and he tries to avoid those situations. He doesn't sleep with more than one at a time because he says that he can't handle keeping track of all that. (He's got ADHD. LOL!) In your early 20s and at a residential college, you encounter new girls every weekend. I know that for us old farts it's hard to fathom that you could have so many attractive people approaching you, but it definitely does happen.

Why are you so involved in your son’s love life?

[Anonymous]

Because he is a TMI kind of person. I try to stop him before he just blurts out things that I really don't want to know about him and his friends. I am glad he knows to come to me for advice and guidance on sexual health things but sometimes I shudder at the things these kids do.

[Anonymous]

Sure I would, but only if I were interested in being number 141.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:140 is ok


-Jon250+

Who is Jon, what does that mean?