Constant negative feedback from school

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you for posting this, OP. I'm a teacher with three students at various places on the spectrum of challenging. One has really come along, one probably needs a special ed placement in a therapeutic school and the third has obvious adhd. This third little guy, his parents are trying so hard and quite honestly, so is he. He just can't control himself. Parents have an eval in a few weeks, and are doing OT for him. We often have to call because he gets into physical altercations. But I appreciate your post because I really like to contact parents with positive news, and it is a reminder to make sure this family (and all of them really) get more of that. I sent off a positive email a day or two ago after reading your initial post. I hope you get to hear some positive, too.

I love this. As a parent who had a “trouble” student, the glowing positive email we got from his teacher at the end of the year about how far he came along and improved still warms my heart to this day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Age? Type of school? Type of issues?

I've been there - just trying to get a sense if my experience is relevant.

PreK girl in a private school, issues with hyperactive active behavior that has just recently become disruptive, also some social emotional concerns

op - I have been there with the exact same situation but a boy. Mine is now 10 and still at the same school and i have actually become a default parent for helping other parents through this and help them understand what is actually going on.

1. the school is setting the stage for either asking you for a neuropsych or counseling your dd out. if you have got this far in the year then the likely are not counseling out. Have YOU suggested a neurospych? if you do, they will likely be relieved. If you don't, they will suggest before summer.

2. what they expect to come out of the neurospych is probably a combination of adhd and/ or asd, with adhd being the predominant concern they have. Make no mistake, they want you to be open to giving your child medication within the next couple years and if you aren't, they dont want you to stay. everything else is gravy.

3. you have a great kid. once you start to be super proactive about neurospych and medication, likely they will work with you to make it all better and the calls will stop. and they should remind you all the time that your kid is great and then their job will be to take your great kid that needs some extra help and, themselves, go the extra mile. that's the tradeoff.

GL.

Yes, this is exactly our experience. Once we said we'd do neuropsych before they suggested the tables turned. The nueropysch recommended meds, of course. The school was definitely pleased we were open to it. Also we try to send somewhat random appreciation notes to the teacher. But, before that, getting 1-2 negative emails or calls had me totally dreading pickup and any school event. Good luck.