Anyone have any regrets doing ED?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's normal to have some buyer's remorse. However, keep in mind that this is another very competitive admissions cycle, and there is a good chance your child would not have been admitted to this school had they not applied ED. And most likely, they would not have been admitted RD to any school higher with higher rankings. I would encourage you to focus on the aspects of the school that drew your child to it initially. There is a reason he/she chose ED.....try to embrace it.

My DD chose a top 25 SLAC to ED to and was admitted. She has had kids at her school saying "congratulations, but it is a safety for me." Rude, I know, but it made her second guess her decision as well. Guess what....NONE of them were admitted. I said to my child, "well, I guess it wasn't really a safety school after all!" She has been able to enjoy her senior year and has known since December where she is attending, which has been great. Congratulations to your child for their acceptance. Give it a chance, and bloom where you're planted. Good luck!

Wow. Astoundingly rude. Glad your child got into a great school.

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Anonymous wrote:Why waste time thinking about “what ifs”? Your kid is going to the ED school. That’s it.

Both my kids did ED and never gave it a second thought. It was and is their first choice.

+1

If you are not 100% certain and excited about the school, why did your kid ED?

Don't give the "what ifs" a thought. Your kid is going to their ED. There will be things they love and things they hate---that is the case no matter where your kid attends.

I went to a T10 school, loved it. There were things I didn't like, but that would have been the case anywhere I went. Nothing is 100% perfect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's normal to have some buyer's remorse. However, keep in mind that this is another very competitive admissions cycle, and there is a good chance your child would not have been admitted to this school had they not applied ED. And most likely, they would not have been admitted RD to any school higher with higher rankings. I would encourage you to focus on the aspects of the school that drew your child to it initially. There is a reason he/she chose ED.....try to embrace it.

My DD chose a top 25 SLAC to ED to and was admitted. She has had kids at her school saying "congratulations, but it is a safety for me." Rude, I know, but it made her second guess her decision as well. Guess what....NONE of them were admitted. I said to my child, "well, I guess it wasn't really a safety school after all!" She has been able to enjoy her senior year and has known since December where she is attending, which has been great. Congratulations to your child for their acceptance. Give it a chance, and bloom where you're planted. Good luck!

She should be happy those rude kids won't be appearing on her small campus come fall. They sound miserable

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Reverse situation here - my kid is so relieved in retrospect to have not gotten into their ED. They were deciding between an ED school and an EA school all summer and applied to the ED school to try to beat the odds, got deferred, and then got into the EA school - and is so, so happy now with how it worked out.
Trust the process!

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Nope, got in ED1 and it's been great.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand this "one true love" mindset for college. there are probably 100+ colleges that would provide an excellent education for your child and they would have an amazing time -- and the one they got into ED is definitely one of them.

While there are a lot of schools where our DD could get an excellent education, there was one clear, no question at all that this is where I really want to go" school. She applied, was accepted, and is over the moon. She received substantial merit offers at a couple of the schools where she applied EA and that gave us pause, but we'd budgeted for full pay for her dream school so it is what it is. No regrets!

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Let it go.

25 years later, DH still complains about how his parents “forced” him to apply ED to his undergrad school. I still have to remind him that he could have refused to sign the loan documents or to attend but he didn’t so he needs to let it go and move on. He’s had a good career and his loans are paid off but he still has anger toward ever agreeing to them.

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Did they even have ED 25 years ago? I thought that it was a newer development.

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My kid did ED and got in. Some thoughts about what if…but have to decide at some point and will never know what life would be like if you took other paths.

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We have regrets that we didn't do ED here, I think.

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Anonymous wrote:Did they even have ED 25 years ago? I thought that it was a newer development.

Yes, for sure. At my SLAC it felt like we all got in ED in the mid-90s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did they even have ED 25 years ago? I thought that it was a newer development.

Yes I went to an Ivy ED, with stats that might not get me in to Tulane now.

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Anonymous wrote:Did they even have ED 25 years ago? I thought that it was a newer development.

Yes, they had ED back in the cave days. I got my acceptance letter to Smith in December 1983. I remember kids in my high school that I didn’t know coming up to me to congratulate me because it was such an anomaly. They were realizing that this college thing was really happening.

[Anonymous]

ED remorse was a more valid thing back when all of us were applying IMO. With RD acceptance rates being so ridiculous now for most selective schools, kids should be happy to be able to attend any of them, especially one they like well enough to commit to like that.

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Anonymous wrote:ED remorse was a more valid thing back when all of us were applying IMO. With RD acceptance rates being so ridiculous now for most selective schools, kids should be happy to be able to attend any of them, especially one they like well enough to commit to like that.

Very true. And when the ED acceptance rate at schools like Duke and Vanderbilt is still only around 15 percent, it seems rather pointless to speculate if the kid could have gotten into Stanford. A bird in the hand...