Coparenting App Recommendations

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone explain why not just send a text message? Text hold up court, they last forever if you enable it, they have time stamps, you set when it alerts you, shared calendar, etc? Why use an app?

Because it's easier to have everything in one place. A log of all calls between me and him or kid and him, a log of all messages, a record of when bills were paid, a calendar.

Because I can log the kids in and out so they can place and receive phone calls.

Because it keeps all the things I want to share, separate from things I don't want to share.

Because I can give access to the app to my attorney or someone else who is helping me, without it being muddied with other communications.

Because it reduces the time it takes my attorney to organize things and prepare for court, and he charges me by the minute.

All this. It's not "ghetto" and it's not just if you're poor but I guess you'd consider fed salaries "poor." It's easy for the person who pays the most because you just put it into the app whenever you make a purchase and easy for the other person to get the itemized list that has a running total.

I think you are doing it stupid. That’s all.

[Anonymous]

No, we just text. My ex is an ok guy on the level of someone I know and interact with in a surface way. Just not to live in the same house and be married to. He wants to spend more on random sports nonsense for our kid than I do, but given that he is generally willing to do extra pickups/overnights if I have to work or travel, I just agree to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, we just text. My ex is an ok guy on the level of someone I know and interact with in a surface way. Just not to live in the same house and be married to. He wants to spend more on random sports nonsense for our kid than I do, but given that he is generally willing to do extra pickups/overnights if I have to work or travel, I just agree to it.

I feel this. Text is fine but it keeps up the relationship. I think marriage divorce with kids is the wackiest relationship. I found a way to make it work with dignity and peace.

If you are still working, you should probably get off this and all message boards. They be crazy out there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, we just text. My ex is an ok guy on the level of someone I know and interact with in a surface way. Just not to live in the same house and be married to. He wants to spend more on random sports nonsense for our kid than I do, but given that he is generally willing to do extra pickups/overnights if I have to work or travel, I just agree to it.

I sad yes to every helping hand. It works great. Def more than 5o percent silliness. It’s the return to baseline concept. Its the Professionals in the industry that really talk you out of common sense

[Anonymous]

definition to a term used (one definition)

Here is my addition to the below. You can’t judge people by their mid life curriers. Those can last upwards of five years, in my experience


Firstly, a person's baseline personality is how they tend to behave most of the time. Secondly, we should measure how far someone moves away from their baseline, depending on circumstance (personality variability). Some people change their behaviour a lot, which makes it harder to predict how they will behave.

[Anonymous]

ie. If man/woman was good father/ mother / provider / caregiver for 10 years. They will return to that state eventually

Divorce Lawyers will lead you to the opposite conclusion and sour human relationships. For various reasons

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ie. If man/woman was good father/ mother / provider / caregiver for 10 years. They will return to that state eventually

Divorce Lawyers will lead you to the opposite conclusion and sour human relationships. For various reasons

That sounds good, to say that one day he or she will be back to themselves, but the reality is that kids need parenting continuous. It's not something you can drop for 5 years and come back to and not expect serious fall out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ie. If man/woman was good father/ mother / provider / caregiver for 10 years. They will return to that state eventually

Divorce Lawyers will lead you to the opposite conclusion and sour human relationships. For various reasons

That sounds good, to say that one day he or she will be back to themselves, but the reality is that kids need parenting continuous. It's not something you can drop for 5 years and come back to and not expect serious fall out.

You missed the point
You pick up the slack duh mama
always does that

Just doing “burn everything” and all bridges on the way out Too much to explain to you in this space

[Anonymous]

~Just don’t ~

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:ie. If man/woman was good father/ mother / provider / caregiver for 10 years. They will return to that state eventually

Divorce Lawyers will lead you to the opposite conclusion and sour human relationships. For various reasons

That sounds good, to say that one day he or she will be back to themselves, but the reality is that kids need parenting continuous. It's not something you can drop for 5 years and come back to and not expect serious fall out.

You missed the point
You pick up the slack duh mama
always does that

Just doing “burn everything” and all bridges on the way out Too much to explain to you in this space

How is asking someone to communicate through an app "burning all bridges"?

You seem to be saying that if someone becomes verbally abusive, or stops meeting their financial obligations, or stops meeting their parental responsibilities, that the other parent (who you assume is female) should just pick up the slack, and not look for ways to protect themselves from verbal abuse, or to get their kids the financial support they deserve, or to communicate clearly. You also seem to be saying that asking someone to use an app is somehow worse than being abusive or evading responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

Ok. well… you are easy to talk to and good at interpreting things. You’ll do fine