Is anyone else the fat sibling?

[Anonymous]

Well, I’m th skinny sibling with the fat mother, so the fat fat sibling is the favorite and I get the nasty comments. It’s all dysfunctional family dynamics.

[Anonymous]

growing up my cousin (same age as me) was the "pretty" one and I was the..."funny" one. lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It feels really unfair to be the fat sibling. Between the two of us there isn't much difference in activity or what we eat. The skinny sibling has uncontrolled anxiety that is very severe despite medication. At one point was drinking 24 beers a day and losing weight. Now, sober, has gained maybe 10 pounds but still resembles a method addict compared to me.

The fact you would write this and somehow imply you are the worse off sibling is kind of horrifying to me. You feel so bad about being fat that you make it sound worse than… severe anxiety and alcoholism??? I mean, WTF.

[Anonymous]

Yep that's me.

My brother and one sister are like my mom skinny their whole lives no matter what they eat with zero exercise.

My father was always heavy.
My other sister and I are like him but my sister does't eat literally so she stays pretty thin. I love food.

Ugh so I grew up the fat one always. And by most standards I wasn't fat til my 50's and I gained 40 pounds. Lost it all and my mother still calls me fat. ugh

[Anonymous]

I'm an only so this don't apply to me but we were at a family gathering with DH's family and there is definitely a "fat sibling."

She is a million good things and she is also obese. I just noticed that she is starting to physically slow down at 40 and not move as well. Otherwise, I would think that she is naturally athletic.

DH's family does not care in the slightest and may have general concerns about her health but nothing about her looks. She has a "gorgeous older sister" so that probably wasn't too fun for her growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It also sounds like you’re the sibling without anxiety and addiction issues. Congrats!

This is what I was thinking.

Over-eating is a form of anxiety. Your sibling sounds like a recovering alcoholic, who now takes prescription meds instead of self-medicating. Same problem, different manifestations. Being fat is better than alcoholism. If I were you, perhaps get treated for anxiety as well - it’s genetic. It might even help you with the weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I’m th skinny sibling with the fat mother, so the fat fat sibling is the favorite and I get the nasty comments. It’s all dysfunctional family dynamics.

Me too!

I got just ‘wait until puberty/kids/the second kid/your 30s and you’ll get fat’. I’m nearly 50 and not fat - and only in the past few years have the comments subsided a bit. They just want to say it’s genetics. My mother is morbidly obese, but has really good genes so not too many health problems for a mid-70s woman who’s been obese for 40+ years.

[Anonymous]

Yes. My brother is a military officer who runs twice a day, and his wife is a 4'9" waif who doesn't work and spends three hours a day in the gym. They "can't understand" why I'm so fat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It feels really unfair to be the fat sibling. Between the two of us there isn't much difference in activity or what we eat. The skinny sibling has uncontrolled anxiety that is very severe despite medication. At one point was drinking 24 beers a day and losing weight. Now, sober, has gained maybe 10 pounds but still resembles a method addict compared to me.

The fact you would write this and somehow imply you are the worse off sibling is kind of horrifying to me. You feel so bad about being fat that you make it sound worse than… severe anxiety and alcoholism??? I mean, WTF.

To be fair, society has decided being fat is worse.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have always been the chubby sibling. Ever since childhood. I wasn't an overweight kid, but not slim. My siblings were slim.

As an adult, I've always struggled.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5 years younger than my sister, for as long as I can remember she's been bigger and last year she lost a huge amount of weight, now we're the same size (in clothes) and im so proud of her but it hurts so much to be the bigger sister. Everyone always says stuff abt how much weight she lost and how good she looks and no one says anything about me, idk why i feel this way and shes never mean to me abt it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It feels really unfair to be the fat sibling. Between the two of us there isn't much difference in activity or what we eat. The skinny sibling has uncontrolled anxiety that is very severe despite medication. At one point was drinking 24 beers a day and losing weight. Now, sober, has gained maybe 10 pounds but still resembles a method addict compared to me.

Nothing unfair with being fat.

You are in charge or what goes in your mouth and at what frequency.

Full stop.

Feel free to spend $550-1200 per month for glp-1 injectibles if you need a jump start and have a long term plan for exercise and not overeating.

And fyi lots of overeating and impulse eat IS anxiety.

So both of you need to stop over-drinking and/or over-eating.

[Anonymous]

I am the only child. And the fat one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It feels really unfair to be the fat sibling. Between the two of us there isn't much difference in activity or what we eat. The skinny sibling has uncontrolled anxiety that is very severe despite medication. At one point was drinking 24 beers a day and losing weight. Now, sober, has gained maybe 10 pounds but still resembles a method addict compared to me.

Stop being jealous op. Your sister has enough issues as it is.

When you say there is not much difference, understand that if your daily calorie difference between diet and exercise is 100 calories per day, that translates to 10 lb per year. Over the years it can translate to lots and lots of pounds

100*365/3500

[Anonymous]

I am totally the fat sibling. Been fat all my life. I still exercise, eat healthy, but I am still size 12. My sisters were size 0 and 2. Until they weren't. Then I had my fun.