Sex after divorce

[Anonymous]

I did decide to break this rule. And I feel guilty. What is the consequence of breaking this rule?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was an evangelical Christian and believed that sex should take place in the context of marriage between a man and woman. My ex cheated & we divorced. I currently have a boyfriend and we are not abstinent. I feel guilty, but at the same time I think it’s awful to suggest that the biblical thing to do is wait several years until marriage to have intimacy again. What do other evangelical or Protestant Christians think?

You are stupid.
Yeah, I said it.

Get a grip you are not a virgin. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Dang, people here are so mean. I guess this is a black and white issue for you. Don’t a lot of people struggle in areas of spiritual obedience?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dang, people here are so mean. I guess this is a black and white issue for you. Don’t a lot of people struggle in areas of spiritual obedience?

Yeah but nobody can decide for op.

It’s between op and God. An anonymous message board of strangers should not provide any guidance op should follow.

[Anonymous]

That’s true…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did decide to break this rule. And I feel guilty. What is the consequence of breaking this rule?

This is not how Christianity works, at all.

[Anonymous]

Jesus wrote a blank check. Repent when God sends you a new spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was an evangelical Christian and believed that sex should take place in the context of marriage between a man and woman. My ex cheated & we divorced. I currently have a boyfriend and we are not abstinent. I feel guilty, but at the same time I think it’s awful to suggest that the biblical thing to do is wait several years until marriage to have intimacy again. What do other evangelical or Protestant Christians think?

You are stupid.
Yeah, I said it.

Get a grip you are not a virgin. Grow up.

She can be a Born Again Virgin and Born Again Christian when she gets married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did decide to break this rule. And I feel guilty. What is the consequence of breaking this rule?

The guilt is the consequence.

The devil can take away the guilt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And my current BF love each other and enjoy each other’s company. We both think it’s reckless to get married immediately because of sex. What is wrong with having that intimacy now? I feel like it’s even worse to get married because of how it might hurt my kids, who are still processing divorce.

The Bible doesn't really concern itself with the behavior of people who are last reproductive age. You're reading too much into it if you think the rules apply to people are aren't fertile.

[Anonymous]

I’m separated and worried about this as well. Feels like I’ll be celibate forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did decide to break this rule. And I feel guilty. What is the consequence of breaking this rule?

This is not how Christianity works, at all.

I think op might be a troll or anti-religion poster trying to get to the point that people who “break rules” get “sent to hell.”

There are a few posters who are quite quick to talk about a family member scaring them with being sent to hell as a child. A person posted that their child spilled a glass of milk and was told that they were “going to hell” by an aunt. I asked what the reason was that a spilled drink would condemn a child to hell and the poster said “I don’t know,” but was sure Christianity was condemning his child to hell over spilled milk.

These kinds of posters are either trolls or very anti-religious because mentally ill family members were jerks to them and their parents didn’t protect them and explain things to them when they were children.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

So, either v. anti-religious or v. naive. And v. naive people would ask their pastor before asking at an online message board full of absolute strangers. You are going to take advice from dcum religion board?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isnt divorce against your religion? If that's ok, why not sex?

Old Testament examples show that it’s okay for the man, to have sdultery and nothing happens. It’s the women who are the laws are for - for whom Jesus needed to forgive…. The New Testament adulterous woman who would have been stoned, the prostitute, etc. in Old Testament a man could leave his wife for any reason.

If you’re okay divorcing and dating in 2024, you need to be okay with interpretatingbtge other “rules” of the Bible through a more progressive lens.

- not a Biblical scholar