Sex after divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isnt divorce against your religion? If that's ok, why not sex?

Old Testament examples show that it’s okay for the man, to have sdultery and nothing happens. It’s the women who are the laws are for - for whom Jesus needed to forgive…. The New Testament adulterous woman who would have been stoned, the prostitute, etc. in Old Testament a man could leave his wife for any reason.

If you’re okay divorcing and dating in 2024, you need to be okay with interpretatingbtge other “rules” of the Bible through a more progressive lens.

- not a Biblical scholar

It’s evident from your post you are not a Biblical scholar.

i think op is anti- religious person trying to illustrate the “punishment” a divorced person would be given by God for having sex after being divorced.

However: if you truly have questions about ANY religion——> this is NOT the place to get answers or advice.

Speak to a local pastor, priest, reverend, imam, etc. Speak to several and make a decision with their input or discard their input and do what you want.

Don’t listen to the anonymous people posting here.

[Anonymous]

Pp, you are right - it’s better to talk to a pastor about this topic. But as a woman I can’t talk to my pastor about this. And the common viewpoint is that sex must be expressed only within the confines of marriage. And I believed in that idea wholeheartedly, until I had to deal with an unwanted divorce. So now, given my current circumstances, I’m struggling with the idea that God intended sex to only occur within marriage. I rarely post to the religion forum and thought I’d be able to hear a few interesting viewpoints. But I feel like this thread is a reminder that posting to a public board isn’t always wise… half the time you’re accused of being a troll, when in fact the question I brought up is sincere.

[Anonymous]

I guess I’m not interested in the male POV - I feel like it’s a bunch of guys who are calling me stupid, saying I should grow up, etc.

I’m more interested in the female POV… someone who went through a similar struggle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp, you are right - it’s better to talk to a pastor about this topic. But as a woman I can’t talk to my pastor about this. And the common viewpoint is that sex must be expressed only within the confines of marriage. And I believed in that idea wholeheartedly, until I had to deal with an unwanted divorce. So now, given my current circumstances, I’m struggling with the idea that God intended sex to only occur within marriage. I rarely post to the religion forum and thought I’d be able to hear a few interesting viewpoints. But I feel like this thread is a reminder that posting to a public board isn’t always wise… half the time you’re accused of being a troll, when in fact the question I brought up is sincere.

What church do you go to that you can’t talk to your pastor about your religion?

[Anonymous]

I can bring it up, but I personally feel embarrassed to do so with a male pastor… I just feel it’s a difficult conversation to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can bring it up, but I personally feel embarrassed to do so with a male pastor… I just feel it’s a difficult conversation to have.

You should be able to talk to your pastor about this, he knows about people having sex. Did you speak to your pastor about your divorce?

[Anonymous]

So much hypocrisy in this thread - and y’all wonder why there are so many people who feel negatively toward your religious sect.

Have you not heard of MASTURBATION, OP?

LIVE your religious values or shut up about them and stop trying to impose them on others politically, including forced births.

Evangelicals have the highest divorce rate. No surprise there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much hypocrisy in this thread - and y’all wonder why there are so many people who feel negatively toward your religious sect.

Have you not heard of MASTURBATION, OP?

LIVE your religious values or shut up about them and stop trying to impose them on others politically, including forced births.

Evangelicals have the highest divorce rate. No surprise there!

No one will ever want to be friends with someone who speaks and acts like you do. You aren’t someone anyone would respect or care about, because your words and actions are that of a terrible human being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can bring it up, but I personally feel embarrassed to do so with a male pastor… I just feel it’s a difficult conversation to have.

I'd feel similarly to you OP. Talking about my sex life with anyone seems difficult (doesn't matter if I label it religion.) Maybe there is someone in the womens ministries you cam talk to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was an evangelical Christian and believed that sex should take place in the context of marriage between a man and woman. My ex cheated & we divorced. I currently have a boyfriend and we are not abstinent. I feel guilty, but at the same time I think it’s awful to suggest that the biblical thing to do is wait several years until marriage to have intimacy again. What do other evangelical or Protestant Christians think?

In old times you couldn't remarry in the church while your former spouse was still alive because God considered you to be still married.

If we ignore that little piece of history, I'd say just go sleep with your new boyfriend as much as possible and go live with him and keep your finances separate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did decide to break this rule. And I feel guilty. What is the consequence of breaking this rule?

Nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isnt divorce against your religion? If that's ok, why not sex?

Some Protestant denominations believe that the Bible permits divorce in the context of having been the victim of adultery.